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Hot-Eyed Man's Inner Monologue Warning:
Here's how I was intimidated:
Even your father doesn't want to see your mother, so why do you want your wife to see your mother?
Your mother doesn't sleep with your wife kissing her mouth, why kiss so much?
Why does your father say you are not filial piety?
Your thousands of good mothers, one more day by your father's side, your father feels similar to your wife. So in order to bring misfortune to the east, he stirred your mother to chew on you.
Hahahahaha An old lady can't even get along with her husband, who do you think she can get along with?
Your wife is much better than your mother, at least with her husband.
But soon it was nowhere to be found.
Go home and spend it with your mom.
My wife is not there, and I can still go to your mother's arms to sip two sips of milk, how happy.
If the girls encounter this situation, they don't want to tear their faces like the shrew scolding the street, take the initiative to go back to their mother's house, go to their girlfriend's house to play outside, and play until the mother-in-law who is not on the right plate will get out of the egg.
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Your house, you live.
Your son, you incense.
As soon as you came, your son had no wife.
Anyway, you don't want to see your daughter-in-law, and I don't stop you and your son from the world, and what else to say.
Then I recently received several consultations from unfortunate daughters-in-law.
There is only one core: being a demon, a mother-in-law, a demon, a demon.
The unfortunate mother-in-law relationship is also almost a way.
Say ten years of mother-in-law and ten years of daughter-in-law, but when the mother-in-law should contribute, she sneaks and slips and can't work, and she forces her to nag endlessly with an old mouth.
Well, the daughter-in-law of the family finally survived the most difficult years by relying on her own mother-in-law, and the old lady was tearful and began to pursue a harmonious mother-in-law relationship.
It's all old green tea, white lotus pickled into the taste of the palace fighters, can not pinch their husband is not easy to say, pinch the son that is a set of sets.
Then these sons still miss the time when they were nursing in their own mother's arms, and they forgave the demon mother for their wives with a big hand, usually like this three combos:
She is also the first time to be a mother-in-law, she did not mean it,
Things have passed for so long, you should not bite down on it,
Are you looking down on me, looking down on my mother.
To be honest, as soon as I heard them say this, I probably knew what these men had to say next, and how strikingly similar the brain circuits of these uncut milk lovers were.
Usually there are five people and six people, big things and small things seem to be quite strategic, once it comes to the mother who can't do anything to add chaos and invite people to be suspicious, it will immediately degenerate to the level of milk children, right and wrong.
So the last time I taught a sister how to argue with her morally kidnapped husband, friends with these troubles can take notes.
First of all, you need to figure out where your husband and you disagree:
He thinks he should honor his mother, have this responsibility to honor them, and you can't get along with his mother, and his mother doesn't have any kindness to you, and you don't have this obligation to honor them.
Since she has no kindness to you, it is perfectly reasonable that you have no kindness to her, there is no doubt about it.
It is a god to complain with virtue, and it is good that we ordinary people can complain directly.
So the things you have to make clear to your husband are this:
It's not that I despise her, it's that she didn't help me from start to finish, so I don't have anything to give her back.
She wanted a good daughter-in-law, but first of all she did not do what a good mother-in-law should do.
So, since you think she is a good mother, how you want to repay your mother is your business, but you don't drag me, don't kidnap me morally, we each take care of each other's parents.
If he repeatedly stresses whether you look down on his parents and that his parents are willing and incapable of loving you, you repeat:
Maybe your parents have done their best to be good to me, but when I need them the most, they really didn't help, and the feelings between people come and go.
I didn't look down on them, I just felt like they weren't helping me.
So I certainly can't have the same feelings for them as you do with them.
So I don't stop you from being intimate with your parents, but don't drag me along and force me to like them.
I love you because you're good to me and you're good to me in the way I like, so I don't want this issue to affect the feelings between us.
There is their affection between children and them.
I'm not related to them by blood and I don't have a relationship, so it's really hard for me to like them as much as you might think.
But I understand your bondage, so I give you time to enjoy the joys of the world to the fullest.
If you love me too, I hope you don't morally kidnap me, and don't force me to be with someone I can't get along with.
At the beginning, I gave them a chance, and I also hoped to love The House and Wu, but if they couldn't come together, they couldn't get together, and the result was like this.
One of the points he is stirring up the water now is that if you don't show that you like his parents, you just hate his parents, and if he is struggling with this point, you have to explain it very neutrally:
I don't have nasty feelings for your parents, but I don't have affection, and I don't like them enough.
