Wen | Zhu Shengyong
Client: My husband and I are both doing engineering, we have lived together for more than 20 years, but we did not get a marriage license, my husband has been with his lover for 10 years, and now they have a daughter.
They only started living together during the summer vacation this year, because he used the money the two of us earned to open a shop for his lover, and I found out, but he didn't plan to marry the woman.
Now he's coming back, he's doing a project, and he's trying to coax me back to do that project for him.
I asked a lawyer to write a property division agreement, and he also promised to sign it, but I was worried that he would not give money when the time came, what to do?
Teacher Zhu: You are not husband and wife, that woman is not a lover, you have not been married for more than 20 years, you must find out the reason, otherwise you may become a lover if you are not careful.
Client: We were all working outside, and at that time, family planning was overbirth, and we did not have a marriage license.
Teacher Zhu: Now that the state has let go of having a second child, can't you get married? How many children have you had?
Client: We have three children, he and his lover have been together for 10 years, he just won't get a marriage license with me.
Teacher Zhu: You have three children, has the problem of the children's hukou been solved?
Client: It has been solved, the son's account is in his place, and the two daughters' account is in my place.
Teacher Zhu: Although you have been living together, you are not a husband and wife, all your actions are not protected by law, and the woman is not a third party.
When you make this clear, you need to know that either you hurry up to get the certificate, or you hurry up and shoot twice.
This property division agreement that you signed, you all pressed your fingerprints, signed it, and executed it according to it, and if he didn't execute it, or if the two of you couldn't figure it out, you could sue him.
Client: At first I didn't know he had other women out there, but I didn't know about it this summer.
Teacher Zhu: You have to put this matter on the surface, and you have to talk to that woman, at least let that woman know.
The woman is pregnant and has a child, and you two women go the same way, and neither of you will be able to get married in the end, and then he will find another woman, and that woman may reap the fruits.
Client: Am I not going to do that project with him now? It was a contract he signed with his boss, not a contract I signed.
Teacher Zhu: I suggest that you don't do engineering with him, you can do it, but you have to do it in the form of opening a company, you have to manage the money, otherwise you don't do it.
The reason why he wants to be with you is actually to lock you up, he enjoys the services provided to him by two women, so you don't want this man, divide the money, and then find a man to live a solid life.
If you are reluctant to spend 3 to 6 months with him to do a full job, anyway, you are not willing now, after all, together for more than twenty years, everyone is still not willing to shoot and scatter.
If you don't him, he thinks all women are good to cheat on.
You have to divide the property well, do all these things well, and then he wants to do the project together, then you will settle the account with your brothers.
It's not about punishing women, it's about punishing men, and you have to let this man know that women are not so good at bullying, and that in the case of war, you may be able to take more money.
Client: The terms written on the property agreement are equivalent to him being out of the house.
Teacher Zhu: You have to seize the time to get these money and money in your hands, and the one who should transfer the house should seize the time to go to the house, and if you don't hurry up to do it, this is a blank piece of paper.
Author: Zhu Shenyong, Fudan MBA, founder of the School of Marriage Management, author of the best-selling book "Governance of Extramarital Affairs"