Strictly speaking, "Little MinJia" has no villains and belongs to the "Everyone is Normal" series.
However, some people who look normal on the surface are actually doing things that are infuriating. Some time ago, there was a hot search for "Yang Di's mother was angry with Jin Bo to eat the Getaway Pill", and countless people in the bullet screen said that Jin Bo would abandon the drama if he did not go offline.
Jin Bo's qi is bright and dangling, not hidden, and can be distinguished by individuals. Xu Zheng's anger, that is what makes people half-believe, there are words of suffering, and even the temper cannot be sent.
Xu is Xiaomin's sister Xiao Jie's boyfriend, Xiao Jie's first husband is Ma Baonan, after the divorce met Xu Zheng, this man is young and handsome, or a rich second generation, the key is super good for Xiao Jie.
So Xiao Jie came again to cut first and then play, did not consult with his mother and sister, and directly got a license with Xu Zheng.
Xu Zheng's goodness to Xiao Jie is obvious to all, sending gifts at both ends of the three days to invite dinner, and picking her up at the company to pick her up from work and bring flowers. Anyway, Xiao Jie became the envy of the whole company.
But the audience also saw that Xu Zheng has been PUA Xiaojie, which is really good for her, but in the long run, Xiaojie must be more and more miserable in the end, and even everyone sees the possibility of domestic violence.
Every time I write an article about PUA, readers always ask what is the situation of PUA.
Xu Zheng is actually quite obvious, saying that he is intentional or unintentional, in short, there are pits everywhere in the sugar-coated shells.
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Restrict each other's normal dating and work
After Xu Zheng and Xiao Jie were together, they did not allow Xiao Jie to communicate with Qian Feng. In fact, this can be understood, after all, Qian Feng has been secretly in love with Xiao Jie for ten years, and he almost confessed, which is a time bomb in the relationship between the two people.
But Xiao Jie and his nephew are also jealous, Xiao Jie and his old classmates party, he wants to ask if there are male classmates, Xiao Jie because of work reasons and male author contact, he said can you only contact female authors in the future.
This is a bit of a super-program.
If you can't reach men normally, you will find yourself restricted everywhere.
In the latest plot, the editor-in-chief entrusted several male authors to Xiao Jie, which is a very good opportunity, but Xiao Jie has all kinds of concerns, and other classmates also ridicule her, saying that your family Xu Zheng will definitely be jealous.
Xiao Jie is worried that Xu Zheng is jealous, and he still wants to get rid of this job, if it is not for the editor-in-chief who is optimistic about her, it is estimated that there is no hope for promotion.
If even normal dating and work are affected because of a boyfriend, no matter how good the boyfriend is for you, it is not a good choice.
You can't lose even your freedom because of love.
What's even more frightening is that once the other party restricts your normal dating and work, you will have all kinds of concerns, and if you accidentally violate it one day, he will morally kidnap you, accuse you of not keeping your word, and disregard his feelings.
At this time, you may wonder if you are really doing it wrong.
It's not you who's wrong, it's the unreasonable demands of the other party.
Therefore, when the other party makes unreasonable demands, it is not necessary to agree at all, no matter how grandiose he says.
In the face of Xu Zheng's jealousy, Xiao Jie felt that Xu Zheng loved her and cared about her, which is why it was like this. It may be true that loving her cares about her, but love is not a reason to make unreasonable demands.
If because a person loves you, you can do whatever you want, you can become tied hands, then love is a terrible thing.
Such love, don't do it.
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Saying good things always changes
Xu Zheng told Xiao Jie's mother that after the parents of the two sides met, they would talk about the marriage of the two people.
But as soon as he turned around, he and Xiao Jie took the certificate.
The mother-in-law was so angry that she felt that this child was too unreliable, obviously said it well, and now suddenly got the certificate.
Xu Zheng has a very good set of words, what is too much love Xiaojie, I want to get a certificate earlier. If you have to get a certificate sooner or later, it is better to get it early.
Xiao Jie foolishly believed it all, did not feel that there was a problem, and was angry with his mother, thinking that the certificate had been received, why was her mother not happy, and had to teach her a lesson with a straight face.
Such a big thing, obviously has been said well, but temporarily changed, if it is not in the name of love, everyone will feel that this person is unreliable.
In the matter of having a child, Xu Zheng is also always changing.
He knew that Xiao Jie was going to be a Dink, and he agreed with his mouth, but he always urged him to be born every three or five times, in various obscure ways.
It shows that he only has himself in his heart, only considers his own gains and losses, as long as he is beneficial to himself, he agrees with his mouth, and then changes his mind later.
This kind of person is the most terrible, because listening to him, you will feel that he is really good, everything is for your sake, and he agrees to anything you say.
But in reality, he just creates an illusion of identifying with you, makes you let your guard down, and then brainwashes you in various ways to make you accept his rules.
Therefore, don't feel that the other party's compliance with everything is to love you, if he does not follow to the end, always change in a few days, you must be extra vigilant.
Most importantly, you don't change your mind, just insist on saying good, so that you can see his true face.
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If you are not satisfied, you will be cold and violent
Xu Zheng's point is also obvious, as long as Xiao Jie does not do what he asks, or does not do what he imagines, he will hang his emotions on his face.
Xiao Jie wears less, he is not happy, Xiao Jie is promoted, he is not happy, anyway, you never know which thing will make him unhappy.
Repeating this several times, Xiao Jie would be cautious in front of him, always worried about what he had done wrong. Some things are obviously true, but seeing him so unhappy, he will also think that he has done something wrong.
Sweet words and cold violence are xu zheng's means, and the purpose is to make Xiao Jie obedient.
In addition to cold violence, Xu Zheng also has real violence.
Because Qian Feng hugged Xiao Jie when taking the photo, Xu Zheng directly rear-ended the car of the people, and his speech was particularly rushed.
These emotional disorders, whether they are pretended or what they are, are very frightening.
A person always puts emotions on his face, in fact, it is a way of coercion, I have no way to convince you, then I will use emotions to oppress you.
Because most people don't want the other person to be angry, they will really compromise because the other person is angry.
Mature relationship, is that you can be angry, but no matter how angry you are, things should be as they should be, and I will not be angry with you, I will give up the principle and do as you say.
Unfortunately, most people do not have such concentration, so it is better to stay away from this kind of person who always uses cold violence.
Many people in the barrage were envious, saying that Xu Zheng was really good to Xiao Jie. The reason why PUA is not easy to be detected is because the other party will not directly coerce you, but make demands while being good to you, so that you mistakenly think that this is all a "love request".
Many people covet this love and accept other injustices by the way.
If you want to be anti-PUA, just remember one thing: if this person's love does not make you better, but makes you cautious and afraid, then don't want it.
Love makes people good, not bad.
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