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There are always some people in the world who are very confident and always feel that their status is very important. Maybe they didn't think so at first, but after reaching a certain age and changing their identity, they feel that they have more power than before. Just like today's article, Mr. Zhang's mother, she believes that she has finally become a mother-in-law from a daughter-in-law for many years, and she can also enjoy the feeling of being served by her daughter-in-law and play the prestige of being a mother-in-law.
There is such a hot word on the Internet:
"My lord, times have changed."
This sentence will seem very funny and funny in many scenes, but it is also very appropriate to use this sentence to describe Mr. Zhang's mother, the feudal era has long passed, even if there are still some remnants of old ideas, but for many young generations, the impact is not very large. If you can't keep up with the pace of the times, many people of the older generation are easily abandoned, and abandonment is not a literal abandonment, but this kind of spiritual abandonment by the times is also very uncomfortable.
My husband entered my family, but my mother-in-law was a domineering and unreasonable person, and in this case, she actually wanted to suppress me;
Miss Wen's father, Mr. Wen, and his wife, Mrs. Wen, started from scratch, and Miss Wen was the only daughter in the family, so the couple did not let Miss Wen suffer any grievances since childhood.
However, although the couple was very fond of Miss Wen, they were not spoiled by her, and Miss Wen was very importantly cultivated by the couple since she was a child. Miss Wen believes that her parents are very remarkable, so from an early age she is very ambitious, study hard, but also actively understand the affairs of her own company, she knows that she will take over the family business when she grows up. Miss Wen does not want to be a traditional housewife, and if she is going to get married, then her other half must be sacrificing her career to become a full-time father.
When Miss Wen was in college, she met such a boy, Mr. Zhang, who had a very gentle personality and longed for a harmonious and happy family. Miss Wen has a very strong personality, but Mr. Zhang can tolerate her bad temper, Miss Wen also revealed her ideals in the process of communication between the two, Mr. Zhang is very supportive of her, and said: "If the two of you get married, I will stay at home to take care of the children, the affairs of the family do not have to worry about you, you can concentrate on managing your family's company and pursuing your ideals." After hearing this, Miss Wen was very satisfied with Mr. Zhang, and she felt that Mr. Zhang was her ideal marriage candidate.
So it is logical that not long after Miss Wen and Mr. Zhang graduated, the two entered the palace of marriage. Miss Wen and Mr. Zhang's married life is very harmonious, because the division of labor is very clear, Miss Wen's parents are also very satisfied with this son-in-law, but there is one person who is very dissatisfied, that is, Mr. Zhang's mother.
Mr. Zhang's mother thought that her son had found a very rich daughter-in-law for herself, and she could enjoy the days of being a rich wife in the future, and her son's career would become better, and there were rich daughters-in-law to serve, take it out and brag, I don't know how many wives will be envious. But she did not expect that the son was actually in excess, and in the future, the children born to the couple would actually have the surname of the daughter-in-law, and the son actually agreed to these conditions. Mr. Zhang's mother watched her daughter-in-law run to the company every day, but her son stayed at home to cook and do housework, and couldn't help but complain: "Do you look at you like a talker?" If a big man doesn't go out to work, does housework at home, and will be laughed at when he says he goes out, aren't you afraid of people saying you eat soft rice? And if you look at your daughter-in-law, who is married and runs out every day? When you are married, you should stay at home, have children, take good care of your home, take good care of your husband, and serve your in-laws. ”
Mr. Zhang is not the first time to listen to his mother nagging like this, but he will still retort: "What age is this, Mom, it is not popular now, the female protagonist outside the male protagonist is not a strange thing, my wife and I are living very well now, you don't have to worry so much." ”
Even though Mr. Zhang's mother had a lot of opinions about Miss Wen, because they didn't live together, there wasn't much conflict. Only when Mr. Zhang's mother came to the couple's home, Miss Wen could feel Mr. Zhang's mother's dissatisfaction with herself, the yin and yang in the words, when the two families ate together, Mr. Zhang's mother always had to play a role in language and put up a mother-in-law frame. But Miss Wen put her mind on her career, and she didn't care too much about these things.
