In this life, the most important reincarnation, in addition to birth, is to marry. When every woman gets married, she will look forward to spending the rest of her life with each other in peace, once in a lifetime and a couple.
But where is it so easy to go smoothly during marriage? The process of running into each other is so long that it is easy to pile up some friction in the heart, which leads to a strong confrontation. But as long as the original intention is still the same, over time, everything will go smoothly.
In fact, in marriage, the most feared thing is not the dispute between the husband and wife, the most feared is to meet friends who often say these three things to you, if they say these three things with you, remember to stay away!
The first: always belittle your family and exalt your own family
There are some so-called friends, their hearts are very insecure and sense of identity, even if they are not satisfied, but when you complain to them about what happened in the family, the other party will become a confidant, a strong to degrade your family.
Whether it is your lover or the elders of the family, you can be said to be worthless by him, as if you are unlucky to get married, you should not choose their home.
After saying that, you will be complacent and boast about your family, the harmony of husband and wife, the mutual respect of in-laws and concubines, how comfortable they are at home, and then suppress you again.
In fact, this kind of person's personality is very paranoid, he stubbornly lives in his own imagination, only want to satisfy his own vanity by suppressing the other party, so that he feels that he is successful and should be respected.
Once you listen to the words of this kind of person and go to your heart, you will feel that everywhere in the family is not pleasing to the eye, all because you have entered this family, you can have a good choice, over time, contradictions are easy to form, and eventually lead to looking at everyone unpleasant, serious and even divorced.
Just like in one of our groups, there was a girl who said that she was bullied by her mother-in-law, did not eat a good meal during the confinement period, and also washed her own clothes, her husband could not count on it, everyone was comforting, at this time another girl jumped out and said directly:
"My mother-in-law is super nice to me, I said what she does, and my husband also specifically told his mother to be better for me, now here is simply not too comfortable, you are too weak, too good bullying, not like me, hard nature, they dare not say anything, your husband is also a waste, you marry him is really blind!" 」 How did you look at him in the first place! What a sin! ”
As soon as this word came out, everyone else was stunned, a sad nursing mother, looking for comfort, such an unknown person jumped out to accuse and show off, such a person really has empathy?
But I can also imagine that people who say such things may not have a good life, and women who really have a good life are very peaceful and gentle, and not so aggressive, you say?
The second point: people who have always told you about their troubles after marriage but have not solved them
Among friends, what should be said and what should not be said, in fact, as an adult, you know. But if one thing is said over and over again, but it is not solved, it really becomes Xianglin sister-in-law, which is sad in the early stage and annoying in the later stage.
After marriage, in fact, whether it is for marriage or family relations, we must maintain a positive attitude to deal with, can not handle it, and then consider making the next decision.
And in marriage, if the same of your friends have been telling you about some of their mother-in-law relationships, husband and wife relationships, and then all kinds of cursing, all kinds of crying, you comfort once or twice is no problem, but every time it is like this, for a long time, you will also be affected.
Because from her marriage, you will not see the good side, chatting with such a person, is very tiring, will make you doubt the marriage.
Don't feel like you have the ability to accept it all, but when you're in it, you'll find that you're so tired.
One person's aura will affect another person, and her resentment and trivial problems will make you have a new perspective on many things in marriage.
The influence between friends is great.
Just like in "The Rest of My Life", Lin Zhixue listened to two friends, obviously she did not have any problems with Dr. Gu, but she felt that Dr. Gu must have meant so, and then the contradiction arose.
It's not married yet! What if you get married? The family still has to live, and every day for that little thing is endless.
Therefore, for such friends, we must stay away.
The third: people who have always said that they can also live well after divorce
I don't know if I had a good time after the divorce, but the people who say this are obviously not doing well. What deep hatred must persuade people to divorce?
Even if there is a contradiction in the other party's family, as a friend you can give a comfort on the side, but don't always say that you can live well after divorce, you see who is who, don't you live well, you are too stupid, how about divorce.
Once the other party really has the idea of divorce and really pays action, in the end can you be responsible for her life?
Before there was a news, there was a girl because of friction with her husband, she and her girlfriend went to cry, the girlfriend and she has been scolding the man, but also instigated her divorce, saying that she can also find a better man for divorce, and single and free.
After a long time, the woman listened to it and proposed a divorce from her husband. His husband went from being inconceivable at the beginning to persuading and pleading, until he saw that she had made up his mind, and he fulfilled her.
After a short time, the woman regretted it, because her husband was really good to her, the two people were nothing more than a little friction, but she listened to her girlfriend's words and really divorced, and now she wants to go to her ex-husband to remarry, but found that her ex-husband already has a new girlfriend.
At this time, the woman repented, really regretted listening to the so-called girlfriend's words, and went to a good divorce.
People are like this, easily influenced by the words of others.
So in marriage, if you want to go on smoothly, and the friends who say these three things to you, break off your friendship as soon as possible, they do not put your difficulties in mind, but impose their own will to make themselves feel happy, all the results, after all, are not happening to them.
What do you say?