01
When it comes to men's face problems, most people will think that it is machismo, strong, and loves to show off.
Many people have fallen into this misunderstanding, so loving face has become a derogatory term.
But in fact, the real face is not vanity, but the respect and approval of others.
It's just that there are not many people around us who can understand this truth, most people are still willing to earn three thousand yuan a month, but they are willing to use more than ten thousand yuan of mobile phones, in their eyes, face is not how much to earn, but how much to spend.
But they don't know that in the eyes of others, they are just a joke.
02
Xiaoxiao's family is not well-off, she dropped out of school to help her family farm at a very young age, and when she became an adult, she was arranged by the family to go on a blind date, although Xiaoxiao was unwilling, but her fate could not be in her own hands, and she could only obediently listen to her parents.
Although Xiaoxiao has no culture, but the person is good, also well-behaved and sensible, there are many people who like her, parents pick and choose, finally picked one they are satisfied, they married Xiaoxiao.
Xiaoxiao's in-laws are relatively wealthy in the town, the father-in-law is the leader of the government department, the husband also has a poor half-job in the state-owned enterprise, it is reasonable to say that such a family does not look up to Xiaoxiao, but Xiaoxiao's husband is famous for loving and provoking, and no one is willing to marry, so he reluctantly married Xiaoxiao.
Naturally, Xiao Xiao was not very popular with her husband's family when she married.
Fortunately, the in-laws helped Xiaoxiao find a job, and she couldn't see her family for long all day, and Xiaoxiao's life was not bad.
Xiaoxiao's husband loves to play, loves face, has a big temper, often stays up all night, although it is sent to the fence, but Xiaoxiao is also a stubborn temper, although there is no affection for her husband, but she also has to have a way of life, so in the first few months of marriage, I often see Xiaoxiao going to various bars at night to find her husband.
For Xiaoxiao's behavior, the husband is very disgusted, because these things have not quarreled with Xiaoxiao, even to the point of divorce, fortunately, in this matter, Xiaoxiao's in-laws also feel that their son is not doing the right thing, so as not to make irreparable trouble.
Later, XiaoXiao's mother also learned about Xiaoxiao's situation and persuaded her daughter to make a call: "This man, you should still be coaxed, you quarrel every day, where can you deal with feelings, how can you live this day, men love face, you argue in front of people's friends every day, no one can stand it!" ”
Xiaoxiao also felt that what her mother said was reasonable, since the days were going to go on, there was always a need for someone to compromise, so since then, Xiaoxiao was like a changed person, began to manage the housework, even if her husband did something that was difficult for her to accept, she would also be moved, and she would be reasonable.
Xiaoxiao's change, the husband also saw in his eyes, and the relationship between the two people also eased up a lot.
Once, the husband asked a friend to come to the house for a party, Xiaoxiao carefully arranged everything, was well-behaved and sensible at the party, and gave her husband enough face, which made her husband's appreciation of Xiaoxiao even better.
After all, the love that can be exchanged for flattery is not real love, and Xiaoxiao has become a tool for her husband step by step.
"Come to my house tonight, my daughter-in-law will cook for you, then my daughter-in-law's craftsmanship is more than a hundred times stronger than those chefs outside." For the sake of her husband's promises, Xiaoxiao practiced cooking day and night, afraid that her husband would lose face in front of outsiders.
"My daughter-in-law's alcohol intake is good, and this case of beer is not a problem." The husband casually said that Xiaoxiao had to drink the whole table of wine, otherwise how could the husband raise his head in front of his friends, although before marriage, Xiaoxiao did not drink.
I thought that life would go on like this, but suddenly one day, Xiaoxiao found out that she was pregnant. This matter can make the in-laws happy and broken, and specially told their son to take good care of Xiaoxiao.
For this child, Xiaoxiao is still very concerned, she knows that her husband and her feelings are not stable, maybe when the child is born, they can accompany the child together, so that the relationship can get better and better.
