When parents look for a son-in-law for their daughters, they all want to find a good condition and take care of the family, and when they find a daughter-in-law for their sons, they also want to find a capable and virtuous. This is the wish of many parents, but most of the time the other half of the child is not so perfect, but many parents will still respect the opinion of their children and choose to accept the partner of their own choice.
But there are also some parents who always insist on their own views and stick to their own decisions, and when the other half of their children are not satisfactory, they can never cross the hurdle in their hearts, and they can never sincerely accept the imperfection of their daughter-in-law or son-in-law. And such ideas, the attitude is maintained for a long time, they always can't help but want to divorce the child and find a more suitable person for them.
However, the so-called suitability is considered by the child himself, and it is also two people who really live together to get along. Thinking about problems from their own perspective like parents may end up with a worse outcome. Just like many people pursue the right door, it is not so important to pursue whether the conditions are equal in the end, because for a parent, it seems that no one can be worthy of their children.
01. Husband with excellent conditions
Hou Jiaqi and Xu Hao met under the introduction of a blind date agency, and after meeting each other for the first time, Hou Jiaqi actually had a very good impression of Xu Hao.
Because Xu Hao himself is indeed a man with good conditions in all aspects, his looks and height are very good, and more importantly, Xu Hao can have a stable and high-paying job at this age, which is definitely the kind of marriage object that many girls want to find.
After the end of this blind date, Hou Jiaqi just returned home, just like the institution inquired about Xu Hao's impression of himself, originally Hou Jiaqi also had some tante, because his conditions in all aspects were indeed relatively ordinary, except for his personality and appearance, the others were not as good as Xu Hao.
But what surprised Hou Jiaqi was that Xu Hao actually had a good impression of himself, and bluntly said that he liked a gentle and enthusiastic girl like himself. This made Hou Jiaqi very happy. Under Hou Jiaqi's own initiative and the help of the organization, the two people also made several appointments after that, and gradually got closer.
However, since it is a blind date, in fact, most of them are rushing to get married, and the two of them are no exception, so after half a year together, Hou Jiaqi and Xu Hao talked about getting married.
"Let me be honest with you, I don't have these requirements for my own future wife, I just want to find a virtuous and capable one, because I am a single parent, I need a good wife to take care of my mother, you see if you yourself are willing to do it?" If I could, I would have no problem getting married. Xu Hao was also more frank, bluntly saying that he just wanted to find someone to take care of his mother.
It is also more coincidental that Hou Jiaqi's family conditions are not good, so since she was a child, she needs Hou Jiaqi to help share these things in the family, so Hou Jiaqi is very handy for housework, and the nature required by Xu Hao is also very in line with it.
Therefore, the two people hit it off and agreed to meet each other's parents at a time, Hou Jiaqi's parents are very fond of Xu Hao's son-in-law, and in order to make her daughter marry more smoothly, the requirements on the bride price are particularly low, Hou Jiaqi understands the meaning of her parents, they want to marry a good family, so they would rather not want anything.
This also made Hou Jiaqi feel touched in her heart, and she was a little sad, and she also decided that she must be Xu Hao's wife, and she may not be able to give her parents a better life in the future.
02. Look down on people's mother-in-law
But Hou Jiaqi still thought it was simpler, after all, such a good condition as Xu Hao, even if Xu Hao's own requirements were relatively low, but Xu Hao's family did not necessarily think so.
Xu Hao's mother is a person who has high requirements for her future daughter-in-law, so at the first sight of seeing Hou Jiaqi, she directly lost her good face, and in the whole process of meeting, she has been yin and yang, either disgusted with Hou Jiaqi's family conditions are not good, or dislike Hou Jiaqi for not having a good job and no ability.
If it were not for Xu Hao's maintenance and firmness, it is estimated that Hou Jiaqi would have been forced to retreat by Xu Hao's mother long ago.
However, it was precisely because of Xu Hao's words that Xu Hao's mother finally agreed to the marriage between the two of them, but because of the events when they met, Hou Jiaqi had always been worried, even after marriage, there was some fear for this mother-in-law.
