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Halfway couples are difficult, mainly in the problem of children and money, if these two problems are handled well, the remarried family will also be very happy. However, it is not easy to deal with these two problems, because many things are not what you can do alone.
When a remarried couple is old and sick, whether the stepchildren are willing to support the elderly is a big question. Under normal circumstances, many stepchildren will push the elderly to their own children, so at the critical moment, blood is still very important.
Everyone will have an old day, young people or be kind to the old! Parents are role models for children, how you treat the elderly today, and how your children will treat you tomorrow. Filial piety comes first, filial piety and respect for the elderly are the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, which should be carried forward and passed down from generation to generation.
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The mother-in-law was a halfway couple, and after 35 years of marriage, the step-mother-in-law fell ill, and the sister-in-law offered to send her back to her own son's house. The daughter-in-law thought that this should not be the case, and she said to her sister-in-law: "You can also do it, we can't do it." When she was good, you wanted her, and now that she's sick, you have to kick her away. ”
This is what happened in Chen Weiwei's family, and now Chen Weiwei and her husband are taking care of their stepmother. The step-in-law's biological son's family will call some money every month, and they will also visit the mother-in-law on holidays. Let's hear the story of their family.
Self-narrator: Chen Weiwei
Age: 60 years old
Occupation: Retired worker
City: Handan
03
When my husband and I got married, my mother-in-law fell ill and died, and later someone introduced Aunt Zhang to my father-in-law. At that time, Aunt Zhang was 40 years old, a full 15 years younger than my father-in-law. Aunt Zhang is divorced and has a 10-year-old son who was sentenced to her ex-husband.
Aunt Zhang's ex-husband's family is snobbish, because Aunt Zhang's family conditions are poor, and they did not give her a dowry. After she married into her in-laws' family, her mother-in-law looked down on her and troubled her at both ends for three days. The mother-in-law always said bad things about Aunt Zhang in front of her son, so the feelings of the little couple were getting worse and worse, and they later divorced.
When she divorced, Aunt Zhang wanted to take her son, but she didn't have a house, her salary was not high, and her children would suffer with her. Moreover, the in-laws also refused to let go of the children at all, and the mother-in-law said that the grandson was the lifeblood of their family, and death would not be given to Aunt Zhang. Aunt Zhang had no choice but to give up custody of the child.
According to the law, Aunt Zhang has the right to visit after divorce, but the in-laws do not show her children. The mother-in-law always said bad things about Aunt Zhang in front of the child, shaping her into a bad mother who abandoned her child, and slowly the child hated Aunt Zhang.
Because the marriage broke Aunt Zhang's heart, Aunt Zhang originally did not want to remarry. Later, someone introduced my father-in-law to her, my father-in-law had a good temper, the work unit was also good, and when I met Aunt Zhang, my father-in-law was about to retire.
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At that time, the sister-in-law was not yet married, and she had a foreign boyfriend, so she was going to marry out of town. The sister-in-law thought that her mother had died, and she was going to marry far away, my sister-in-law she could not believe, my husband was very busy at work, so the sister-in-law was worried that no one would take care of her father.
When the sister-in-law heard that Aunt Zhang was only 40 years old and did not want to have any more children, she felt that it would be very good for her father to take care of herself. She tried her best to match her father-in-law and Aunt Zhang together, afraid that my husband and I would not agree, and she would also do our ideological work.
My father-in-law pursued Aunt Zhang, and we were very supportive as children, so Aunt Zhang changed her mind and agreed to marry my father-in-law. After Aunt Zhang and her father-in-law got married, the sister-in-law was also going to get married, and Aunt Zhang and her father-in-law handled the marriage for her.
My husband and I have children, saying that we will send the children to let the retired father-in-law bring them, but in fact, Aunt Zhang is helping us to bring them. It may be that Aunt Zhang can't see her son, so she poured her feelings for her son into my son, and I am very grateful to her.
After the sister-in-law's family had children, because the couple was busy doing business, every winter and summer vacation, the children were sent to the mother's house, and the in-laws helped them carry them. Later, the children gradually grew up, but the father-in-law's health was not good, and the mother-in-law took care of him all the time.
05
Because the father-in-law has a mother-in-law to take care of, my family and sister-in-law's family are very relieved. We often have to visit them, and the sister-in-law rarely returns to her mother's house, always saying that she is busy at work.
