Wen | Sui'an (Author of Fushu)
Feng Zikai said: Most of the people who are easily provoked are the weak, and the weak will be strong, and the strong often know how to show weakness.
The truly strong will never be provoked by trivialities, and will never be strong on things that cannot be changed.
When encountering things, know how to show weakness; when things are not going well, self-precipitation; when dealing with things, be humble and treat others.
The best way for adults to do things is to restrain themselves.
When things go wrong, restrain your temper
Nietzsche said: The method of true freedom is first and foremost to learn self-control. If the emotion is always out of control, it will be led by the emotion, and thus lose freedom.
Remember the incident that caused netizens to discuss "Heilongjiang taxi driver died after a verbal altercation with others"?
In the video, the taxi driver is unconscious in the driver's seat. The female passenger in the back seat shook the driver in panic, and her voice trembled and shouted: "You're all right, you can't do it, scared me to death." ”
It is understood that because the other car scratched the window of the taxi, the driver was full of anger, argued with the other party, and quarreled.
Subsequently, the driver suddenly stopped, unconscious, and died when he was taken to the hospital due to a sudden illness and ineffective rescue.
It is often said that impulse is the devil.
Yes, when a person is angry, it is easy to lose his mind, do irreparable things, and finally gain more than he loses, and suffer for a lifetime.
I have seen such a story on Douyin.
On its way home, a snake accidentally struck its body by a saw on the side of the road.
It was angry, and in retaliation the snake bit the saw.
As a result, the saw was not damaged at all, but injured its own mouth.
In a fit of rage, the snake wrapped its entire body tightly around the saw.
In the end, the saw did not take any damage, but sawed himself to death.
After reading the story, do you also think that snakes are stupid? Obviously, he was hurt once, and he knew the power of the saw, but he still had to entangle it to the end and beg for food.
Looking at ourselves, why not?
I know that anger is not good for the body, but I still can't control my anger, until I am angry and damage the body, and I can't regret it.
No one in this world can control your emotions except yourself.
Stupid people are easy to be led by emotions and make wrong choices when encountering things; smart people, when encountering things, will not be swayed by emotions and will deal with problems with a peaceful heart.
In life, knowing how to restrain one's temper, control emotions, and cultivate one's self-cultivation is an ability, and it is also a person's rare wisdom in life.
When things don't go well, curb the resentment in your heart
I like a saying: Life is like a mirror, how you treat it, it will treat you.
I agree.
If you are optimistic, life is full of sunshine; if you are pessimistic, life is full of abysses.
The Old Man and the Sea is the work of the famous writer Ernest Hemingway. This book tells the inspirational story of a mermaid battle.
The protagonist, Santiago, is an old, thin fisherman who has not caught a single fish in 84 days. The fishermen around him laughed at him, laughing at his patched sail, like a defeated flag, disgusted with his obscurity.
The old man didn't care what other people said. Instead, he teased with the little boy Manolin: "Do you think I should buy a lottery ticket with a tail of eighty-five?" Tomorrow is the 85th day. ”
On the 85th day, before dawn, the old man went out to sea alone with the bait and food prepared by the little boy in advance.
At sea, after a morning of patient waiting, he finally caught a large marlin about 5.5 meters long.
The marlin was very strong, dragging the old man and the fishing boat to the deep sea. The old man was weak and his hands were scarred by fishing lines.
After three days and two nights of stalemate and confrontation, in the early morning of the third day, the big fish finally surfaced, the old man found the opportunity, used all his strength, inserted the harpoon into its heart, and finally, the big fish no longer struggled.
I thought that after defeating the big fish, I could breathe a sigh of relief, but I didn't expect that the blood of the big fish stained the entire sea red, causing the shark to besiege and bite.
At this time, he was exhausted. He thought about giving up, but when he was about to give up, he gritted his teeth and persevered.
After several hours of fighting, the shark was finally repelled and the final victory was achieved. Although the flesh of the big fish was torn apart by the sharks, there was little left. But he was not discouraged, he felt that as long as the ship was still there, there was hope.
Finally, he sailed the ship to the harbor, dragged his exhausted body home, lay on the bed, and fell into a deep sleep.
Life is a long road, it is impossible for everything to prosper, smooth sailing, there will always be unsatisfactory moments.
In the face of all kinds of difficulties in life, instead of complaining about others and self-pity, it is better to cultivate obscurity and calm down to precipitate yourself.
Life is alive, but in just over 20,000 days, if you complain about everything, how much time will you waste for us?
Truly mature people, when things are not going well, know how to curb the resentment in their hearts. Only by putting away the resentment in the heart and filling the heart with warmth is the best way for adults to enhance their happiness.
When dealing with things, restrain the sharp edge of being a person
Zeng Guofan once said: "Those who are victorious will have no place to win, and those who can overcome will not be victorious." ”
This means that people who like to be competitive must have no superior ability, on the contrary, only people who are truly capable will never show off themselves everywhere.
Zeng Guofan was a famous courtier in the late Qing Dynasty, and he had deep achievements in military, political and literary fields. He was low-key and introverted in his dealings with people, and was respected by posterity as "the first perfect person in the world".
But in the early years of Zeng Guofan, he was young and crazy, proud and complacent.
When Zeng Guofan was an official in Beijing, he once wrote in a letter to his brothers: "I hate that there is no Han Changli and Su and Huang generations in the world, but I can talk to those who are crazy with me." ”
Meaning: In today's world, there are no people like Han Yu, Su Shi, and Huang Tingjian who really understand poetry, and no one can appreciate my creations and theories.
It is enough to see how arrogant and arrogant Zeng Guofan was at that time, and he was proud of his achievements, so he also offended many people and ran into walls everywhere in the official arena.
With the growth of experience, Zeng Guofan gradually understood: "Virtue is lost by fullness, and happiness is reduced by pride." "Pride and complacency can damage people's morality and happiness, and it is a taboo for people to live in the world."
Since then, he has changed his previous attitude towards things, treated people with modesty and courtesy, and did not show his sharpness.
This major change in his had a great impact on his future career development. After that, he rose through the ranks in the official arena and rose all the way, rising seven levels in a row over a period of ten years, and finally being made a marquis.
I once read such a passage on the Internet:
When you mix well, be modest and cautious, don't flaunt, provoke jealousy, the light is that someone wants to take advantage of you, and the heavy is someone stabbing you in the back.
Deeply. In this society, everyone wants you to be good, but they don't want you to be better off than themselves.
When you're at work and you're getting a little bit of success, don't be proud and flaunt around, because the balloon blows too big and explodes easily.
Those who are truly capable never show off their eyes and go around; only those who have no ability show off and boast every day.
The best way to deal with things between people, to converge on the sharp edge of being a person, and to cultivate a humble heart is the wisest way for a person to survive based on society.
A person's true strength begins with converging on oneself.
Curbing one's temper is the wisdom of self-cultivation;
Converging the resentment in the heart is the realm of Taoguang and obscurity;
Converging on the sharp edge of being a man is the pattern of those in high positions.
When people live to a certain age, they must eventually learn to restrain themselves, so that it is the greatest wisdom of adults.
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