Li Ka-shing once said: "To do things, we must find reliable people, and smart people can only chat."
When you think about it, it is.
Smart people have many ways to do things, but they are always afraid that he is too smart;
Reliable people, perhaps not as flexible as smart people, are very reassuring.
As Buffett said, "Reliability is a more important quality than intelligence." ”
Smart people may easily gain the favor of others and get the approval of others.
Reliable people will gain the trust of others and make people willing to continue to associate with them.
The so-called reliability is basically that everything is explained and responded to.
Truly reliable people understand the importance of "accounting".
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If you have an explanation for your friends, you can get along for a long time
Xiaoxiao is recently alienating her friend Tintin, whom she has known for 6 years.
Under careful questioning, it turned out that Tintin was unemployed at home some time ago, and Tuo Xiaoxiao helped find a job. Just when XiaoXiao knew the customer's company in the recruitment of foreign trade business, Xiaoxiao told Tintin about the relevant welfare benefits, and Tintin was very interested in it. So Xiaoxiao recommended her resume to the customer, the customer was also very satisfied with Tintin's conditions, so he arranged to follow up with the personnel, Xiaoxiao happily let Tintin and other other parties contact.
Unexpectedly, after a few days, after visiting the customer, Xiaoxiao asked whether the person recommended by the customer was appropriate, but the customer said that his personnel manager called Tintin and no one answered, and finally shut down, asking Xiaoxiao if he knew what was going on? It was very embarrassing to her.
After leaving the customer, Xiaoxiao WeChat asked Tintin what was going on. Who knew that Tintin just replied lightly: "I plan to rest for a while and then go to find a job, too lazy to answer the phone to explain, so I adjusted the flight mode", and Xiao Xiao was half dead.
There is no doubt that friends should help each other, after getting the help of friends, gratitude can be remembered in the heart without words, but there is another plan in the heart but do not know that friends, let friends run around for you, but it is not a sincere way to make friends.
Liu Tong once wrote in "One Person is One Person": "If you want to make a friend seriously, you must take a very serious attitude."
Put your friends in your heart, whether it is big or small, accept or reject, and respond to your friends seriously, friendship can be long-lasting.
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If you have an explanation to your partner, the relationship is sweet
Some time ago, the hot search of #perfectly interpreted the response to everything on Weibo, which touched many netizens.
The content is derived from a couple's chat history.
At the beginning of the chat record, it has always been a girl sending a message to the boy, the message is sent again and again, but it has not received any reply from the boy, and many netizens have begun to sympathize with the girl, thinking that she is sad and pitiful in love.
Unexpectedly, in the end, netizens collectively became lemon essence, and it turned out that the boys did not ignore the girls, but because there was no way to reply in class at that time.
After class, the boys not only carefully reviewed every message sent by the girls, but also responded with "quotes".
As netizen @Galaxy gave a sugar comment: It is precisely because he responds to everything that she wants to share everything.
Sweet and stable intimacy requires both parties to work together, and the easiest way is to respond to each other's concerns.
There is a sentence in "Love Letter to the Drawer": Between happiness and unhappiness, there is often only one simplest explanation.
When going out, simply report the whereabouts, explain the reason when you return late, respond to the things that your partner cares about, and give your partner enough security to give your partner enough security, so that the relationship between the two can always be sweet and sweet.
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With an account of yourself, life is complete
Erich Fromm once said that the reason why man is unable to decide for himself may not be that he cannot hear the voice of his inner desire, but that he is afraid of the state of freedom after choice.
For once he has chosen to be free, he must assume the responsibility and ethics of having attained freedom, and must account for his own choices.
Most people who are afraid to pursue the love of their hearts are unable to overcome the suffering on the road of pursuit.
In the documentary "Piping Hot Life", Li Yulu, who was born in a medical family, in order not to disappoint his parents, chose to study medicine in college, studied for 10 years, and was admitted to the career establishment of the hospital, in the eyes of outsiders he is an envied example, but he is not happy to work every day.
Because in his heart, he has always preferred humanities and arts. In order to leave no regrets for himself, he prepared an interprofessional examination without his parents during his tenure as a doctor.
After two failed examinations, when he first applied for the major for the third preparation in 2020, his classmates from the same school advised him to make plans not to pass the examination, but he still did not give up. Insist on driving three hours a day to and from the hospital and study room to work, and use red light time to read words while driving.
Li Yulu once felt that his body and spirit were difficult to support, but he always gritted his teeth and persevered, and finally successfully landed on the shore and was admitted to his favorite radio and television major.
As Li Yulu said: "Don't perfunctory yourself, don't perfunctory life." ”
Wasting time will only make yourself muddy, and you can work hard to catch what you like.
Only by explaining to ourselves can we be responsible for our own lives; without leaving regrets for ourselves, our lives will be complete.
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Take the initiative to explain things related to friends, and don't let friends be tired;
Patiently respond to reports of what lovers care about, and don't let your partner guess;
Don't take the things you love seriously, don't let yourself regret it.
Don't be too tired of saying more trouble, and don't worry about doing more to get involved;
As Lu Sihao wrote in "Unreliable and Very Stable": When you hesitate, the world is big; when you bravely take the first step, the world is very small.
When you learn to explain something in your life, you will find that life is so easy and comfortable.
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Author: Lin Mumu, rational thinking, childlike life.