What is your view of the AA system? Do you think this payment method is suitable for couples?
On this question, Xiao Qiqi asked several friends around him and got a different answer.
Girlfriends can accept AA when they are in love, but they do not accept marriage AA: "When you are in love, you pay each other, I can accept it, after all, this matter is not accurate!" Who knows if two people will eventually enter the palace of marriage. In case of a breakup, does this money man want or not? If you want to, you seem to be too stingy, calculating, and falling; if you don't want it, the money will be adrift, who can be happy? But marriage is not the same, there is no AA at all. You say money AA, I also want to ask, I need to be pregnant in October to have children, suffer a lot, and even take my life to fight, can you replace me for five months? How is this account calculated? ”
Colleague Liu Juan does not accept AA, whether it is during the love period or when getting married: "The man who is willing to spend money for you does not necessarily love you, but the man who is unwilling to spend money on you does not love you, even this little money has to be calculated, how dare I live with him for a lifetime?" ”
As a boy who is in love, Xiao Li gave his own opinion: "To see the amount, if it is only a few meals or some gifts of small amount, I bought it for her, it doesn't matter, I also take my girlfriend to the restaurant on the weekend, a meal is less than 100, my girlfriend wants AA, I did not promise." However, if I were to take a few thousand yuan to buy her jewelry and bags, my wife could, my girlfriend could not do it for the time being, after all, I was not sure that we would really get married, and I could not afford such a loss. ”
Jane Austen wrote in Pride and Prejudice: "Marriages that think only of money are absurd, and marriages that do not consider money are stupid." ”
It is difficult for a smart woman to cook without rice, to manage marriage, just to see love, it is impossible to be sentient and full of water, and the monetary factor cannot be ignored.
For AA, Xiaoqi is more supportive of the girlfriend's view, when in love, due to greater instability, girls should not take advantage of men excessively, there is nothing wrong with taking AA, but marriage is different.
In marriage, men and women have their own roles, there is no substitute, can not be measured by money, take the AA way, is not fair.
A few days ago, 35-year-old Wang Xuan ended the cooling off period of divorce, got a divorce certificate, and turned her husband, Mr. Liu, into an ex-husband.
After getting the divorce certificate, Wang Xuan felt very happy and lamented that he had finally been relieved. And Wang Xuan's marriage was defeated in the marriage AA system.
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Marriage AA, is Wang Xuan's husband Mr. Liu proposed, at that time, Wang Xuan was seven months pregnant, because of the energy can not keep up with the requirements of the work, was squeezed by the company, has lost his job, at this time Mr. Liu proposed marriage AA, you can imagine how selfish he is.
"He's not only selfish, he's calculating. He didn't mention it early or late, but waited until I was seven months pregnant to mention it, why? Obviously. Early, I don't do it, turn my face, I can give up the child in my belly, divorce him, and now mention, if I give up the child, I will inevitably hurt the body, and I am reluctant to do it. ”
Although Wang Xuan strongly opposed AA, her husband was hard-hearted and unilaterally implemented AA.
That is to say, since then, the man no longer tells Wang Xuan his salary income, nor does he turn it in, but asks Wang Xuan to send him bills when dealing with every family's common living expenses, such as utilities, etc., and he transfers half of the money to Wang Xuan, as for Wang Xuan's personal expenses, he does not want to give a penny.
Wang Xuan needs a maternity examination, and the money husband does not come out: "The child is mine, after the birth of his expenses I bear half, the body is yours, you want the obstetric examination has nothing to do with me." ”
Wang Xuan asked him to help bring something, and although he bought it, he immediately asked Wang Xuan for money, even if it was more than a dozen yuan, he would keep urging.
"I gave birth to a son, with his surname, he was good, without thinking about it, he refused to let my mother-in-law wait for me to sit in confinement, saying that his mother was not obliged to serve me."
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Wang Xuan's cold-blooded despair made Wang Xuan feel very disappointed, and she also lost hope in the marriage and began to consider divorce.
