The marriage of one generation is enough to determine the fate of three generations.
Shakespeare said, "Sloppy marriages are less happy." ”
Marriage directly affects the happiness of two people in the second half of their lives, and also determines the fate of two families.
Do not marry in a hurry because of the right age, nor can you ignore other factors because of the appearance of the other party's money.
Marriage pays attention to the door to the door, and looking at the family situation before marriage can make people take many detours.
As a parent, after completing the first half of a child's life, you may wish to point out the way for the second half of your child's life.
Please tell your children: you can love freely, but get married, try to find the following three kinds of families.
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Be reasonable and get along
In family education, parents are the child's first teacher, and the family is the child's most important growth environment.
In fact, the marriage of parents is a good reference for children.
The behavior of parents in marriage is the best example for children.
According to relevant reports, children who grow up in a more harmonious family environment are very easy-going, but also very patient, and they are very good at handling things, and getting along with people will make people feel relaxed and happy.
The children raised by family discord are just the opposite, most children are grumpy, impatient, and even somewhat extreme.
Such a person may let you go everywhere when in love, but after marriage, in the chai rice oil and salt, it will reveal an incomprehensible nature.
On the contrary, if the parents have three correct views and are reasonable, such a family must be full of tolerance and understanding.
Most of the children who are "rich" in harmonious families are reasonable.
"Heshun has a hundred blessings, and everything in the family is prosperous", the harmony between husband and wife, and the prosperity of the family are the greatest happiness in a person's life.
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Be filial to your parents and be grateful
The phrase "the attitude towards your parents is actually your truest character" is very reasonable. A family full of love and understanding, the children raised are very filial and know how to be grateful.
Before getting married, the other person's family looks at how they get along with their parents, which can reflect how they will treat themselves and their families when they form a new family in the future.
Filial piety to parents, grateful for such a character, it is very easy to get along.
After forming a new family with the other party, the other party will see your efforts and hardships in the family, will know how to be grateful, share your pressure, and will not argue because of some trivial matters in life, so this kind of child filial piety and grateful family is worth choosing to consider.
As a parent, you must give guidance and suggestions for your child's marriage, and you must check your child's marriage well.
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The family style is upright and proactive
Someone said: "Family style is a wordless book, the source of a person's spiritual growth." ”
Deeply.
Family style is the best heirloom, enough to affect the fate of a family.
In life, some families were originally very rich, but in the end they fell, while some families were originally very poor, but in the end they prospered.
The problem is at home.
Before marriage, the most taboo thing is to see that the other party's family is rich, so they rush to get engaged, afraid of missing out.
Or when they see each other's family situation, they generally plan to break up and show no mercy.
Whether the other person's family is rich or poor, look at where the money comes from and where it goes.
Improper money, wanton squandering people, even if there is a golden mountain and silver mountain can not be asked, the risk is too great;
People who earn money steadily and are diligent and thrifty can generally accept even if they are well-off, and the future can be expected.
The "Yan Family Training" has a saying:
"Living with good people is like entering the room of Zhilan, and it is self-reliant for a long time; living with evil people, like entering the abalone's wanton, and it stinks for a long time."
Parents who gamble well can never teach their children down-to-earth.
Families who are good at taking shortcuts are not worth the rest of our lives.
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Roland said: "You don't have to be reluctant to love, you have to be responsible for marriage." ”
Before young people enter the palace of marriage, they will inevitably be carried away by love.
As a parent, the guidance and advice on the marriage of children are indispensable.
The authorities can be "confused", but the bystanders must be "clean".