The writer Zhou Guoping once said: The sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, interpersonal communication, to know how to abide by the necessary distance between people. It can be said that no matter who you get along with, you need to have a certain sense of proportion, you can't fight for others to be good to you, just unscrupulously ask for it, otherwise it will only annoy people, and you will not complain that others will not give you a good look.
But in life, there is always such a category of people, they do not seek progress, their bones reveal selfishness, they like to cry poor, they like to calculate relatives or friends, and find ways to get more benefits from them.
For those who do not know how to be grateful, who are accustomed to taking, if one day they get less material, they will in turn accuse you of not being generous enough, and if you get along with such a person for a long time, patience and enthusiasm will be exhausted sooner or later, and in the end it will be thankless, and it is better to stay away as soon as possible.
Xu Lin has a cheerful personality, gentle treatment, as long as the people around her have difficulties, she is very willing to lend a helping hand, for her, to help others is to help herself, after all, sometimes she will encounter difficulties, and therefore in the company, her popularity is the best, plus she is very self-motivated, doing things and being serious and responsible, and her income is also rising with the rising tide.
Later, at a party, she met Li Feng, the two people have a lot of common hobbies, they also talk to each other, Xu Lin is very fond of him, and finally he was captured by Li Feng's first-hand cooking skills, and it didn't take long for the two people to establish a relationship.
With the passage of time, Xu Lin also has more understanding of Li Feng, his family situation is not very good, his sister has just graduated from college, has not yet found a job, in the early years of his mother's physical problems, the family's savings basically bottomed out, but in this regard, Xu Lin did not mind, but felt that the boyfriend is not easy, dating is also trying to take care of his feelings, not only did not let him spend money, but tried to subsidize him.
Xu Lin's performance naturally won the favor of the man's family, the sister-in-law is a sister-in-law called intimate, at that time Xu Lin, also full of yearning for marriage, half a year of interaction, not only to the boyfriend's home to buy a variety of daily necessities, but also from time to time to the sister-in-law to send red envelopes, buy gifts.
Later, when talking about marriage, Xu Lin tried to persuade her parents, as long as the bride price of twenty thousand yuan, her parents were afraid that she would be wronged in the future, so she had to help her with a down payment to buy a small house, just like this, Xu Lin married love as she wished, but the days after marriage were not calm, and the sister-in-law often cried with her poor, changing the law and asking for money from her.
At first, Xu Lin will try to meet her requirements, after all, in her view, they are all family, and she is used to being good to others, but gradually, she found that some people are too selfish, and will only take their own efforts as a matter of course, but they do not know how to feedback and gratitude.
Especially after paying off the mortgage, her quality of life has dropped sharply, but her husband has no intention of helping, and said: This house was bought for you by your parents, and only your name is written, why should I help pay it back? For this reason, she can only save money and use, but also reduce the poverty alleviation of the in-laws, the in-laws also have complaints about this, and the sister-in-law's attitude towards her is even more plummeting, and sometimes she is always sneering.
Later, she spent 100 yuan on the Internet to buy a bag, the day of arrival happened to be the sister-in-law's birthday, she did not think too much, she gave the bag as a birthday gift to her, did not expect the sister-in-law to learn the price, but said: 100 yuan of bags can be taken out? And it's not a brand name, which stall did you buy this defective product at? After listening to the sister-in-law's words, Xu Lin was not lightly angry, and she did not expect her husband to say: You are really stingy, my sister's birthday, you will send a 100 yuan bag.
Hearing her husband's words, Xu Lin's heart was extremely cold, and at this moment she realized that some people were not worth paying for themselves, and she also began to have the idea of giving up on this marriage.
Schiller said: If you don't respect others, others won't respect him. Indeed, whether it is family affection, love or friendship, when a person enjoys the efforts of others as they deserve, then the relationship is doomed to be unequal, and naturally it cannot go to the end, and people who do not know how to respect others will naturally not be able to stop losses in time.
There is a saying that the easier it is to get, the more it will not be cherished, when you have no bottom line to pay all, but do not ask for any return, often will promote the greed of the other party, people's desire is bottomless, excessive pay will only be increased by the other party to demand and squeeze, in the long run will only bear huge psychological pressure, will also drag down their own lives, so for selfish people, it is best to stay away in time, so as not to finally hurt money and sad.