Text: Xi Xihuan
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As people's attention to full-time housewives has risen, this group that has received little attention throughout the year has gained public attention.
In the concept of many older generations, the best family model is the male outside and the female inside. Men's ambition and male desire to conquer make them more energetic and advantageous in their careers; and women's delicacy and intimacy will bring temperature and warmth to a home.
But with the increase of women's sense of independence, this traditional model has begun to change, and more and more women are no longer willing to give up their careers and become a full-time housewife.
You know, full-time housewives mean giving up their careers and freedoms, and even the social circle will become narrower and narrower with neglect.
Some education experts pointed out that the child is the most important at the stage of 0-3 years old, and if it is the mother's personal care and companionship, it will often have more advantages than the care of the elderly.
To this end, many women have given up their careers that had great prospects for development, specializing in taking care of their children at home and taking on all the housework at home, but in the end they have not gotten what they want.
Because if you don't work, you don't have a financial resource, so the moment you reach out to your husband for money, it seems that the dignity of a full-time housewife is trampled on the ground.
I once saw a small video on the Internet, a woman has been a full-time housewife for five years, originally she was also an executive of a foreign company, but because the elderly in the family could not help take care of the children, so after consulting with her husband, she could only take care of the children at home full-time.
Since becoming a stay-at-home mom, women no longer have time to shop, swipe their phones, or spend time with friends, and the circle of her life is only at home and in the supermarket.
Over time, the husband began to feel that the common language with her was becoming less and less, and even complained that she was not trim and had a blessed body.
The woman was stunned at that moment, and behind the rejection by her husband was that she took care of the children day and night, that she took care of all the hard work of the housework, that she could not understand and respect, so she was cold.
After the child went to kindergarten, the woman resolutely decided to return to work, because she knew that if she wanted to have the courage to talk to her husband on an equal footing, she needed to be financially independent first.
I have to say that this woman's awakening is very timely, in her thirties, even if it takes a lot of courage to return to work, she needs to adapt to the fast pace of work again, but she feels that it is worth it, because as long as she is willing to do it, she will definitely give herself greater confidence and capital.
In real life, not all women can wake up in time, a mind to put all the energy and mind on the family, pay youth and time, but in the end in exchange for the pillow people's disgust and contempt, it is really chilling.
The daughter of the neighbor is a graduate of a prestigious university, the job is also very good, before marriage, her parents repeatedly told her, never be a full-time housewife, if the child is not brought, they can help to bring, but must have their own job.
After marriage, the woman could not resist the persuasion of her husband and in-laws, and decided to resign at home after giving birth to a second child, even though she had been promoted to the position of department head at that time and had a very good career prospect.
After becoming a full-time housewife, the woman began a life that was repeated every day, taking care of the children, and doing housework. Sometimes when she wakes up in the morning, she even feels no fun, because what she has to do that day has already been done the day before.
If all the efforts can be understood and respected by the husband, then she also feels that it is worth it, but unfortunately the husband does not do so.
Over time, men look down on her more and more, even if her cooking skills are getting better and better, even if she cleans up the home spotlessly, even if the children are well-behaved and sensible under her care and education, but these seem to be men do not see, he sees only women have no financial resources, is the woman's social circle is getting narrower and narrower, is the aging caused by women's lack of time skin care sports.
There is disgust in the heart, on the surface will always show it, women are smart and sensitive, since full-time at home, women have some inferiority, it is not clear why there is this emotion, but she knows that she often loses control of her emotions, and she makes men more and more reluctant to go home.
So, the day when the man finally had an outbreak, he began to hide his dislike for women, and even sometimes accused her of not knowing thriftiness when she wanted to live, but she had not bought new clothes for several years, and men never cared.
When the child is sick, she takes care of herself, she herself is sick and resists, and even has to take care of the child as usual, do housework, cook, the man does not care whether she is sick or not, but let her not infect the child.
Gradually, the woman's heart became cold, and she began to stop pinning her hopes on men's care and concern. Once, when her husband accused her again, she finally broke out, crying when she heard the man say she was a parasite.
"I've been a full-time housewife for ten years, how much I've paid for this family, don't you see?" Without my efforts, can you work outside with peace of mind? I feel sorry for your hard work outside and it is not easy, but is my effort not worthy of your gratitude? ”
After the woman cried and said these words, she originally thought that the man would wake up, but the man said dismissively: "I have nothing to be grateful for you, don't you do this, not to mention that I raise you every month and I don't work hard?" You know, it's a lot more cost-effective to spend less on a babysitter than you are. ”
The woman woke up completely, she directly filed for divorce, and her ten years of dedication in the marriage did not exchange for a trace of gratitude and respect, but let her dignity be stepped on.
In fact, women who choose to be full-time housewives are not afraid of the tediousness and hardships in life, nor are they afraid of their own sacrifices in marriage, what they are most afraid of is not understanding and respect.
It is not that women cannot be full-time housewives, but many times, the understanding and respect given by the family do not match the women's efforts, so many women will become "resentful women" in marriage.
If they can be happy, who wants to live themselves into the most hated appearance? Women want to be the happiest little woman in marriage, and when they want to run their marriage and family more happily, they are actually looking forward to the warmth and care of the person they love the most.
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