We will pass by thousands of people in our lives, and then because of a moment's look back, we meet the person who was destined.
At this time, we will have the feeling of seeing each other and hating each other, and we feel that if we know each other earlier, it would be better so that we can participate more in each other's lives.
As a result, some words that are usually embarrassed to say will become bolder at this moment, such as "I like you so much", such as "I love you" and so on.
When men express emotions, no woman has talent, but they will also say some sweet love words under the impetus of some situations, but sometimes love words and feelings are not 100% linked.
There is only one reason why a man says he loves you, but he doesn't take the initiative, that is, he doesn't love you so much, or he just talks about loving you.
Not loving you, just talking
When the boys in the TV series "A Piece of Wood" saw Luo Yan, they felt that their fate had arrived.
Therefore, he launched a pursuit, as long as the class will come to Luo Yan, make her happy, send her fruit, and finally let the classmates help, publicly confess to Luo Yan.
The boy said that he loved Luo Yan and would be good to Luo Yan for a lifetime, and Luo Yan could not stand the other party's sugar-coated shells, and finally agreed to be his girlfriend.
It's just that all the initiative and enthusiasm change subtly after the relationship is determined.
When the class was over, the boys stopped coming to luo yan;
There was no more delicious fruit on Luo Yan's desk;
Even if Luo Yan took the initiative to send a message to the boy, the other party also ignored it, or was indifferent.
This feeling is like we review in high school to cope with the exam, except that who will review after the exam?
But just to cope with or achieve the goal, not really love to learn, you have seen which real love of learning, will be hot and cold, not all with a warm attitude to consistent?
Therefore, those men who say they love you, but never take the initiative, because the other party does not love you so much, that's all.
Love you, how can you not take the initiative?
Liu Qi in the TV series "Beauty And Mind" likes Miaoren very much, he is the prince, when he and Miaoren met at the beginning, the other party did not know that he was a prince.
Miaoren looks very beautiful, her heart is higher than the sky, always thinking of marrying the prince, becoming a princess concubine, so as to fly up the branches and become a phoenix, so she does not know Liu Qi's identity, and she also loves to answer him.
But even so, Liu Qi still tirelessly goes to find Miaoren every day, because he loves Miaoren, so because of love, even if the other party is indifferent, he cannot resist his enthusiasm.
Schiller said: "True love is single-minded, and the field of love is very narrow, it is so narrow that it can only accommodate two people to survive; if you fall in love with several people at the same time, it cannot be called love, it is just an emotional game." ”
Because love is single-minded, those feelings are only for one person, and all enthusiasm and initiative are given to the person who loves most.
People who love you, no matter how many rivers and mountains will come to see you, people who don't love you, even if it is a step away, will not move forward a bit.
Because he doesn't love you, he will feel in his heart that anything to do for you is meaningless, and your feelings are irrelevant to him.
Men love you or not, it's actually obvious
Bai Zhantang in the TV series "The Legend of Wulin" saw Tong Xiangyu for the first time, and he felt that the only person he wanted to find in his life who could fit in with her was her.
In this regard, Bai Zhantang also said such a sentence: "When you speak, I can't leave, because my legs are soft, my back is numb, my palms are full of sweat, and I can't say a word of truth." ”
People often say that they have a long-term love, but only Bai Zhantang himself knows that he fell in love with Tong Xiangyu at first sight.
In gender relations, due to the difference in the way of thinking between men and women, many times their perspective on the problem is different, and the way they manifest themselves is also different.
But what is certain is that even if it is linear thinking, even rational thinking, men will become active when they fall in love with a woman.
The so-called slow heat, the so-called embarrassment, in fact, are not to love women, if it is really love, lest the other party does not know their own feelings, how can they let the other party suffer from loss and loss?
So, love or no love is obvious.
For us, the reason why we talk about feelings is because love can make us feel satisfied, can make us feel solid inside, feel that we are loved, and feel that we deserve better.
It's not about finding a passive man, looking for someone who doesn't love himself, and then suffering from gain and loss.
Many things, if we have but do not make us feel happy, then these things have no meaning to have.
Therefore, men who do not love themselves choose to give up, after all, letting themselves feel happy is the first meaning of life.