And since Xiaoxiao has children, her husband is indeed not as playful as before, although he still goes out every three to five, but it is already much better than before, Xiaoxiao feels that everything is developing in a good direction.
But the country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to move, many times, it is the beauty of thinking, but the reality will only snap in the face.
This year's year is particularly cold, Xiaoxiao is pregnant for more than three months, the most need to rest, just when the company is also on holiday, Xiaoxiao also has enough time to have a fetus at home.
But the husband's family has customs, the New Year will have a lot of relatives to come to the home as a guest, as a new daughter-in-law, the first year is to be sure to entertain relatives, originally the in-laws felt that Xiaoxiao was pregnant, this etiquette will be exempted, but the husband insisted on Xiaoxiao to entertain, and finally he could not help the husband, agreed to the husband's request.
Originally thought that only four or five relatives came, who knew this, actually came fifteen, Xiaoxiao began to prepare meals from the early morning, until more than ten o'clock in the evening, everyone finished eating, there was time to rest.
The relatives who came all praised Xiaoxiao, the new daughter-in-law, as beautiful and decent, made a good dish, and also wrapped a big red envelope for Xiaoxiao, and the in-laws and husbands were also very satisfied, but Xiaoxiao, who was tired for a day, felt that he was not very good, his stomach hurt badly, and when he was sent to the hospital, the child was gone.
This was a big blow to Xiaoxiao, she felt that her husband was deliberate, he didn't want the child, he didn't love himself, so he never cared about himself and the child.
"I really don't care about children, I'm just for face, I don't know things will turn out like this." 」 Depending on how her husband explained it, Xiaoxiao was unwilling to forgive him.
"Didn't you already want a divorce?" Okay, leave, no one will ever take care of you again! ”
03
Once the heart is broken, it is difficult to recover, if you love, please cherish, if you do not love, please let go as soon as possible.
First: Mature men only want face when they need it.
Yi Shu said: Face is the most difficult for a person to put down, but also the most useless thing, the more you care about it, it will become heavier, the more difficult it is for you to walk.
But even if they know that face is useless, many people still take face as their lifelong desire for the sake of those so-called vanities.
Wherever we are, we are always swayed by the problem of face.
As far as buying things is concerned, I obviously don't like it, useless things, because a friend's sentence this thing looks high-end, and you are very compatible, so I buy it for face.
At the wine table, often because of other people's words "do not drink, do not give face", they will drink their own drunkenness into mud.
Others ask you to do things, obviously you can't do it, or like to agree, and then ask people to do things in all difficulty, just for fear that others will know that you can't do it and lose face.
There are countless examples of face, but with this face, is it really not tired?
For men, there are more important things than face, whether it is family or career, it is higher than the existence of face.
If a person's heart is full, he will not be swayed by face, nor will he take face very seriously, because they know that face is earned by themselves, not given by others, as long as they have the ability, face will naturally come, and if they are not capable, the face given by others is only superficial.
Second: In marriage, women must learn to protect themselves.
In marriage, women often pay a lot more than men, but often the person who wants to keep at all costs is the one who hurts themselves the most.
Many married couples do not have too deep feelings, but they are married, and their lives have to go on, so most of them are accommodated by one party to the other.
If there is no feeling, naturally they will not care about each other, if the two do not care about each other, it is enough, the most feared thing is that one party pays, but does not get a response.
Like Xiaoxiao in the above article, although she does not love her husband, she still marries chickens and dogs with chickens, and wants to live a good life, so she blindly accommodates her husband, but her husband never cares about her, but only uses her as a tool to win face, although in the end her husband also knows that what he did is wrong, but everything is irreparable.
Therefore, in marriage, women must first protect themselves, for the unreasonable demands of the in-laws and husbands, they must know how to refuse, the body is their own, only they can be responsible for themselves, for the unworthy people hurt themselves, it is really not worth it.
Moreover, marriage itself is also for the purpose of choosing a person to accompany a lifetime, if the three views are different, it is better to leave as soon as possible, do not hurt others and hurt yourself in the end, and end up in an irreparable situation.
Text/No Pen