Reader Stories:
At the age of thirty, the reader ended a marriage that began with a red face and a red eye at the end.
I remember that in the beginning, the husband also said that he should love himself well and be good to himself for a lifetime, and the reader also believes that the husband will not live up to his expectations and can give himself the happiness he wants.
However, I don't know when it began, and my husband's love for himself was reduced.
I remember that day, the reader just bought a pound of cherries, at that time the cherries were not too expensive, thirty dollars a pound, but it cost thirty-two dollars.
However, the husband knew, and said that the reader was a loser, not knowing how hard it was to earn money.
The reader is very confused, married to a man for so many years, I have been living with him wholeheartedly, I am reluctant to eat or wear, today I just spent thirty yuan, I was said to be like this.
Is it true that the husband feels that he has been unwilling to spend money, and he really does not deserve to spend money?
Even if you can't achieve your favorite food, how can you talk about being good to yourself, what is the meaning of such a marriage?
Therefore, the reader chooses divorce, she does not want to live this kind of sniffling day, she has to meet her own needs through her own efforts.
The experience of this divorced woman tells you that "men are not willing to spend money for you for only one reason", and that is that this man does not love you enough, it is as simple as that.
Because I don't love enough, I feel that you don't deserve to let him pay
Lin Qingkun in the TV series "Perfect Partner" is particularly harsh on his wife, when her wife was pregnant, he did not ask a word, and did not express a single concern.
When his wife had an accidental miscarriage, Lin Qingkun did not say a word of distress, but instead blamed his wife for being such a big person and not knowing how to take care of herself.
Is this by his nature?
Of course not, when colleagues in the same company are sad because of things at work, Lin Qingkun is more anxious than anyone, more distressed than anyone.
He's not cold, he just doesn't love his wife.
In daily life, this is also the case.
A man is reluctant to spend money for you, not because he doesn't earn enough, not because he's frugal, but because he doesn't love you enough, or in his heart, you don't meet the standard value that makes him pay.
The Selfish Gene mentions: "Selfishness is the innate gene of every human being. All relations are essentially exchanges of value; without exchange of values, there is no relationship. ”
The man who loves you, who earns less and is willing to spend it for you, is the attitude problem.
If you don't love, you won't give.
If you really love you, how can you be stingy with giving?
When the man in the TV series "A Piece of Wood" first began to pursue Luo Yan, he was particularly willing to spend time.
After getting it, he became particularly miserly, unwilling to spend time talking to Luo Yan anymore, and even Luo Yan took the initiative to find him and ignored it.
This is because when people do not get a person, they are driven by the fact that something has not yet been completed.
After getting it, this thing is completed, it will become the past tense, the end has been determined, and naturally it will no longer spend thoughts and energy to maintain this relationship.
As the Merchant of Venice says, "For many things in the world, the pleasure of pursuing the time is always stronger than the pleasure of enjoying the time."
After entering marriage, men will feel that the dust of feelings has settled, and they have already eaten women, so they are too lazy to pay.
All these signs show that men don't love women that much.
Because true love must end from one end, even if the initial romance is missing later, but love is always there and does not change over time.
Men who are not willing to pay are not worth our perseverance
Yu Qiuyu said: "Love is equal, you can give more, you can also love him more, but it is by no means compromise, will, tolerance." ”
Love in marriage is naturally paid in both directions, that is, what a person does, must be equal to the feedback of others, love is a thing that needs to follow the balance of supply and demand.
If a relationship is only in and out, we have given a lot but can not see a little return, then such a marriage is meaningless to us.
The men who give us money are not necessarily better than us, but the men who are not willing to give us money must not love us, women should remember this truth, do not feel that men do not give us and whitewash into true love.
When marriage makes us feel meaningless, stop blindly insisting, it is just a waste of our emotions and emotions, it is not worth it.
At this time, what we need to do is stop loss in time and leave the wrong person.
In a relationship, when we can afford to take it and put it down, we will not be swayed by an unworthy person and lead our noses away.
As long as we maintain self-confidence and adjust our mentality, we will definitely find our own and beautiful love in the days to come.