In the blink of an eye, the in-laws have been married for 35 years, at this time the father-in-law is already a 90-year-old man, and the mother-in-law is also 75 years old. Originally, the mother-in-law had always been taking care of her father-in-law, but one day when the mother-in-law went to pour foot washing water for her father-in-law, she fell down and then fell ill.
In order to facilitate the care of the two elderly people, my husband and I took them to our own home. My husband also informed my sister-in-law and asked her to come to our house to discuss taking care of the elderly
We were going to hire a babysitter, because I was 60 years old, my husband was 61 years old, and we had to help our son and daughter-in-law with our granddaughter, so we couldn't do it.
But when we bought a wedding house for our son and handled the wedding affairs, we had hollowed out our hands. Although the father-in-law has a retirement salary, but the mother-in-law has no retirement salary, the cost of the two of them is not small, mainly to see a doctor to spend more money, so the husband wants to let the sister-in-law also pay some nanny money.
Who knew that the sister-in-law refused, saying that the mother-in-law had a biological son and should let her own son be responsible, so she insisted on sending her mother-in-law to her own son's house.
06
After her mother-in-law divorced her ex-husband, she never saw her son. Every time she brought something to see the child, the in-laws always hid the child, threw her things out, and drove her away with a broom. Later, when the child got older, she went to look for the child, but the child did not recognize her at all and was full of hostility towards her.
When the son got married, the mother-in-law wanted to give him a sum of money, but the son did not want to, nor did he let her participate in the wedding, and did not recognize her as a mother at all. Later, the mother-in-law entrusted her friend, hid it from her son, and gave her daughter-in-law a sum of money. After the daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, the mother-in-law asked a friend to give the daughter-in-law a sum of money, or hid it from her son.
Now send the mother-in-law to her son's house, although her son is legally obliged to support her, but the son has no feelings for her, can he take good care of her? In addition, for 35 years, my mother-in-law has been taking care of her father-in-law, and her time, energy and money have been dedicated to our family.
Now that she's sick and we're going to kick her, how can that make sense? The in-laws' feelings have always been very good, the old saying is "young couples and old companions", how can we take them apart? So I said to my sister-in-law, "If you want to send your mother-in-law away, you can do it, but we can't do it..."
07
The husband was also very angry, so he quarreled with the sister-in-law, and the sister-in-law went back to his house in a huff. My husband said that since the sister-in-law refused to bear the burden, it could only be borne by us, and we had to give her a pension to the end.
I don't have any opinions, my husband and I are also old people, how do we treat our in-laws today, our sons and daughters-in-law are all in the eyes, I don't want to set a bad example for my sons and daughters-in-law.
Because we couldn't afford to hire a nanny, our husband and wife gritted our teeth and took care of our granddaughter while taking care of the two elderly people. My son and daughter-in-law would come back on Sunday to help us, and the young couple respected us. One day my daughter-in-law told me that in the future I would not be able to move, and she would take care of me like I took care of my mother-in-law, and I was very touched.
Later, the mother-in-law's own son's family heard about the mother-in-law's illness, and the daughter-in-law told her son about the money that her mother-in-law gave her. The son is already middle-aged, and he can finally understand and understand his mother's helplessness when she divorced, and finally no longer resents her mother.
Now, the mother-in-law's own son's family will give some money every month, we don't want it, but they insist on giving. Every holiday, the family will also come to see their mother-in-law and help take care of the two elderly people together.
epilogue:
A couple who have been remarried for 35 years has already had you and me, and I have you, no less than the original couple. Because the mother-in-law is sick, it is inhumane to separate this remarried old couple.
The sister-in-law is a very selfish person, and when the mother-in-law can take care of her father-in-law, she does not drive the mother-in-law away. When her mother-in-law fell ill, she wanted to get rid of this burden, and she really couldn't be like this! Chen Weiwei and her husband have the spirit of responsibility and bravely take on the responsibility of taking care of the elderly, so they are respected.
Parental divorce will cause harm to the child, so unless it is a last resort, try not to divorce, and think more about the child. If the couple is divorced, neither party should say bad things about the other in front of the child, which is not good for the child.
Remarried couples should cherish each other, treat their stepchildren kindly, and stepchildren should also respect and filial piety to their parents.
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