Author: Xuan Xiaolei
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Gao Huan in "Please Give More Advice for the Rest of Your Life", learning that Gu Wei has proposed to Lin Zhixiao, is very disappointed and sad, and comes to the roof of the hospital alone.
After Gu Wei went up, she asked him, "Why did you propose so quickly?" A little abrupt. ”
Gu Wei said: "In fact, the first day I interacted with her, I rushed to get married. It's just that the plan is advanced now. ”
Gao Huan said: "For so many years, I have always felt that as long as I am by your side and wait for you, you will definitely see my good one day." Although I have accepted the fact that you are together, sometimes I still can't help but wonder what I didn't do well and feel like a failure. ”
Gu Wei said, "You must not think like this, you are really excellent, and there are many people who like you." How to say it, it is like some people like Chinese medicine, some people like Western medicine, do they have to win or lose? I really hope you can find your own happiness... I really hope that someone around you can take care of you..."
Gao Huan's performance and psychology are the common voice of all unrequited lovers.
Initially not accepted, will not give up, because feel that if you insist on it, there is still hope, as long as he is still single, he may get him at any time.
But then I saw that he was in love, very painful, obviously felt that I could give up here, but I still didn't want to, thinking that he was not married, and he still had hope.
In the end, when people got married, they were completely desperate. But there are also some people who are more persistent and think that they may divorce...
To wait like this endlessly is really a delay in your life and feelings.
But there is no way, some people are indeed the object of unrequited love, it is difficult to find a better than him, such as Gu Wei, in Gao Huan's view, no one can compare with him. Without him, others may be second to themselves.
Of course, this may only be because the heart is not open, there is no need to know more people, and there is no heart to discover the goodness of others.
It is precisely because that object is too good and irreplaceable, so after losing him, his comfort is no matter how reasonable, no matter how good it sounds, it is useless.
Just like Gu Wei's words, it is indeed reasonable, people can not be compared, each has its own good, but people have their own good, radish cabbage, are the same good food, but everyone's taste is different.
Unfortunately, many times, we understand the truth, but we still can't help but doubt ourselves, and if we don't get him, we think that we are not good enough, and the sense of failure cannot be avoided.
At this time, no matter how much he comforted himself, encouraged himself, and raised himself, it was useless.
Only when you put aside this obsession and let go of your attachment to the "get" can you face up to your own good and bad, and can you see the good and bad of other opposite sexes.
Before that, I would only feel that "the person I like is incomparable, no one can replace".
Maybe this is the case, but the other party does not accept your affection, and continuing to amplify his "good" will only make him more uncomfortable, more painful, more tormented.
Therefore, when unrequited love is fruitless, the comfort of others is basically useless. In particular, the praise of the parties is more like a purpose and means of "smoothly and quickly pushing yourself away".
Those words that exalt you are nothing more than to make you confident and happy, so as to let go of him smoothly, not to entangle him, and not to affect his new life.
Of course, he does want you to be well, probably grateful for your liking for him. The second is that I feel ashamed in my heart and feel that I have no choice but to fail you. The third is that you live well so that you don't disturb his life.
Understand these points, you should accept his praise for you, whether true or false, but also to be confident, but also to be positive and strong. After all, there are many things in life that you can't get, just stick to it and try your best.
From another point of view, the person who seems irreplaceable, really together may not be very suitable and happy, he does not choose himself, it is indeed not because he is not good enough, but he does not need such a good, do not like such a good.
In this world, there will always be people who are more suitable for us, who are more tacit and sweeter together, who feel better, with such hopes, and look to the future.
Put the person who can't be loved behind him, like Gao Huan, and finally give him a "wish you happiness" instruction, no longer pestering the other party, but also letting go of himself.