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There are some truths that can only be understood if we have personally experienced them, and some principles of dealing with the world can only be truly understood when you become mature.
From childhood to adulthood, we have always learned to be kind to people, and we are trying to establish good relationships with people as much as possible, generally we will not easily turn our faces, but then we slowly find that if you are too kind. All you get in the end is insatiable greed, you are too kind, and it will make others despise you more and more.
I used to firmly believe that kindness must have good rewards, and then slowly understood that people are good and being bullied, when you are too kind, in the eyes of others is a typical example of good bullying, will only let others step on you.
I used to think that people don't have to be too tough, everything must know how to give in, to learn to tolerate, has always believed in taking a step back from the sea and the sky, and later found that for some people your concessions will only let others get inching forward, your heart is soft to the end will only make yourself more and more tired, and others will not have a trace of gratitude from beginning to end.
Too soft-hearted is actually not worthy of admiration, but a disease, because you are always afraid of making others unhappy, always regard other people's ideas as more important than yourself, blindly accommodate others, and let yourself live to become more and more depressed, more and more screwed.
You can be kind, but don't be too kind, you can be soft-hearted, but don't be too soft-hearted, we all need to master a good degree between, not to be bullied, but also not to bully others. Principled fierceness, selective softness.
In the face of people who are sincerely good to you, you should let go, and in the face of people who bully others, you should be fierce, don't be too soft-hearted.
Too soft-hearted, easy to be pinched as a soft persimmon
The situation that "people are good and are deceived, and horses are good and are ridden" often occurs in life.
The kinder you are in the eyes of others, the weaker you are, the softer they will only think that you are a bully.
There are many people in life who are bullying soft and afraid of hard, they will become very timid in the face of those who are strong, and they will not dare to show themselves in front of each other, but when they turn around, they will bully those who are inferior to themselves, and they will not get good fruit to eat in tough people, and they will find a sense of existence in weak people.
In fact, think about the nature of the situation is always like this, you look at those animals, are the weak and strong, standing at the top of the food chain, animals, can catch the food they want at will, and the animals below can only catch weaker than themselves, and living at the bottom of the food chain is doomed to be bullied.
Never overestimate human nature, don't think that your soft heart can let others let you go, the weaker you are, the more you will only let others ride more and more on your head, think you are too good to bully, everyone wants to fish on you, in their place, you are a soft persimmon, as long as others are not happy, they can come to bully you.
People who are too soft-hearted are destined to endure more bullying.
If you are too soft-hearted, you will always let yourself be wronged
People who are too soft-hearted are destined to always let themselves suffer too many grievances.
You have always been reluctant to embarrass anyone, as long as it is something you can do yourself, you will not take the initiative to ask others for help, and what about them? They will think of you for the first time with a little thing, let you help them solve some problems, when they encounter good things, they never think of you, and when they encounter bad things, they will immediately push you to the forefront.
You are reluctant to say a harsh word to others, always try to worry about other people's feelings, even if it is the fault of others, you are always reluctant to criticize them, and you will find reasons in yourself at the first time.
Even if some people bully you frequently, as long as he scolds you and asks you a good word, he will forget all the harm they have done to you before.
They always give you a few slaps, and then give you a candy to eat, and you happily accept it, forgiving them all their previous mistakes. You always think that as long as you are generous and soft-hearted, you can let them see your goodness and thus cherish you in every way. But in the end, it will only bring you deeper and deeper harm.
People who are too soft-hearted always fulfill others and finally wronged themselves, but in the eyes of others, you deserve it.
In the face of rotten people, you need to be ruthless
I like the character of Zheng Juan in "The World", she looks like a very weak woman on the surface, but in fact she is very strong inside.
She is very kind and soft-hearted, always seeing others as more important than herself, always remembering the kindness of others to herself, and ignoring her own dedication to others.
But her soft heart is definitely not a bottomless connivance, and she can also be very tough in the face of some rotten people and bad things, and she will also show a very strong side to the people she wants to protect.
Big Bear was not inferior, saying that Zhou Bingkun was a labor prisoner who came out of prison and did not have any ability, Zhou Bingkun did not have any reaction when he heard this sentence, but Zheng Juan turned around and slapped him, that scene made everyone stunned, even Zhou Bingkun absolutely did not expect his wife to do such an act.
What kind of people to get along with, you have to take what kind of posture, meet those kind people, but also learn to be kind to people, but when encountering some rotten people and bad things, you must be absolutely cruel, your soft heart and tolerance is their connivance.
People who really care about you are reluctant to let you be wronged
There is a saying that people who are willing to embarrass you are not good people at all, so why should you be afraid of embarrassing them?
In fact, in our lifetime, it is impossible to take into account anyone's feelings, nor can we completely please everyone and make everyone satisfied with us, even if you do a good job and then put it in place, there will always be people who will be dissatisfied with you.
So we don't have to care about the feelings of some insignificant people, because after all, they have never put themselves in your shoes.
For people who are not worthy, your tolerance and softness of heart are ultimately exchanged for insatiable greed, frequent demand and repeated hurt. In their hearts, they don't think of you as their own at all, they just want to take advantage of you.
Any relationship that makes you feel wronged is actually not worth maintaining, because the people who really care about you are not willing to let you be wronged.
A person's good is very limited, and can only be given to people who are truly worthy. Give your kindness and softness to those who are good to you, others don't have to care, they should be cruel, the more fierce you are, the more they will make others pay attention to you.