Introduction: After a woman gets married or has a child, should she work hard in the workplace or take the baby at home full-time? Is it the iron rule in married life that "the male lord is outside the female lead"? When you have children, whether you return to the workplace or return to the family, meeting some conditions is a necessary element of running a marriage and family.
Women of the new era, freed from a lot of shackles. With the progress of the times, women are no longer required to teach their children only at home, they can become good in the workplace, and those who have good ability can also become strong women in the workplace.
Therefore, whether a woman is a full-time housewife at home or a worker after marriage has become a life proposition that many married women must face. Every woman makes different choices, and the situation she faces is naturally different.
In the TV series "Perfect Partner", Chen Shan is a decisive business lawyer in the workplace. Her ability in the workplace and the high income she brings to her family make Sun Lei willing to become her helper.
Sun Lei had made Chen Shan struggle with confidence and have herself to guard the big rear of her family for her.
The more outstanding Chen Shan's achievements in her career, the more she lacks the company of her daughter. For example, a family waits for Chen Shan to come home for dinner, and it is common for the meal to be cold and hot.
When Chen Shan finally found herself lacking the company of her children and husband, the children and husbands had already had frequent contact with Wu Min.
For the sake of her children, Wu Min is willing to sacrifice her career, accompany her children to grow up, and become her husband's helper.
In terms of choices about family and work, Chen Shan and Wu Min are very different. Or, playfully, Chen Shan and Wu Min both want to be each other, but conditions do not allow it.
So, should a woman fight in the workplace or take a baby full-time after marriage?
In fact, the answer is never "should" or "should not", most of them are to seek advantages and avoid harms, or to choose last resorts.
Modern women can play the role of mothers with peace of mind, or they can fight in the workplace. As for how to choose, it depends on whether someone can solve your concerns.
For example, for women who are eager to work hard in the workplace after marriage, is there anyone who takes good care of your children and family? For example, for women with babies full-time, is there anyone who can keep you safe from food and clothing, and whether anyone is really grateful for the sacrifices you have made for your children?
In the final analysis, whether a woman chooses a career or a family, she can meet the following three points, and the family career can not conflict with each other.
First, your efforts are understood.
From the perspective of the vast majority of people's life phenomena, career or family, women choose one party, they are doomed to not take care of the other party.
Everyone looks at things differently, some people are glad to have it, and some people only regret losing it.
When a woman chooses a career, even if she earns little income, she is also paid for the family, and it is shared with her husband that she bears the financial pressure of the family. If the husband can give his wife support and encouragement, and thank the woman for her dedication to the family, then the woman chooses a career and can also fight wholeheartedly.
Women continue to work after marriage, the most feared is that their income is not high, the husband or in-laws scoff at this, and even think that "just make so much money, it is better to bring good children at home."
What is more frightening is that no matter what the woman's income is, whether the woman is tired or not, they still think that men should rest when they return home from work, women should take care of their husbands and in-laws, serving tea and pouring water is a woman's business, cooking and washing dishes is a woman's business, laundry cleaning is also a woman's business, children are not taken care of or school regression is also a woman's duty not to do a good job.
Women in the workplace need the support of their husbands and the understanding of their families, and the happiness and harmony of a family are the results of the joint efforts of husband and wife.
On the other hand, if a woman chooses a family, when the child is young, she almost needs to be on standby for 24 hours to take the baby, and also to take care of the housework and make a good meal. And being a full-time housewife is no easier than a working woman.
There are many men or women who have never experienced full-time with a baby that now the network information is developed, full-time housewives are not so tired at all, and even some people say that full-time housewives do not have to go to work to face the pressure exerted by the boss, do not have to face the difficulties of customers, and even do not need to get up early and work overtime, there is a washing machine at home, and there is no need to clean every day, so you only need to do two dishes for three years and take care of the children.
However, without the experience of carrying a baby alone, you have no idea how hard it is for a full-time housewife to carry a baby alone.
In addition to physical and psychological exhaustion, the value of full-time housewives is often not as easy to reflect as women in the workplace, so it is often ignored.
I remember when I took my daughter on a trip, I met a father who confessed that women with babies full-time are harder than men to work, so they will help share it whenever they have time.
How satisfying a woman's efforts should be when they are understood.
Whether it is a working woman or a full-time housewife, many women are not afraid of tiredness and hard work, and what they want is only an understanding and a hug from their husbands.
Second, you are thankful for your efforts.
Some mothers who work in the unit will continue to work after half a year's maternity leave. When at work, there is the embarrassment of breast leakage, and you can only secretly change clothes yourself.
When I return to the workplace and make mistakes big or small, I also long for the comfort of my husband. But some husbands, at this time, will always say cool words: "You are self-seeking, let you take the baby at home you are not willing." ”
Women want to work, but also want to help the family and reduce the burden on their husbands. If the husband thanks the woman for her sacrifice, the woman is worth the tiredness.
The woman who has no one to help with the child, who can only bring the baby at home, also longs for her husband to understand her sacrifice. The woman who was disheveled at home was also a small leader who made her subordinates afraid.
But when the husband is arguing, scolding the woman will only reach for the money, and at that moment the woman will feel that no matter how great the sacrifice to the family is in vain.
When a woman's sacrifice is thanked, whether it is work or with a baby, she will be more willing.
Third, your difficulty is not painful.
Some women can only work hard in big cities, leaving their children in their hometowns and giving them to the elderly to take care of. When others laugh and scold them for being cruel, only the husbands around them understand that without the woman's salary, the family's expenses this month may be tight.
Smart men, who understand the difficulty of women's fierce appearance, will always argue for women when others have no intention of talking about it.
Men are sad about women's difficulties, and women are more convinced that their choice of career is another way to pay for children and families, but also to love children.
When women choose to take a baby full-time in order to give their children high-quality companionship, men will not curse because of the child's night crying, but they will feel sorry that women do not rest well, and it is not easy for women to bring babies, in order to be resolved by men's heartache.
With a baby will always have a headache and brain fever, some men, as soon as the child is out of the situation, scold the wife for not taking good care of the child. But some men understand the anxiety in their wives' hearts and accompany the children night after night.
Whether it is a working woman or a full-time housewife, it is not easy, if men can understand and feel pain, rather than complaining about why women make the current choice, women will not regret their choice.
Fish and bear paws can not be both, career and family, women inevitably have to choose one or the other. Just hope that women choose either one, with the understanding and support of men.
Some strong women work day and night with babies, which is even more arduous. Childbearing is a hurdle for women. The problems derived after childbirth are even more testing the disposition of women and men and the feelings of husband and wife.
Whether a woman chooses a family or a career, it is a test for men. Because of the man's attitude, it affects the sense of accomplishment and happiness that women have because of their current choices.
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