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After watching "Please Give More Advice for the Rest of Your Life", the ending is a fairy tale-like consummation, and since then Gu Wei and Lin Zhi have lived a happy life. Although it is very fairy tale, I believe that they can have their own marital happiness.
Some readers left a message saying that in reality, Gu Wei will not choose Lin Zhi School, only Gao Hun, I think not, in reality, as long as Gu Wei will still choose Lin Zhi School. Even if it is considered that peers can understand each other, but in reality, looking for particularly busy peers, there is no doubt that there is a person who has to make sacrifices and concessions, which is unfair to anyone, on the contrary, complementary occupations can better manage marriage.
Some friends also said that Lin Zhixue is a cellist, and he also participates in performances all over the world, and he can't take care of his family. I said that according to the character of Lin Zhixue, she was more likely to do work related to cellists after marriage than to fly all the time to participate in performances.
The reason for this is that on the one hand, women in the workplace have to face the real problems, lin school also has to face, that is, pregnancy and childbirth, in a stage can not take into account the career, is the state of life that women have to face. It's not a nuisance, it's a life choice.
Regarding whether to give up the career to complete the family, this question can not simply be labeled as right or wrong, good or bad, but depends on the feelings of the parties, only to make themselves physically and mentally happy and happy to accept, is their best choice.
Why is it that Gu Wei and Lin's school can achieve fairytale happiness?
First, let's talk about Lin's School. Hayashi is a girl with a dream, but she also admits that she is not a particularly talented girl, and from this point of view, she will make a trade-off between family and career, and is more inclined to choose in favor of the family.
Although Lin Zhixue is much younger than Gu Wei, she is not a girl who likes to rely on others, on the contrary, she is a girl who can take care of people. Loving a person has its own unique way of expression, Lin Zhixue will think of sending food to Gu Wei and washing fruits for Gu Wei, although these things seem to be the interaction of two people in love on the surface, in fact, it also indicates the interaction mode of two people after marriage.
When in love, Lin Zhixue can already accept the particularity of Gu Wei's profession, and she also understands that he will be summoned by work anytime and anywhere, so after marriage, she can more adapt to and face the family responsibilities she has to bear when Gu Wei is not there.
Sanmao said that if love is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping, it is not easy to last forever. It can be said that Lin Zhixue is ready to enter the marriage, even if it will be busy, it will not be noisy.
Let's look at Gu Wei again. Love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two people, or more people involved. Gu Wei has a strong sense of responsibility, which means that he values his family more. When he rejected Gao Huan, he said that he did not want to return home or was discussing work, and it can be seen from here that he has requirements and expectations for family life.
For Gu Wei, even if the work is hard, he will not talk about work when he returns home, but will participate in trivial things in the family, and because of his work, he will not be able to take care of Zhou Quanlin's school, and this guilt will make him do more things for Lin's school at home to make up for his guilt.
If marriage is a round dance, if you want two people to perform smoothly and perfectly, you have to have a harmonious dance step between the two sides, there is a tacit understanding between one in and one retreat, there is understanding in your comings and goings, Gu Wei and Lin Zhi school can do it, this point has been run-in since they fell in love.
Moreover, from Gu Wei's handling of his parents' acceptance of Lin Zhixue, it can be seen that he has respect for Lin Zhixue, and Even if Lin Zhixue is at home full-time, he will not worry about being punched in the face, on the contrary, Gu Wei will cherish her more because of Lin Zhixue's choice.
The last point I want to say, and the most important point in marriage, is that Gu Wei and Lin Zhixue are both emotionally stable people. For marriage, the emotional stability of both parties means the stability of the marriage. The stability of this emotion is not the professional coldness of Gu Wei and Gao Huan, but it means that when dealing with things, you can consider the problem objectively and maturely, and you will not do low-end things because of emotional fluctuations.
Especially Lin Zhixue, although she is young, her thinking is still rational and mature. When his good friend Yin Xi and Jin Shi quarreled in the hotel, Lin Zhixue reminded Jin Shi that it was the biggest joke to continue to argue like this.
What is the difference between inside and outside? What is clear boundaries? Lin Zhixue was very clear, she knew what was most urgently needed to be solved, what was most important, and what could be solved later when an emergency occurred.
In addition, lin zhixue solves problems by actively considering and acting positively. When she knew that Gu Wei had an accident, her first reaction was to find Gu Wei and tell Gu Wei to face it and actively communicate to resolve the crisis. It was also Lin Zhixue that made Gu Wei change the way he faced the world.
Gu Wei's emotional stability is manifested in the expression of feelings, he loves Lin's school, but he will not blindly love, the boundary is also very clear, although this emotional interaction is less romantic, but in the marriage is really consolidated feelings, to the marriage is more down-to-earth and warm.
Yang Dai wrote in "The Two of Us" that our family is very simple, and the three of us are very simple. We ask for nothing, we have no quarrel with people, we just want to get together, stay together, and do what we can. When we encounter difficulties, we bear them together, and the difficulties are no longer difficult; we accompany each other, no matter what bitter and difficult things, they can become sweet. When we are a little happy, we will also become very happy.
Looking at Wei and Lin's school, whether from the personality aspect or the way they deal with things, you can see that their married life will be as harmonious as Mr. Yang Dai said, they can have their own marital happiness, and you can also find your own happiness, right?
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