Of course, if they now offer to give you a favor of some kind, you just ask for money.
One does not contribute to the two do not pay, as soon as the mouth is closed, I want a good daughter-in-law, and I want to fart.
Don't talk about what is your husband's broken things in a hundred years.
It was as if the three melons and two dates could figure it out.
Since the emotional intelligence is low, can't talk, can't do things, give money will always be right?
Moral kidnapping back ah, you say that you like me, want to have a good relationship with me, when I need you, you pay for it.
Now that the child wants to go to school, you are not spending it on me, and you will not spend it on your grandchildren so much.
You see, I still don't have any money or two efforts, and I say that I like me.
That line, I am with you, I do not contribute to your children, I do not contribute to you, do you think I love you?
If you feel love, from today on I will love you as much as she did to me, and I see if you can last a few days.
Then again:
Your parents are like strangers to me, I can't talk about liking, I can't talk about hate, and I don't look down on you.
If you are willing to be filial to them, you will do filial piety yourself, and I think this is also what you should do as a son.
But after all, they didn't feed me, and I can't be like you.
If you think my parents are not being nice to you, you can do the same to my parents, I don't mind.
Now you want me to give birth out of thin air to like and be kind to them, and this thing needs to be paid by your parents first.
And they missed that opportunity when I wanted them to give the most, so now I don't need them and I don't want them to need me.
In fact, when I especially need them, when I watch other people's daughters-in-law and daughters-in-law being well cared for by my mother-in-law and father-in-law, I say that I don't envy that it is false.
I can only persuade myself that I don't have this life, I can only persuade myself that I don't have my in-laws and mother-in-law to bite my teeth and hold on to these things alone.
Since I've been alone all this time, I don't want to suddenly have such a family relationship that I need to deal with now.
My life is calm and I hope you don't break it.
If they are particularly sincere in their desire to repair a relationship with me, I need money now.
Since it is said that everything in a hundred years is ours, let's give it now.
Now I have a real shortcoming in raising children, if they know that they have not helped me before, and now they are willing to solve my urgent needs, I am still willing to re-establish a relationship with them.
After that, I will retire, and I will not be short of money.
You know they have places where they want to use me now.
Relationships are made, not forced.
Do you know why I quarrel so much more often than usual?
Because people who will dwell on this matter, there is a high probability that I will continue to listen to me, I will not listen to me, I will not listen.
So how many times he morally kidnaps you, you have to explain it to him as many times as possible.
Sisters, don't worry, since your husband still looks like a person in other places, and only becomes such a giant baby when the moral kidnapping you honor his parents, then you gently and firmly continue to reject and break his moral kidnapping.
He will punch three punches in a row:
She is also the first time to be a mother-in-law, she did not mean it,
Things have passed for so long, you should not bite down on it,
Are you looking down on me, looking down on my mother.
You can also return him three punches:
I believed she didn't mean it, but she really didn't help me, and there was no way I could like her.
So give her another chance, give her money.
I didn't look down on her, she was more like a stranger to me without grace or reciprocation. I will not hinder the joy of your mother's filial piety, but do not drag me into the water.
To tell the truth, I think that the mother-in-law who actively offends her daughter-in-law is a very short-sighted and mentally disabled woman.
Everyone is a woman, and we all know that the hardest part is those years.
If you really can't get around, giving money generously will not be able to see a grandson in the future and have to see your daughter-in-law's face and cry with your son.
How to take care of you in a meticulous way in the pension of your eldest son is simply a fantasy.
The son has no ability and no patience, so naturally he can only shout for his daughter-in-law to work.
What if you are divorced?
Doesn't the newly found wife also have to be dealt with slowly?
Really, some women don't get along well with their husbands, and they can only hope that their sons will be good to them.
In order to tie his son to death, he could foolishly offend his daughter-in-law for the sake of immediate interests.
In the end, I made my son a wife and a child, and I really didn't see a few bare-knuckle sons who could treat the old woman well.
I don't know what this kind of woman's life is trying to do.
I sometimes look at problems that may be seen decades later, so I wouldn't be so stupid as a mother-in-law.
At the same time, I also feel that some women pay almost all of their time and energy for their sons, and they don't get as much feedback as they think.
Don't have such big expectations and obsessions, maybe their lives will be much happier.
The old rule, turn it on to the people who think this article can help her.
I can teach them to quarrel.
I can only teach them to quarrel.
Girls who have not entered the marriage, I would like to teach you how to pick people, how to hold happiness in your own hands.