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Romain Rolland once said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after seeing through the essence of life, still love life." ”
However, some truths of life can only be understood after life has been completed for most of the way, and can only be realized after experiencing changes in the world. Some people wake up early, so the rest of their lives are also wonderful, while some people are still "in the dark" all their lives, and then they are confused and go through their lives like this.
Fortunately, Aunt Liu belongs to the former, 50 years old this year, she is her husband's helper and the main backbone of the family. The family's food, drink, and big things and small things are all taken care of by her, whether it is life or work, she is the family's think tank.
However, after serving her husband for most of her life, some of the truths of life finally made her wake up, she understood the truth of the two thousand golds, and she also wanted to give others a wake-up call.
One: In this lifetime, people can only rely on themselves in the end
Aunt Liu worked in the hospital when she was young and was a dedicated head nurse. Later, because she was pregnant with a child and worried that there was no one to take care of her at home, she had the audacity to quit her job, and then concentrated on taking the baby, serving the elderly and her husband, and became a full-time housewife.
The task of working outside has been handed over to her husband for more than 20 years.
However, these more than two decades of full-time housewife life have not brought her the harvest and respect she imagined. Whenever there is friction with her husband, her husband will speak out, implying that a large family depends on him to raise.
In Aunt Liu's view, the family is a collective, but because of the different division of labor, so the individual choices are different. Housewives are not a simple job, sometimes even harder than before.
In addition, every time she wanted to buy something, she had to reach out to her husband, which once made her feel that she was not living, but begging, so she stabbed her self-esteem fiercely.
In Aunt Liu's view, no matter at any time, in fact, women should not give up their careers, have a job, there is an income, even when quarrelling, there is also a little more confidence, people in this life, can only rely on themselves.
Second: Children are the debt of their parents, and no matter how much they do not give up, they will eventually go far
Aunt Liu said that although she is not a mother with a strong desire to control, she still can't help but want to let her child be closer to herself, go to college in a closer place, marry and have children, and between the family, there is a care for each other, and she can also have a hope.
But the son did not think so, he did not understand Aunt Liu's hopes, but accused her of selfishness.
"How can I be selfish? If I was selfish, how could I give up my job to take care of him and be home full-time to take care of the family for more than twenty years? ”
Aunt Liu said tearfully. In her opinion, she had worked hard to pull the child to such a big size, and in the end she only ended up with a selfish name, and she was cold and aggrieved. Aunt Liu said that the children are the debts of the parents, the debts are paid off, the children's wings are also plump, and the birds will eventually fly.
In Aunt Liu's view, spending more than twenty years of time on her husband and son is her dedication and her love for her family.
But she did not expect that her family actually took it for granted, and even said a lot of things that would hurt herself, she felt very conflicted for a while, did not understand what her sacrifice was for, and did not know whether this decision was right or wrong.
In fact, not only Aunt Liu, many women after entering marriage, are for love, willing to wash their hands as a good wife and mother image.
However, with the development of the times, the possibility of giving up work and giving up oneself for the sake of the family has long ceased to be the best choice. We should learn to find a balance between family and life, rather than being sadistic and ready to sacrifice.
A good family environment should be mutually understanding and paying each other. Instead of one person serving another person for a lifetime, in the end to change a few cold words, people hurt God.
Indeed, a woman will have many identities in her life, daughter, wife, mother, and so on.
But no matter how many identities you have, no matter how many people you have, all the characters should give way to one identity, and that's yourself. Remember, at any time, don't give up on yourself.
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