Hearing this question, I am reminded of a friend of mine, I have always felt that their husband and wife get along mode, is the best way to get along between husband and wife in my head, today I will share it with you, I hope that you can find the most suitable love model for yourself after listening.
I have a friend who has been married to his wife for six years, and in the past few years, the two people have been very relaxed and pleasant, rarely contradictory, and every time we ridiculed them as a model couple, he would always laugh and say that his wife was too accustomed to herself.
At first I thought so, and it wasn't until he told me something that I understood that good love was never something that can be achieved by one person's efforts.
The cause of the matter is this, my friend suddenly wanted to eat hot dry noodles from his hometown one day, but because the city where the two of them lived was far from home, he never said it, until one day, his daughter-in-law found that he had been losing his appetite lately, and then asked him, what do you want to eat?
My friend thought about it for a while and said that he wanted to eat hot dry noodles from Wuhan, and he originally thought that his daughter-in-law would not pay attention to him, but unexpectedly, his daughter-in-law immediately agreed.
So the two people bought a train ticket to Wuhan on the same day, and after a dusty rush, the two people finally arrived in Wuhan in the evening, and my friend also ate the hot dry noodles he had in mind, but because it was too late, the two decided to stay in their hometown for one night.
But at this time, my friend suddenly found that his daughter-in-law did not seem to be very interested, and even a little fidgety, and sure enough, when he went to bed at night, his daughter-in-law always turned over and could not sleep, and my friend immediately understood, and a small pillow came out of the suitcase, which was the one that his daughter-in-law usually pillowed at home.
The next day afterwards, his daughter-in-law asked him, why do you still carry pillows? My friend laughed and said, when you went to buy tickets, I was thinking, what if you want to stay there for one night and you recognize the bed like this?
When I heard the story, I understood that my friend's daughter-in-law was used to him, but why didn't he take care of his daughter-in-law in small details? Feelings are the same thing as you plant melons and beans, there are karmic blessings, people must always have a kind heart to treat the people you love, to manage your life and love, in order to maintain a long time.
As the saying goes, the feelings of running in both directions are meaningful, you come firmly to me, and I respond to you warmly.
Two people together, there will always be some unhappy moments, but can trust each other, but also willing to tolerate all the shortcomings of each other, that is, the best love.
So I really envy my friend, he is very good at life, but also very sober, just like he never felt that there is anything in life that cannot be resolved contradictions, he always said, in life you lose something, then this thing will definitely come back in another form, and marriage is like this, you can't stop every difficulty in life, but you can still find a little happiness from every difficulty.
For example, for a long time, in order to let his son learn English well, his daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law put the study, bedroom, and bathroom at home full of English conversations and words, and even in order to create an environment for English communication, they also stipulated that everyone at home must have an hour to speak English, who said that Chinese would lose, and he should be punished to do a day's housework, in short, he must meet the other party's wish.
This method seems to be very nonsensical, but also difficult to achieve, my friend at first also felt speechless, but after insisting on it for a while, he found it quite interesting, because during this time, he and his daughter-in-law have learned sign language and eye contact, which is equivalent to their family at least an hour a day, the two people are communicating with their hands, it is simply not too exciting, and finally although English is not well learned, the family atmosphere is much better.
So you see, marriage is actually not as terrible as imagined, it is not the graveyard of love, whether a thing is good or bad, there are countless endings, you do not necessarily have to make a fuss, or with complaints and criticism to communicate and communicate with each other, husband and wife, why do you have to be stabbed, beckoning the enemy? You think, you are going to go to a distant place together, no matter how many years you have been married, you must learn to love each other well.
Later, my friend told me that the two things I learned the best when I was married for six years were: first, talk well and cooperate silently, because sometimes you may not know what the other party really wants, but if you cooperate well, it is actually another kind of satisfaction.
Another is to always have good intentions in feelings, this kind of kindness does not mean that you have to deliberately be good to him, but in many details of getting along, you can understand and take care of him, just like I said earlier, all causes and effects in the world have blessings, he can love you, accommodate you, and naturally hope that you can give back to him enough gentleness and tolerance.
Because love is originally a two-way rush of two people, and in this life, there will always be such a person who does not live up to your affection, does not treat your sincerity, and is willing to go to the mountains and seas for you, understand?
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C