The TV series "Heart Residence" once again lets us see the common embarrassment in family gatherings: people at different levels, different values, and different life concepts eat at the same table, and it is easy not to speculate.
This kind of embarrassment can be divided into two levels: one moment of embarrassment is a comparative level, and one has been embarrassed of the highest level.
Tong Yao starred in "Heart Residence"
Gu Qingyu, played by Tong Yao, announced at a family gathering that he had given up a house he had previously favored.
The real reason, she didn't say. It's not hard to guess, because she doesn't want to be a neighbor to the son of the great aunt.
The eldest aunt's son, Gao Pan, was the daughter of a deputy department-level cadre, and the marriage house was in the same neighborhood as the house gu Qingyu originally wanted to buy.
Although the great aunt would not live with her son in that high-end community, with Gu Qingyu's understanding of the great aunt for so many years, she must know that once she and her cousin became neighbors, it would be indispensable to be sent by the great aunt in the future.
Gu Qingyu's foresight was confirmed at another family gathering a few days later.
The great aunt saw that her niece's sister Sissi was not working, so she offered to let Sissi clean up the new house for her son.
"Heart Residence" Gu Family Great Aunt
In fact, this matter is not non-negotiable, especially the great aunt also said that the money will not be less, but the great aunt's approach makes people feel very uncomfortable.
If the great aunt had told Sissi directly in private, it would have to be discussed if no one else could hear it.
But she chose to speak in public, and also bypassed Sissi, only to talk to Sissi's sister's father-in-law, which made Sissi feel that she was a nanny without autonomy.
The Great Aunt's family was originally the worst of the three families, but since Gao climbed to the deputy hall level, the Great Aunt had a sense of superiority.
The third family changed houses, sold big to buy small, and people wanted to use the price difference for their daughters to study abroad. However, after the whole family visited the new home of the three families, the great aunt proposed to go to the "mansion" that her son was about to buy, and also called it "to ask for advice".
This kind of show-off psychology of the little man is understood by everyone, only the great aunt is unaware and enjoys it.
"Heart Dwelling" Great Aunt
Back at the original family dinner, after hearing that Gu Qingyu was also going to buy a house in the same neighborhood, the great aunt used a Versailles speech to persuade Gu Qingyu not to buy it.
She said that her son bought such a big house because he wanted to get married, and Gu Qingyu did not need to live in such a big house alone, "It takes a long time to go from east to west, and there is an echo of speech, which is not interesting." ”
A few simple words not only showed off his son's new house, but also demeaned the embarrassment of Gu Qingyu's unmarried age.
Of course, the eldest is unmarried, Gu Qingyu himself is not embarrassed, only the great aunt thinks that people are embarrassed.
Many family gatherings will have these seven aunts and eight aunts, who use their narrow insights and old concepts to argue about other people's quality life and modern life concepts.
Their gross evaluation and even interference in the private lives of young people is the main reason why contemporary young people are excluded from participating in family gatherings.
What's worse is that these people can't see the height of their eyebrows at all, so they won't perceive it and won't understand the dissatisfaction from the younger generations.
"Heart Residence" Gu Qingyu's father stopped talking about the house
The father understood the sound of Gu Qingyu not buying a house, so he changed the subject. Compared with his daughter, his father is more embarrassing.
Gu Qingyu usually lives by himself. She enjoys the income from her work, as well as the freedom and tranquility that loneliness brings. This is one of the important reasons why more and more young people choose to marry later or not.
In the face of the annoying great aunt, Gu Qingyu can completely miss the family gathering on the grounds that he is busy at work, and the relatives cannot say anything.
However, Gu Qingyu's father could not escape. He was a retired old man who lived with his wife again. The older brother and younger brother brought their families to see the old woman, and he couldn't hide from them.
Therefore, Gu Qingyu is a relatively high-level embarrassment, because she can stay out of the matter at any time.
And Gu Qingyu's father is the most senior embarrassment, because he can't be absent. No matter how much embarrassment there was, he had to be there.
Gu Qingyu's father is a very clean old man, but because of this, he is the most upset in the face of a series of embarrassments caused by his annoying sister-in-law, as well as the embarrassment that is likely to last forever in the future.
Haiqing starred in "Heart Residence"
According to the previous classification, Feng Xiaoqin, played by Haiqing, should also belong to the most embarrassing file. Because she lives in her in-laws' house and has no job, she can't get out.
However, Feng Xiaoqin is not only the bearer of embarrassment, but also the maker of embarrassment.
Feng Xiaoqin's accurate positioning in this family should be a "calculator".
The reason why she married Gu Lei, a waste husband, was because she longed for a Shanghai hukou.
Now, she has a Shanghai hukou and longs to have a house of her own, and then take her mother and brother all over and become a "shanghainese in the true sense."
If all this was earned by Feng Xiaoqin's labor, then no one could say anything. But the money she bought to buy a house was obtained by first squeezing out her husband's savings and then pressuring her eldest sister, and she had no ability to repay her debts, which was a family kidnapping.
Feng Xiaoqin is a fishing girl.
Although she has been diligent and earnest for ten years, serving the lives of four generations of the whole family, just as He Han commented on Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life": Your so-called non-return is actually asking for a big return.
Feng Xiaoqin and the Great Aunt are actually a type of person.
At first, the great aunt was not satisfied with her daughter-in-law, but as soon as she heard about the other party's family situation, she immediately reversed her attitude.
Feng Xiaoqin was even more so, and she even did it herself.
They all regard marriage as a means of climbing branches, and they all regard relatives as objects that should be used, so they will naturally be despised by relatives who are spiritually independent.
But they can't understand, and they don't want to understand, this disdain.
People like them are the eternal creators of contradictions in the family relationship, and they live endlessly.
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