Lu Xun once said: "Face is the program of the Chinese spirit, as long as you grasp this, just like pulling out the braids in the past, the program is open, and the whole body is moving." ”
Trees want a skin, people want a face, love face, hope that others respect themselves, this is understandable, but some people have the ability, can rely on their own ability to win face for themselves, so that others do not dare to underestimate him, and some people for the sake of face, swollen face fat, and even damage others and selfishness, especially damage to the face of the other half, in the end it is easy to self-defeat, face is not obtained, but lost the inside.
For example, many men will tell their wives that you can do whatever you want at home, so that you can call me, but in the case of outsiders, give me face, don't let me get off the stage.
My father, too, often bragged about himself in front of outsiders, appearing to have a position in the family, and his wife did housework and did not care about her own spending. In fact, he was the one who did the most housework. However, for the sake of a man who is good to him and is a reliable man, my mother is willing to give him face and never refute it.
Chen Daoming, a national first-class actor, said a golden and jade saying about running a marriage: "When you put down your face and are good to your wife, it means that you have become a real man; when you give your wife enough face, it means that you have succeeded; when your wife will give you face at any time, it means that you are already a character." ”
The real big husband will be good to the wife, be a good husband, let the wife be willing to give himself face, and some men only know how to face, but not good for the wife, and even base their happiness on the pain of the wife, when they meet such a man who does not think about himself and does not love himself, women cannot give them face.
"Don't make a fuss, come back with me, do you still want to?" You still have a child in your belly, do you want the child to be born without a mother? ”
As soon as Lin Hao's voice fell, his father-in-law rushed out of the house, slapped him in the face, and dragged his daughter He Qing back: "For the sake of your mother's face, let my daughter have a big belly and rush back to cook for 10 people. What does it mean to be without a mother? You mean, even if my daughter divorces you, she will have to give birth to the child and give the child to you? Make your dreams go! I tell you, raise a child, my family can still afford to raise, the child is my family, no father, roll. ”
Some people in the crowd did not know, so they persuaded He Qing's father, Mr. He, to calm down, saying that he would rather demolish a temple than destroy a marriage, but Mr. He had already decided that he would do his best to support his daughter's divorce.
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3 years ago, He Qing and Lin Hao met and fell in love, He Qing looked at Lin Hao's appearance and felt that Lin Hao was very handsome, tall, and very secure with him.
Lin Hao looked at He Qing's family situation, He Qing is a local, is an only child, her father works in a state-owned enterprise, her mother is engaged in the education industry, the family is well-off, the burden is extremely small, and it is indeed a suitable object for marriage.
A year ago, the two people got married, although He Qing's parents looked down on Lin Hao and thought that Lin Hao was not a good match with his own family, but he could not get his own palm pearl, and finally agreed to this marriage, and gave He Qingxu to Lin Hao.
Not long after getting married, He Qing found that marriage was not as sweet as he imagined, and Lin Hao was not as responsible as he thought.
"What will you do besides coax me with sweet words?" You come home from work, you don't do any housework, your mouth is very sweet, you sit and wait to eat, you praise me for your cooking skills, let me be happy to cook for you, and even accompany you back to your hometown, happy to cook for your whole family alone, right? Take this year's New Year, I went back to my hometown with you, stayed for 10 days, nine days a day and three meals are made by myself, especially since the second day of the New Year, four consecutive days, relatives come to visit, at least more than twenty people, let me be busy alone, that is more tiring than work, but have you ever forgiven me? Has your family ever forgiven me? ”
What made He Qing even more unacceptable was that since May 2 was her mother-in-law's sixtieth birthday, Lin Hao asked He Qing to pack up her things, and on April 29, as soon as the holiday was over, she immediately followed Lin Hao back to her hometown.
"What's going on out there now, don't you know, once I'm infected with this virus, what happens to the baby in my belly?" Even if it's okay, you have to sit at your house for 10 hours and stay up all night, have you considered my feelings? ”
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Listening to He Qing's accusations and feeling the strange eyes of the people around him, Lin Hao also tore his face and accused He Qing of not being virtuous and filial piety.
"How many times have I told you?" My hometown is really fine, why are you so timid and afraid of things? My mother is going to live the sixtieth birthday, it is the whole life, how important it is, don't you know? My sister is far married, right? My sister rushed back with the child, if you don't go back, what will be the face of me and my mother? My relatives in my hometown still don't laugh at me, saying that I can't control my daughter-in-law and don't honor me? ”
"Where is the face?" Is your face important, or is your child important? I see, you are not only worried that you have no face, but also worry that if I don't go back, there are 10 people gathered in your house, no one is cooking, and your mother is tired! ”
As soon as he thought of his return to his in-laws' house and being ruthlessly summoned, his in-laws and others enjoying his experience, including Lin Hao, He Qing felt sad, felt remorseful, and regretted his willful act of marrying Lin Hao.
"To let a pregnant woman sit in the car for so long and risk being infected is to give your mother face? So that people in your family can sit and wait to eat? you, how do you mean it? How did you become a husband? ”
"Qingqing is such a good girl, well-behaved and sensible, filial piety and virtuousness, it is your blessing to be able to marry her, you actually do not cherish, not to mention Qingqing's parents, my aunt who grew up watching Qingqing can't stand it, rolling, hurry up and divorce."
People around them also began to quarrel, especially those who had a good relationship with He Qingniang's family, and they felt extremely disgusted with Lin Hao.
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Probably feeling that it was difficult to take advantage of his wife's mother's house, Lin Hao had to leave first.
After driving away Lin Hao, Mr. He asked his daughter an extremely important question, "Qingqing, you are only 27 years old, still young, this time married to the wrong person, it doesn't matter, eat a long and wise, after that, let's polish our eyes and find a good one." The question is, do you still want the child? ”
Mr. He and his daughter carefully analyzed the pros and cons, first of all, with the strength of He Qing's family, raising a child is not a problem, He Qing is an only child, can give birth to a child, as if it were a member of the He family.
Secondly, they want to leave the child behind, but will the Lin Hao family give up? "Even if you are divorced, you can't deny that the child is his, and there will be endless pimps with him." He may rob us of custody of the child, or he will always pestering you, or when you raise the child, he will come to catch the ready-made, in the name of being the father of the child, forcing the child to support him, there will be a bunch of trouble. ”
Finally, with a child, He Qing's choice in the future has an obstacle, and it is not good to remarry.
Listening to his father's words, He Qing also fell into a tangle and did not know how to be good.
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Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Don't just love a good person, don't just love an excellent man, don't love only a talented man, don't just love a man who loves you and hurts you, please love a man with responsibility." ”
If a man has no responsibility, only his own interests in his eyes, he will not hesitate to ask you to compromise for him, ask you to pay for him, but never willing to pay for you, such a man wants, will only add to the blockage, will not bring you happiness.
Marrying the wrong person is enough to block your heart, if you don't dare to take the initiative to correct your mistakes and make up your mind to leave him, you will really ruin your life.
Women, when making choices, must be cautious and think about their own happiness.
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