The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
Marriage for women, in a sense, is a kind of alternative rebirth, although after leaving the environment of the original family, for the future of everything, will feel confused and uneasy, but if the trust is a good person, the future life will naturally be spent in happiness and joy.
Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once said that marriage is a new life for a woman, although she will feel exhausted because of the complicated in-law relationship, but as long as her husband loves her and cares for her, her life will not be too bad.
It can be seen that men play a vital role in a woman's marriage.
01 Marriage for many years, the mother-in-law has been treated differently
Qingqing and her husband have been married for many years, and the two have also had the crystallization of love, but since settling down in the city, Qingqing and her husband will rarely take the initiative to return to their hometown, doing nothing else, because the relationship between Qingqing and her mother-in-law is not particularly harmonious.
Regarding the reason, Qingqing's husband naturally knows it, after all, it is what happened between his mother and his wife, which is right and wrong, he also has a judgment in his heart, so the husband also agrees with Qingqing's decision not to return to his hometown.
Speaking of the contradiction between Qingqing and her mother-in-law, the reason is that the mother-in-law is really eccentric.
Qingqing's husband has a younger sister, that is, Qingqing's sister-in-law, for this little sister-in-law, the family is naturally very fond of, and Qingqing after marrying, she is also very good at taking care of her. But as a mother-in-law, for daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is completely different ways to treat.
The mother-in-law has always believed that the daughter-in-law is a foreign family member, and the daughter is her own child, and it is precisely because of this that whenever the family comes to visit, the mother-in-law will let Qingqing busy greeting guests, while the sister-in-law has been lying on the bed. Sometimes the husband will say a few words to the mother-in-law, so that he should not spoil his sister so much, but the mother-in-law does not listen, and the mother-in-law says: As a brother and sister-in-law, shouldn't you be considerate of your sister?
My husband hasn't said a word like that since.
Sometimes the mother-in-law has something to go out, Qingqing will be responsible for the life and living of the sister-in-law, but when the mother-in-law returns home, she will carefully ask the sister-in-law how she eats and dresses during this time, as if she is worried that the daughter-in-law will slack off her daughter.
02 The family moved into town
The husband took all this to the side, but he did not say much, because the husband knew that Qingqing was relatively weak, and he was a bit resigned, and the husband only wanted to work hard to take Qingqing out of the house.
Later, after working for several years, the husband finally had a certain amount of savings, bought a house in the city, and had a place to settle down, and the husband took Qingqing to settle in the city.
Since settling in the city, the husband hardly takes the initiative to mention the request to return to his hometown, because he can deeply appreciate Qingqing's feelings, but also to take care of his wife, there is no need, he will not let Qingqing return to his hometown, even if there is something to deal with in his hometown, it is the husband who returns to his hometown alone.
Time flies, and soon, the sister-in-law has also reached the age of talking about marriage, and later, under the advice of the family, Qingqing's sister-in-law also married out.
Since then, the number of times the sister-in-law has come home has gradually decreased, and the mother-in-law is the only one in the family.
Perhaps it is the long-term loneliness that makes the mother-in-law think of the good of the daughter-in-law, she sometimes takes the initiative to call Qingqing, and Qingqing is not a person with an iron heart, and the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to be somewhat resolved.
After returning to her hometown in 03, her mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law to cook, and her husband became angry
One day, the mother-in-law suddenly called and told Qingqing and her husband and sister-in-law that the family was coming, hoping that they could also be present, which was also a dinner for the big family.
In this regard, Qingqing also thought that she had not returned for a long time, so she agreed.
In the afternoon, her husband and Qingqing drove back to their hometown.
When the car arrived home, the sister-in-law's family had arrived, Qingqing and her husband took the gift into the house, just sat on the bench for a while, at this time, the mother-in-law entered the house.
The mother-in-law said to Qingqing: Today everyone gathered together for a meal, your sister and brother-in-law are guests, Qingqing you go to the kitchen to prepare the next meal.
Qingqing just wanted to get up and go to cook, but her husband on the side frowned and pulled Qingqing.
The husband said: We have just returned home, my sister is also our own person, to cook is also the two of them to do together, why let Qingqing cook alone?
Qingqing cast a grateful look at her husband.
Then the husband said to the sister-in-law who was sniffing melon seeds on the side: You are not small now, you are already married, you should help your sister-in-law a little. The sister-in-law did not make a sound at the side.
However, the mother-in-law did not think so, she insisted on letting Qingqing cook, and it was a big deal that she helped on the side, that is, she was unwilling to let her daughter go to the kitchen.
The husband was angry when he heard this: Well, today we won't eat at home, we will go to the restaurant, AA system.
Later, the family did indeed eat at the restaurant, after eating, the husband took Qingqing back home, since then, there is no particularly important thing, the husband will not let Qingqing return to his hometown.
Conclusion: In fact, for marriage, although the contradictions of family members will affect the quality of marriage, if necessary, can get the husband's support and understanding, almost all the contradictions will be solved, after all, with the husband as a woman's backing, marital happiness is always not too bad.