My aunt's family. My aunt and I don't usually have any contact, so I also pay homage to the New Year, and my relatives have a happy event to eat a banquet. At a banquet, I sat with my aunt's family. this

My aunt's family.

My aunt and I don't usually have any contact, so I also pay homage to the New Year, and my relatives have a happy event to eat a banquet.

At a banquet, I sat with my aunt's family. I'm alone at this table. Before the banquet, their family would eat, and the plate would not be mentioned.

At the dinner, my uncle asked me how much income I earned a month. I said a number about 7, 8 thousand. Then he said, you earn so much, you are not married, and it is useless to save money. Your brother (his son) earns very little money, and he also has to support his wife and children, and you give your brother 1,2 thousand a month. I was speechless. His son and daughter-in-law looked at me with hopeful eyes... His son is a civil servant with a salary of 6,000, not counting various benefits. He actually asked me to give him money every month... I just thought it was a joke and played haha past.

Then after eating the banquet, waiting for my father to drive over on the side of the road, my uncle mentioned again: You are alone now, no one will give you money, you give your brother 1,2 thousand a month, your brother will help you save, and when you get married, give you the money. His son and daughter-in-law looked at me with hopeful eyes... I squeezed out a sentence: No, I save it myself.

How come there are so many comments at once? Confused...

I'm a man. I guess the psychology of my uncle's family:

First of all, the traditional Chinese idea is the collectivism of the family, and the behavior of the individual should be conducive to the continuation of the family. The individual strength of the agrarian society is weak, and it is necessary to rely on the collective to survive. And a blood-related family is simply a perfect group to survive in a group. Therefore, a person who has ascended to heaven, the so-called phoenix man "excessively" to promote relatives in the family (positive, top-notch family members to pull up others); the old society eats the family, sells the widow of the dead husband (on the contrary, the old society regards women as male vassals, and when the man dies, this branch is broken, and his resources are divided up to benefit other family members), I think these are all manifestations of this family thinking. And this idea of an agrarian society is still more or less preserved in some rural areas.

Then there's my personal situation, I'm over 30 and not married and have no offspring. It is very normal in the city, but in my hometown countryside, over 25 years old is not married is a single stick, let alone 30 years old, the feeling is that this person is Loser, this person is going to die, this branch is hopeless. In fact, I feel that my relatives in my hometown see me like this. The blind date introduced to me at the age of 26 is still relatively normal, unmarried and healthy young girl, but the blind date introduced after the age of 27 is either physically disabled or several years older than me. Middle-aged women? I want to find an unmarried and childless physically healthy object of about the same age and be intimidated by "your own conditions... Don't ask too much."

The combination of these two, about in my uncle's eyes, I am a person in my 30s who has not yet been born, and will die, what is the use of having more money, and there is no son to inherit. It is better to give it to his son, so that he can still "waste it" and pull his family's living standards.

By the way, two years ago, relatives in my hometown once gave such a "suggestion": you are so old or a single stick, it is better to buy a wife and then have a son. After having a son, the wife I bought ran away, and I had a son anyway. I was stunned to receive the education that proletarian women and women can stand up to half the sky, this is the 21st century, my hometown is not a remote and backward place, and there is still this kind of thinking? #亲戚 #