"The rest of your life, please give more advice" has been broadcast for more than half of the time, and the emotional line of the male and female protagonists has been very clear from the beginning, but it is completely without the enthusiasm of the previous love dramas, but it slowly tells the different stages of development of love.
According to relevant research in psychology and sociology, the development of love often goes through several characteristic stages, namely the halo period, the cognitive run-in period, and the rational bland period. The literal meaning of these three stages is easy to understand, from the beginning of mutual attraction, that is, to feel that you are good everywhere, people in love often idealize each other and become so-called
"Brainless", but the love affair in this case, it is often difficult to pass the cognitive run-in period, the artistic color in the film and television drama will often fictionalize the effect of the halo period, in order to set off the sweet emotional color, which makes many people in love more eager to have an idealized individual, it is more difficult to pass the run-in period, and "The Rest of Life" will come out of such a cliché, with a mature love relationship to open the long journey of the rest of life.
First, Gu Wei's love is born of setbacks
Gu Wei, played by Xiao Zhan, holds the emotions of rational love very vividly, without exaggerated performances, without greasy teasing, and without the dog blood of giving up everything for love.
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The age of Gu Wei learns to work hard and seriously, hard work, although it has reached the age of establishment, but because of the interpersonal cleanliness and emotional cleanliness created by the growth environment from childhood, the emotional experience is very thin, although people look old-fashioned, but the mentality has never been civilized, there is no wave, perhaps in his view life should be so, as always. If Gu Wei did not encounter setbacks that made his mentality change, shaking the belief he has always insisted on, perhaps his whole life will not change, that flexible love can not be born at all, his life, may really choose a "female version of Gu Wei", gao Xiping, who he does not love but does not dislike, will live a life. Just like in life, many middle-aged couples look back at their marriages and suddenly find that people who have slept next to them for many years may not love at all, nor do they know what true love is, have never experienced what "true love" is, and have always thought that "appropriate" is "love".
Second, Gu Wei's path of pursuing love is rational and calm
Gu Wei since he found that he liked Lin Zhi School, even if he had unique conditions, he did not launch a passionate pursuit, a little temptation, whether Lin Zhi School has a boyfriend, let Lin Zhi School know that he is also single, but also hope to get like her and her mother to take care of Lin Teacher, hope to invite her to his home as a guest, provide various support and help for Lin Zhi School, again and again hint at his willingness to be with Lin Zhi School, without a trace of rational thinking in love to occupy most of the time together, However, these rational thoughts did not affect the sweetness of the interaction between the two, but paved a calm atmosphere for the road of the two people's interaction. Such a slowly rational expression of love is
The beginning of the "rest of your life".
Third, in the face of misunderstanding, Gu Wei was introverted and close, and retained goodwill
Misunderstandings seem to be indispensable in the development of love
"Dessert" is also the only way to test whether the relationship between the two parties in love is strong, when Gu Wei mistakenly thought that Lin Zhixue liked Shi Brother, the mature Gu Wei chose to give up, he used the way of deliberately maintaining the relationship, tried to withdraw his love for Lin Zhixue, but never withdrew his kindness to Lin Zhixue, he still cared about Lin Zhixue's treatment, and argued on the things he insisted on being good to Lin Zhixue, even if he was rejected by Lin Zhixue, he had no remorse. Such a malicious, restrained love is a lasting, increasingly mature love.
"The rest of your life, please give more advice" is like a glass of light wine, to be tasted, to be fermented, leading the love of the times to gradually mature.