In everyone's life, there will be many people in their lives, if you let you sort the people involved more once, how will you sort them? In simple terms, if you were asked to sort parents, partners, children, and friends, how would you sort them?
I believe that many people will put parents first, children second, and then some people may be friends, some people may be partners. Why is that? Because parents have the grace of parenting, and children are the continuation of their own lives, friends are the support in life. And the partner, after no love, seems less important.
If someone says that they put their partner first, and actually do what they say, it will often be exchanged for many people saying that he is selfish and unfilial. In fact, after marriage, the relationship between husband and wife should have come first. Confucius said, "The way of a gentleman is to create a husband and wife." And to the end, to the heavens and the earth. This is telling us that we must first handle the relationship between husband and wife and family well, and then we can talk about other aspects of governance.
Of course, in all emotional relationships, putting the relationship between husband and wife first does not mean that the parent-child relationship is not important. On the contrary, couples with good feelings must also respect and honor the parents of both sides, and you have me and I have you, and they will jointly assume the responsibility of supporting their parents.
On the contrary, couples with bad feelings are basically unable to filial piety to each other's parents with their partners. If the reason for the bad feelings is because the partner puts the parent-child relationship in the first place, and the parents are foolishly filial, then the final result is not to live in a chicken feather, or the marriage ends in divorce.
Why do some girls hate marriage?
Around us, what kind of girls are prone to hate marriage? Generally speaking, either they are old enough to be urged by their parents; or they meet eccentric parents, who have not received much love from home since childhood, and especially hope to get married early and have their own family. Wang Li belongs to the latter situation.
Wang Li and Zhao Cheng met by chance, and Wang Li had gone through countless blind dates before, all of which could not be resolved for various reasons. She was born into an ordinary family, and her parents favored her son, so she wanted to have a family of her own through marriage early on.
She thinks that in this way she can get a warm family and love her husband, so she hates marriage very much. After getting along with Zhao Cheng several times, the impression was good, and the two quickly established a romantic relationship. Because there was no long-term love and marriage was heartfelt, Wang Li agreed to the marriage proposal on the basis of not knowing much about Zhao Cheng.
It is even more completely ignoring the dissatisfaction of the in-laws and sister-in-law with themselves, and firmly believing that everything can be solved when they are married. After the parents of the two sides bumped into each other to talk about marriage, she and Zhao Cheng completed the wedding and entered the married life.
Hate to marry to flash marriage, after marriage found that the in-laws are "strange"
After getting married, Wang Li was under the same roof as her in-laws and sister-in-law, and she and Zhao Cheng discussed it, working hard to make money and buy a house and move out. But at that time, she was immersed in hot love, and she did not realize how perfunctory her boyfriend's reply was. We all know how difficult the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, if you add a little sister-in-law who loves to add oil and vinegar, there will definitely be many contradictions in the days of getting along, not to mention that the in-laws are not satisfied with this daughter-in-law.
Soon after her marriage, Wang Li found that whether it was her in-laws or sister-in-law, they were all strange. Because they are very double standard, buying things by themselves, whether it is expensive or cheap, whether it is bought in a physical store or an online store, it does not matter. But as long as Wang Li buys something, she will be accused of being a loser. The funny thing is that what Wang Li bought, everyone in this family is using.
What overtime can not be too late, and can not make much money, why do you want to come back so late, is it not to do housework; cooking, either salty or light; laundry mopping, either not clean or the way is not right. There was even a scene where Wang Li traveled for a week, and the family ate a week's takeaway, and then a pile of garbage and dirty clothes at home.
There are countless things like this, and Wang Li is disappointed. Of course, she was relatively receptive to her in-laws and sister-in-law's difficulties. What she was cold about was that when she told her husband about these things, the other party did not have a non-committal attitude, said too much, and let Wang Li endure it, not too emotional, saying that ten years of daughter-in-law became a wife, every woman is like this.
Disappointed in the marriage, after the child was full moon, filed for divorce
Half a year after marriage, Wang Li became pregnant, and it was this news that made her dispel the idea of divorce. Before that, Wang Li thought about divorce. After all, she wanted the warmth of the family, not the experience of being a nanny. But now that she was pregnant, thinking about the child in her belly, and thinking about the warmth of being in love, she chose to give this marriage another chance.