"I can't mention divorce so quickly, my husband has a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan, the financial conditions are better, and he can give my son good living conditions." Moreover, the house we lived in was bought by my in-laws before marriage, it was a school district house, I didn't write my name, my son went to school, and he needed this house. ”
In desperation, Wang Xuan had to endure it for the time being, and invited his mother to help serve the confinement and take the child. After taking maternity leave, Wang Xuan immediately went out to find a job.
In order to make herself have more income and no longer look at men's faces, Wang Xuan either signed up for courses after work, learned more knowledge, improved her work skills, or took the initiative to apply for overtime. As a result, Wang Xuan's time spent in the family was greatly reduced, and there was no time to do housework and no time to cook, which caused Mr. Liu's dissatisfaction.
"Don't you want AA?" Where is the reason why only money AA, the others do not care? I made a list of all the housework in the house, and in the future, I will do half of what you do, and if you want me to do more and give money, don't want to take advantage. ”
Mr. Liu could not accept it, believing that Wang Xuan was messing around with him, and Wang Xuan did not bother to take care of him and continued to be busy for himself.
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"Originally, I wanted to wait until the child turned 8 years old, and I could choose to divorce him when I was with me."
However, some time ago, Mr. Liu's mother was operated and admitted to the hospital, which urgently needs to be taken care of.
Although Mr. Liu's father is still there, he is not the material to take care of people, and Mr. Liu does not want to hire a nurse and is reluctant to pay this money, so he hits his wife Wang Xuan, talks with Wang Xuan about filial piety, and asks Wang Xuan to lead by example, set a good example for his son, and resign to take care of his mother.
The mother hospitalized man forced his wife to resign, listening to her husband's unreasonable demands, Wang Xuan unceremoniously shrugged back: "After marriage AA, I don't work, drink the northwest wind?" ”
Mr. Liu apologized to Wang Xuan and proposed that the AA could be cancelled, the money should be spent together, and the responsibility should be borne together, in fact, Wang Xuan's current salary is not as high as Mr. Liu's, but it is only about a thousand. What Mr. Liu thinks, Wang Xuan knows everything, is too lazy to talk nonsense with him, neither agrees to take care of his mother-in-law, nor does he agree to cancel the AA.
Mr. Liu was angry and threatened Wang Xuan with divorce, and Wang Xuan thought twice and agreed: "My son is 7 years old, has gone to school, and relies more on me, my conditions are not bad, I should be able to get custody of the child." ”
Although Mr. Liu was not willing to divorce, he saw that he would not get any benefits from continuing like this, so he had to agree and give up the custody of his son to Wang Xuan.
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Zhang Xiaoxian said: "What best reflects a woman's taste is not her clothes and hobbies, nor the cars she drives, the books she reads, or the decorations at home, but what kind of man she falls in love with." Even if she tastes elegance in other ways, if she falls in love with a bad man, she will fall short. ”
Men who mention AA after marriage are really bad, and it is clear that they want to take advantage of everything. First of all, in terms of childbearing, they can get a child for free without a penny. Women need to endure the hardships of getting pregnant in October, they need to endure the pain of severe childbirth to have children, what do men do? In the end, the children were asked to follow their surnames, for the reason that it was only natural for the Son to follow the Father's surname.
Men spend money on their wives and take care of their pregnant wives, which is also a matter of course.
Second, what they call AA often refers to economic AA, not a thorough AA. In housework, in serving the elderly, they will also use their wives as free nannies in the name of the obligations of women.
Finally, communicate with this kind of person, you can't make sense at all, they mention AA, stop AA, they all want to do whatever they want, with their own interests as the starting point.
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Don't just love a good person, don't just love an excellent man, don't love only a talented man, don't just love a man who loves you and hurts you, please love a man with responsibility." ”
Men who are preoccupied with you in terms of money, only want to get benefits and do not want to pay, are not worth your nostalgia, kick early, stop loss in time, is the best account for themselves.
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