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Accidentally watching Ji Xianlin's "My Left-behind Mother", Mr. Ji said that the most permanent regret in his life is that he should not leave his hometown and leave his mother.
He left home at the age of 6 to stay at the home of his relatives in order to study, and then until the death of his mother, he only went home to live twice, both of which were returned home to mourn.
The neighbor said that what his mother used to say was: "I knew that I would not be able to send him out and come back, and I would not let him go under any circumstances." ”
After reading it, I was full of emotions.
All people are lonely, especially in the last days of life, and they will leave alone.
But the greatest sorrow in life is that when you are alive, you have nothing to rely on.
Recently, in Xinzhou, Shanxi, an elderly man living alone sat on the threshold of his home and cried 4 or 5 minutes before his death.
The sun fell on her, but the whole person seemed quiet and lonely.
After that, she got up and went into the house to lie on the kang, and she fell down forever.
At that time, the old man suddenly had a heart attack, there was no one around, and a person walked alone.
The daughter-in-law said that the mother-in-law at that time may have missed her brothers, sisters and children, who were not around.
There are six or seven brothers and sisters in the mother-in-law, she is the eldest in the family, and her younger brothers and sisters are all raised by her watching.
The mother-in-law gave birth to four children, and when the children grew up, they all went to different cities to start a family, and the old man stayed in his hometown.
Seeing this scene, I was very sad.
The older she gets, the fewer people around her, and she may feel like she's coming to an end in life, but she doesn't want to bother her children.
She was not afraid of death, but she was afraid of causing trouble for her children.
Someone once shared an experience of their own: the year after their father left, their mother also left.
The mother's body has always been tough, and there is nothing wrong with it except for the occasional foot pain and wrist pain.
I think she gave up her life, her father's departure made her feel that life was meaningless, and her children were married, and she didn't seem to have a place to play.
She chose to follow her father, not to cause us any trouble, and ended her life.
In this life, only the licking of parents cannot be repaid.
Seeing this, I can't help but burst into tears.
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"I am so lonely in this world that no one even knows that I am dead."
Your parents have been worried about you, but they can't help you.
The only thing they can do is to open the door and let their children return home and recuperate.
An old man in the mountains of Guizhou, his daughter works in Guangdong, because of the distance, only in the New Year can she go home.
The mother did not tell her several times, so in the daughter's impression, the mother's body has always been healthy, and she does not know that the mother has heart disease.
However, in an ordinary late night, the mother quietly left, and finally was found by the people in the village, but even the day the old man died did not know.
The daughter hurried back, saw her mother on the ground, and cried: "I regret it so much, I shouldn't go back to Guangdong after the new year, I should stay with my mother." ”
Parents have worked hard for most of their lives, and their children will always be the first in their minds.
They are sick and do not reveal it to their children; they are lonely and do not confide in their children; they choose to live alone to give their children their freedom.
There was once a grandmother in Hubei, 72 years old, living alone.
She has a son, whose family is in Guangdong and only comes back to live for a few days during the New Year.
Before retiring, Grandma Luo was a teacher and had always had the habit of keeping a diary, and after retirement, she found that there were fewer and fewer things she could write.
Finally, one day, she wrote a few words on it with difficulty: "Nothing, I will die first." ”
The news of Grandma Luo's death was not known to her son until three days later.
People get old, it is a very heavy topic, and what is even heavier is that parents are old, but children do not know how they live.
"Raising children and preventing old age" is the tradition of their parents' generation, but they did not expect that the end of life is likely to face death alone.
03
"I regret giving birth to you, and if there is an afterlife, I will never see you again."
When one day, you can't tolerate your parents, you should reflect on it.
A mother once said to her children, "Thank you for taking care of me, but I regret giving birth to you." ”
I'm old enough to see your face, especially after your father died.
I wish you would take me into the house and live with you, but in the end I was cold.
I am afraid of offending any of you, but even as I become cautious, your face is getting uglier.
On my 80th birthday, you wish me a blessing: "Long life and a hundred years!" ”
I smiled bitterly, living to this age can be, "long life and a hundred years old" is useless.
I hope that the disease will take me away quickly, and I will be grateful for the kindness that fate has treated me...
Parents never blame their children, it is a selfless love, but we cannot enjoy that love for granted.
Parents are old, there is no lack of anything, only the company of relatives.
Recently, an old grandmother in Zhuzhou, Hunan Province, said that her loneliness was on the hot search:
"I am so lonely, alone, my children, not by my side.
My daughter is in the United States, my son is in Guangzhou, and I have 8 grandchildren, all of whom are not on my side.
I'm alone now, three meals a day, and I'm too lazy to cook..."
Yes, the seemingly bustling city is inhabited by more than half of the lonely elderly in China, without companionship and care.
The number of widows and elderly people who stayed behind in the mountain villages is innumerable.
Therefore, the old have dependence, the old have support, and now it has become a heavy topic.
Parents work hard to raise their children, but when the children are full of wings, only the lonely empty nest old man is left.
How sad!
I once watched a news story about "92-year-old grandmother riding a tricycle with her 30-year-old grandson for a ride".
This warm moment was filmed by relatives and friends and posted on the Internet, and everyone unanimously called it "the happiest show-off".
Staying away from our parents is sometimes involuntary, but what we can do is not let our parents see through them, but they can't see us yet.
Some people say that there are three things in life that cannot wait: honoring parents, doing good deeds and accumulating virtue, and learning wisdom.
Deeply.
While our parents are still alive, while we are still young, we will go home to see more.
Even if you can't always be with the elderly, you should always be in touch, which is already precious for elderly parents.
Parents are there, life still has a place to come; parents go, life is only the way home.
Cherish that you can still have your parents every day, maybe the companionship you care about is the happiness that others can't ask for!