Until, Mr. Zhang's mother proposed to move in with the couple, originally Miss Wen did not agree, but thinking that she was her husband's mother after all, she was not young, let him live alone in his hometown, but also worried about what physical problems, so he took the initiative to say to her husband Mr. Zhang: "Mom wants to move in, let her move, anyway, there is an empty house at home, and he is not young, and it is very inconvenient to live alone in his hometown." She came to stay with us and we could take care of her. ”
Mr. Zhang was very touched by his wife's understanding, and he was originally very embarrassed, but his wife agreed, so he went back to his hometown to help his mother carry her luggage.
My mother-in-law lives in my house, but wants to live in the master bedroom, of course, I will not agree;
After Mr. Zhang took his mother over, he arranged his mother in a second largest guest room, in fact, Mr. Zhang's mother was living in such a big house for the first time, and his heart was a little nervous, but after thinking about it, this was his son's home, and he couldn't help but harden up again.
Because of work reasons, Miss Wen often travels on business, and the time spent at home is not much, so often Mr. Zhang sleeps at home alone, Mr. Zhang's mother sees all this in her eyes, and her heart is very unhappy, she feels that her daughter-in-law often does not go home and is not eligible to sleep in the largest house. So one day, when Miss Wen was eating at home, Mr. Zhang's mother suddenly said: "Daughter-in-law, I see that you don't often come back to live, you run out every day, or this master bedroom, let me sleep with this old woman, as an elder, sleeping in the biggest house is no problem, right?" Before Miss Wen could answer, Mr. Zhang couldn't help but speak: "Mom, what are you talking about?" It was both of us, and of course we were sleeping in the master bedroom. Mr. Zhang's mother hated iron and steel a little: "Can you show the man's spirit?" Stay at home by yourself, and your wife runs out every day without doing housework, is this like words? No contribution to this home, no qualification to sleep in such a good house. Miss Wen swallowed the food in her mouth very calmly and said, "Mom, I will declare to you that first of all, this house was bought by me with money." The furniture in the family is also what I earn to buy, all the expenses of this family are also out of me, you can't say that I didn't contribute, of course, your son also contributed a lot, because the housework in the family is taken care of by him, without him, my life may be a mess. So the master bedroom, we still want to live in the couple, I hope my mother can also understand our couple. ”
I went down to sleep in the park for three days in one breath, and my husband went to persuade him every day, and finally he was willing to go home.
The conversation broke up, Mr. Zhang's mother packed up her luggage and said that she wanted to move away, and said harshly: "If you don't let me sleep in the master bedroom, I will die outside" But Mr. Zhang's mother has no relatives in this city, no money, only her son. She stubbornly went to sleep in the park for three days, and during these three days, her son came every day to persuade him to go home.
In the end, Mr. Zhang's mother was defeated, because she couldn't stand such a hard day. But Mr. Zhang, when my mother returned home, she found that there was another person living in the room where she was originally staying, that person was Miss Wen's cousin, and Miss Wen's cousin was going to study in this city, so she lived in Miss Wen's house. Mr. Zhang's mother recognized the situation and could not drive her daughter-in-law's cousin away, and finally she moved back to her hometown in a gray and slippery way.
Perhaps for Mr. Zhang's mother, this family model within the female protagonist and the male protagonist is completely unacceptable to her, because her thinking is still deeply rooted in the past, and it is difficult for her to get rid of the influence of traditional concepts, so the contradictions and conflicts between Mr. Zhang's mother and the couple can be expected. If Mr. Zhang's mother chooses to continue to live with her son and daughter-in-law, then she will have to face this mental shock every day, which is undoubtedly very cruel for her.
Zhang Tielong once said this:
"Can't keep up with the pace of the times, you are doomed to be eliminated by the times."
Because Mr. Zhang's mother is too stubborn and unwilling to change, she has no way to face the family model chosen by her son and daughter-in-law, so she can only escape, because she cannot accept this new concept of thought. If he wants to live in harmony with his son and daughter-in-law, either the son and daughter-in-law live according to her ideas, or she chooses to stay away and maintain the appropriate distance from her relatives.
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