But Xu Hao's only request for Hou Jiaqi is to take good care of her mother-in-law, so Hou Jiaqi can only be her scalp to please her mother-in-law, but Hou Jiaqi also has some luck in her heart, feeling that as long as she behaves well, one day her mother-in-law will recognize herself.
But as the days passed, Hou Jiaqi found that her mother-in-law either ignored her love and answers, or was yin and yang, and even sometimes praised the daughters of others in front of her own face, such a treatment made Hou Jiaqi very sad, but whenever she went to communicate with Xu Hao, Xu Hao always let Hou Jiaqi remember that she must let her mother be filial to her mother.
Hou Jiaqi understood that for Xu Hao, her mother-in-law was more important, and she seemed to be a joke in this family.
Therefore, Hou Jiaqi no longer asked for so much, after all, in addition to the difficulties of her mother-in-law, the remaining aspects were not bad, but Hou Jiaqi never thought that her mother-in-law was actually forced to divorce xu Hao.
Perhaps seeing that Hou Jiaqi had some relief, the mother-in-law who did not have a good face for Hou Jiaqi before suddenly became attentive, and always gave Hou Jiaqi something, and also let Hou Jiaqi go back to patch up her parents, Hou Jiaqi did not think much, and did as her mother-in-law said.
03. The ex-mother-in-law wants to remarry herself
However, after a few months of such a thing, the mother-in-law suddenly attacked one day, accusing Hou Jiaqi of stealing the family's things to supplement the mother's family, Hou Jiaqi could not say clearly, Xu Hao did not believe himself, just like this, Hou Jiaqi was completely chilled, under the persecution of the mother-in-law, chose to agree to divorce Xu Hao.
After the divorce, Hou Jiaqi thoroughly understood that instead of finding good conditions, it is better to find a true heartache and love for herself, only in this way, she is equal in marriage, and it is not easy to be bullied.
Therefore, Xiao Li also walked out quickly, and under the introduction of his parents, he met a man who was also married twice, but his personality was really very honest.
Neither of the two people dislikes each other, so they quickly entered the palace of marriage, and although this marriage does not have such good conditions as before, hou Jiaqi can say that the family's affairs are up to account, and her husband also respects himself and loves himself, so Hou Jiaqi is really happy.
These words directly stunned Hou Jiaqi, and under the explanation of her mother-in-law's half-concealment and half-complaint, Hou Jiaqi understood that after her divorce, Xu Hao soon discovered her mother-in-law's slander, and she also had a little opinion about her mother, and she was no longer willing to marry for the second time so quickly.
And at this time, the mother-in-law finally remembered Hou Jiaqi's goodness in a person's life, remembered Hou Jiaqi's proper care, which wanted Hou Jiaqi to come back and remarry, but the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, even if it is soft, it is absolutely impossible to sincerely apologize to Hou Jiaqi, so she feels that she has given Hou Jiaqi a chance, still so high.
Unfortunately, Hou Jiaqi is now living happily, and she will soon give birth, so she doesn't need it, "I also confinement, you find someone else." ”
The older generation always says that the door is not right, marriage will not be happy, in fact, there is a certain reason, because many times the family environment and a person's personality are closely related, and the growth environment and family conditions will also cast a person's vision and insight. Therefore, even if two young people look at each other and do not care about each other's conditions, it is possible that their parents will not let go of such differences.
Aren't Hou Jiaqi and Xu Hao such an example? Hou Jiaqi felt that Xu Hao's conditions were good, and Xu Hao only wanted to find a wife who took care of the family, so the two of them did not care about the differences between them. However, Hou Jiaqi's mother-in-law did not think so, she hated Hou Jiaqi, looked down on Hou Jiaqi, forced Hou Jiaqi to divorce, but wanted to find someone to serve herself, and wanted Hou Jiaqi to come back and remarry.
Therefore, in many marriages with wrong doors, the biggest obstacle between husband and wife is often their parents. Because for parents, their children are always the best and always deserve better. With the blessing of such thoughts, they will always look down on the other half of the child, and once this look down is particularly strong, it is a disaster for marriage.