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Blind? Why can't the husband see his wife become beautiful? The primacy effect is not suitable for the truth of marriage

Blind? Why can't the husband see his wife become beautiful? The primacy effect is not suitable for the truth of marriage

Wen | Zhu Shengyong

I saw many people asking questions in the background, in order to let her husband return to the family, he worked hard to learn makeup, plastic surgery, self-improvement, and after becoming beautiful and beautiful, why men still did not return, and where the problem was.

Today I want to reveal the secret to you, the scam of attracting and saving your husband for the second time.

There was a client before, she and her husband married for 18 years, before marriage, this woman is good-looking, fair-skinned, never lack of suitors, and then she married her current husband, this man is a business executive, she said that choosing him is to bring herself a good life.

Blind? Why can't the husband see his wife become beautiful? The primacy effect is not suitable for the truth of marriage

But day after day of trivial daily life, the passion of the two people is consumed, and the quarrels and cold wars gradually become more and more. Later, the man and the company's new assistant began to have an affair, and when the wife found out, her fear made her have to try her best to save the marriage.

She went for plastic surgery, and also applied for makeup and psychology classes, spending five or six hundred thousand before and after, and she thought that as long as she tried to improve, her husband would definitely come back.

But after studying for half a year, my husband became more rampant during this time, and even began to stay homeless at night.

She felt a deep sense of despair and didn't know what to do to make her husband change his mind, and then she came to me for counseling, and her marriage began to turn around.

Blind? Why can't the husband see his wife become beautiful? The primacy effect is not suitable for the truth of marriage

So, today I will share with you from three aspects, why it is a complete scam to say that the second attraction to save your husband is a complete scam, you must see it before you avoid stepping on this pit.

First: secondary attraction, its theory is the "first cause effect", men and women feel bad after meeting for the first time, so the second time to engage in it, more attraction, attract you to fall in love with me, so the scene of secondary attraction is actually in love, applied to single men and women.

But you and your husband are not single men and women, you have lived for 10 years, 20 years, or even 30 years, what you look like, the other party knows clearly, he empathizes with each other, not just the reason for appearance, so it is not a simple change in appearance can be done.

Second, the second attraction, this logic simply thinks that this man empathy is to find a young and beautiful, empathetic, beautiful woman.

In fact, this is exactly wrong, married men empathize with each other, because there is a contradiction and conflict with his wife, the problem cannot be solved, and then the heart is cold, and he shifts to finding other women to satisfy himself.

Later, he found that other women are actually just a plus for his wife, so no matter how much your wife is attracted twice, no matter how good she becomes, she can only attract to the old king next door.

For your husband, you can't break this attention at all. His attention is always on the woman outside, because the woman outside is fragrant, fragrant and beautiful. Because the woman in front of you is the goddess standing on the shoulders of your wife.

Blind? Why can't the husband see his wife become beautiful? The primacy effect is not suitable for the truth of marriage

Third, the second attraction, further in line with your husband's excuse of empathy and non-love, will further strengthen your woman's mistakes, hey, it's because you, not pretty, not good in shape, not good for my parents, all are not good, this is the typical PUA for the wife! It's your fault that he cheated on him.

So the more you learn to attract twice, the more painful it becomes, and the more you feel that you are nothing, it is because of this!

Therefore, everyone has to face the husband who is empathetic and in love, and the real thing to do is: be the head of the stick, and start an all-out war with him! In this way, your husband will focus on his wife and the woman outside, so as to make a choice, whether to have a wife with 98 points, or a woman with 2 points outside, he will weigh it, which is the key to breaking the extramarital affair.

Author: Zhu Shenyong, Fudan MBA, founder of the School of Marriage Management, author of the best-selling book "Governance of Extramarital Affairs"

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