Wang Li thought that when she was pregnant, her in-laws would be kinder to herself, and her husband would also pay more attention to herself. But unfortunately, after Wang Li became pregnant, nothing changed except that she did not have to cook. The booing she wanted to ask for warmth didn't get it after all. It is even more because the mother-in-law is a little greasy to cook, hoping to make a little light, and let the mother-in-law get angry, let her a pregnant woman cook her own food.
There is no way, Wang Li really can't eat her mother-in-law's dishes, she can only cook for herself, even in the third trimester of pregnancy, she has a big belly, and she still has to cook for herself three meals a day. And Zhao Cheng did not have a trace of heartache, and even felt that she was pretentious. After all, the mother-in-law felt that burning twice separately was a waste of money. The number of complaints with his son is more, and Zhao Cheng also feels that his wife is unnecessary, and he loses the family by becoming pregnant.
The straw that crushed this marriage finally appeared after Wang Li gave birth to her daughter. The mother-in-law likes her grandson, and in the face of Wang Li, who gave birth to a granddaughter, her face is not her face, and her nose is not her nose. Throughout the pregnancy, Wang Li gritted her teeth and held back, in order not to fall ill, she could only eat the leftovers given by her mother-in-law, sometimes even instant noodles. Of course, Wang Li also told her husband that confinement cannot be poorly nutritious, nor can she eat instant noodles.
But Zhao Cheng was still silent, Wang Li was completely cold, she tried to persist until the child was full moon, and filed for divorce. At first, Zhao Cheng was still a little hesitant, but the mother-in-law instigated it next to him, after all, he was not satisfied with this daughter-in-law, and he gave birth to a girl, and it was best to divorce, and his son could still marry again. In this way, Zhao Cheng signed a divorce.
Divorced for 9 years, Wang Li bought a house and a car, and her ex-mother-in-law regretted it
After the divorce, Wang Li was alone with the child, and it was really not easy at first. The mother's family is definitely unreliable, there is no "falling stone", pestering Wang Li to ask for money, which is very good. Fortunately, Wang Li also worked hard herself, and when she met a nobleman, she initially rented a house and took her children to work part-time at home. Later, when the child went to the nursery, she began to return to the workplace.
Selling this work, harvest and effort are directly proportional. Wang Li's efforts and intentions have allowed her to sit in the position of director from a small sales, and her salary and commission are also rising. After 9 years of divorce, her daughter went to primary school, obedient and sensible, and she also bought a house and a car, and her life was full and happy.
And Zhao Cheng's family, as before, has not changed in the slightest. Zhao Cheng did not think about remarrying, when he and Wang Li divorced, he decided not to get married again, and it was different to take his eldest daughter well. Soon after Zhao Cheng's divorce, he began to go on a blind date. But he soon found that Wang Li was able to compromise the marriage request that she had agreed to, and no one could agree to it. Coupled with the fact that the city is not large, people with hearts can probably know the reason for Zhao Cheng's divorce, and who wants to jump this fire pit again?
So many years later, Zhao Cheng's mother found that she had no way to get her son to remarry, and the former daughter-in-law now had a house and a car, and she regretted it. However, she is not a good person in her bones, naturally she will not really have a guilty heart, she just regrets that she did not see that Wang Li can make money so much.
She thought that Wang Li was still single and could not let go of her son, so she came to the door and said with a straight face: "You would not have been better off this way earlier, now be more obedient, hurry back and remarry my son." At first, Wang Li thought that she was the child's grandmother, and when she was soft-hearted, she let her enter the door, and as soon as the other party said this, Wang Li smiled angrily. He said: "You dream, think about how your family treated me in the first place, now I see that I have a house and a car, your son can't marry a wife, and he wants to provoke me, are you stupid to me?" After Wang Li finished speaking, she drove Zhao Cheng's mother away.
The end of the story
There is a saying on the Internet: "Marriage is not necessarily for happiness, but divorce must be for happiness." This statement may be a bit absolute, but the truth is actually correct. Marriage is not easy, everyone who walks into marriage basically wants to go to the whitehead. If it weren't for the fact that there was really no way and the contradictions were irreconcilable, how could they choose divorce?
It is not that after divorce, it must not be remarried, but the premise is that the problem caused by divorce has been solved, and there is still room for redemption of the feelings between you. Both are indispensable. If the problems that caused divorce persist and the feelings are long gone, then there is no point in remarriage. After all, you divorced to escape from such a life, so why do you have to remarry and jump into the original whirlpool after you have set up a family by yourself?
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