The TV series "Perfect Partner" tells the story of 2 families "entangled", and many netizens have only 4 words after viewing: three views are not correct.
But everyone who has seen it must have the same feeling: 2 couples, obviously care about each other, but each is "ambiguous", making people love and hate.
Based on family care
Sun Lei is a graduate student who graduated in 985, but he has always focused on his family, because his wife, Chen Shan, is a very capable lawyer.
Obviously, in their family, the person who balances family and career is not Chen Shan but Sun Lei. And Sun Lei has always kept the small family in good order.
Especially later, after Sun Lei and Chen Shan divorced, his meticulous care for Chen Shan was even more moving.
When Chen Shan returned from a business trip, Sun Lei would look forward to the time in advance, boil the water, and let Chen Shan drink hot water at a suitable temperature when she entered the door;
In addition, he also made a lot of food for Chen Shan's taste, and after doing it, everything was wrapped in plastic wrap to keep it fresh;
The most important thing is that he will also adjust the temperature of the air conditioner to ensure that the indoor temperature after Chen Shan returns home is mild and pleasant.
In this way, the exhausted Chen Shan, the first time after returning home, can drink hot and eat hot, even the touch is hot, "Tian Luo Girl" brand of Sun Lei, really too warm!
But such a Sun Lei is not the only one. Lin Qingkun's family also has such a person.
Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun returned from a business trip in the northeast, Lin Qingkun suffered from a stomach disease, plus there was no place to go, Chen Shan took him in.
After returning home, Lin Qingkun saw everything that Sun Lei had prepared for Chen Shan, and instead of envying, he sighed from the bottom of his heart: My family also has one, the "Wu Min" card, but unfortunately does not allow me to renew it!
Objectively speaking, Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun are both running around fighting for their careers, and what makes them devote themselves to their work and have no worries is precisely based on their family's care for them.
Many people ridicule Sun Lei for being too unproductive, but what woman doesn't want such a meticulous man as him?
Many people satirize Wu Min, too selfless, but her thoughtful wife, which man does not want?
Home is the harbor where everyone lives, and the warmth and care from the other half will always be the source of power for our career.
Seeing all that Sun Lei did for Chen Shan, to be honest, I really admired it!
Based on the appreciation of partners
Chen Shan is a very capable lawyer, but even so, she still suffers from the chain of gender contempt in the workplace.
Female colleagues in the same law firm once complained: Chen Shan is a lucky woman, there is a husband at home in pain, there is a general care outside, we have no one to rely on, we can only run on our own.
This is true, but it is not.
Lin Qingkun is a very demanding person, and the reason why he will protect Chen Shan is because of appreciation.
Chen Shan can not only keep up with the rhythm of Lin Qingkun's work, but more valuablely, she can always deal with the problems and difficulties encountered in the work in a timely and appropriate manner.
For Lin Qingkun, Chen Shan is not the icing on the cake, but a charcoal in the snow.
Such a compatible partner can not only help you improve your work efficiency, but also help you improve your performance, just ask such a partner, who does not want?
And for Wu Min, why isn't Sun Lei the partner who is in tune with her?
Since marrying Lin Qingkun, Wu Min has been a full-time wife, she is very capable, not only can make a good dish, but also make a variety of delicious cakes.
Like Sun Lei, Wu Min kept her and Lin Qingkun's small home comfortable and comfortable.
But the respect she wanted was given to her by Sun Lei.
Therefore, if Sun Lei had any difficulties there, Wu Min always rushed to the front line to help.
So that Sun Lei's mother did not have a good face for Wu Min, she felt that Wu Min was "too much", and Wu Min's "kindness" was indirectly provoking the marriage of Sun Lei and Chen Shan.
And Lin Qingkun's impatience with Wu Min and preferential treatment of Chen Shan, as well as Chen Shan's care for Lin Qingkun, also made Wu Min and Sun Lei "have words of suffering.".
The "crossing the line" behavior of "above friendship" shown by the 4 of them makes many netizens feel "too ambiguous", very uncomfortable, and even extremely annoying.
What leads to all this "disconnection of behavior" is nothing more than human nature.
Anatomy based on human nature
After Lin Qingkun and Wu Min divorced, they were once very puzzled: they were all good before, when did he and Wu Min become like this?
After Chen Shan divorced Sun Lei, she issued a similar sigh: It was not like this before, why did Sun Lei and I become like this?
In the final analysis, it is only human nature that is "making ghosts".
Full-time wife Wu Min, what she needs is not endless money, but respect from Lin Qingkun. However, the respect she needed most was given to her by Sun Lei.
In Wu Min's most vulnerable link, Sun Lei is her "bright light", so her perception of Sun Lei is naturally different from others.
Sun Lei, who is extremely concerned about his family, feels that his career is not as important as his family, so in his career, he has to get by, has no enterprising spirit, and is not willing to sacrifice his family and health to make money desperately, he feels that it is not worth it.
From this point of view, Sun Lei and Wu Min are actually "the same kind".
Chen Shan did not think so, she hoped that Sun Lei could make achievements in his professional field, rather than doing nothing. Just like Chen Shan likes to fight for her career, this sense of accomplishment makes her have momentum and vitality.
Similarly, for Lin Qingkun, he feels that only by working hard to make money can Wu Min live as he pleases, he fights for his career, but also the future of the family.
I have to say that Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun are "the same".
Work is essential to them, like breathing.
Like-minded people will always appreciate each other and attract each other.
Sun Lei and Wu Min did the same; so did Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun.
However, if they do not keep the "boundary", they will give people an illusion of "ambiguity".
And this kind of "ambiguity" is difficult to accept, and even very annoying.
In any intimate relationship, we want to be a "special" presence for our significant other.
Once we give this "special" to someone other than our partner, the intimate relationship will completely "taste".
The "bystanders" who see this scene will naturally have disgusted emotions about this behavior based on human nature.
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It is said that drama is like life, so where should we theater viewers go?
Sun Lei and Wu Min, for the other half's thoughtfulness and meticulousness, we have to learn;
There are 4 of them, out of normal social distancing "excessive kindness, care and preferential treatment", we should take this as a warning.
Especially that "special", we must be cautious, remember: only for the people in front of you!