"The vengeance of the moon does not wear the heavens".
When HKUST first heard this sentence, did it think it would be too serious?
However, over the years, after treating countless children and hearing the stories of countless mothers, I can understand why they can't put it down!
Confinement is something that every mother has to experience, confinement conflict is not an isolated case, today I interviewed 2 mothers and listened to them talk about those things in the confinement! (Content has been agreed by the person concerned)
Qingqing: The child is 7 years old, I still remember the vendetta, my husband always says that I am careful with my eyes, it is because he does not understand anything.
As soon as I got married, my mother-in-law began to give birth, saying, "While I am still young, hurry up and give birth, I can still bring it to you." "Hurry up and be born, otherwise I won't be able to lift my head after our old Li family is gone"...
What about after giving birth? Who knows that my mother-in-law has a set on the surface and a set on the back, and during the confinement period, my mother-in-law said to my husband: "Rest assured, I will definitely take good care of Qingqing, don't worry." ”
As soon as my husband went out to work, the old lady changed her face and directly said that I was busy, and I didn't have time to watch you cook, and I had something to eat yourself!
In the confinement of the child I hold myself, I wash my clothes, I make my own food... I don't know how many times I cried, and I once thought about holding my child and jumping off the building for a hundred times.
What about giving birth to a grandson, should it be ignored, or not!
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You see me now, bending down to 90 degrees , it hurts to straighten up; if the hand is not lifted, it hurts to raise it; the joints always hurt on rainy days; not all of them are the root of the disease that falls on confinement.
So now as soon as my mother-in-law is sick, I am very happy, and I can also stage the drama of "giving up", "eating differently", "how to be so pretentious", and "wasting money".
After listening to this mother's self-statement, Keda was both sad and distressed.
But from the perspective of rationality and health, Keda hopes that this mother will abandon her past obsessions and adjust the diseases that fell in the moon first, after all, the body is her own!
If you have completed your confinement and have similar conditions such as low back pain and leg pain, Keda recommends:
Yuzu: My mother-in-law has a strong personality, and she has always said that she has never been the same, and countless conflicts have broken out in the confinement of the month.
When the child was born in the summer, he had to wear a thin cotton jacket for the child, saying: "The newborn children are afraid of the cold, and they cannot be cold!" "As a result, I covered my body with prickly heat.
I was not allowed to take a bath and wash my hair, I was not allowed to open the window, and I was not allowed to move around more, but whenever I gave my opinion, my mother-in-law cried and made trouble!
During the confinement period, it is either a bowl of rice porridge or millet porridge.
Eat these, or do you hate that I don't have the ability to breastfeed? Even if I am a cow, I have to give me some good feed to feed my milk!
I will ask you, who put such a vendetta?
I was already very anxious about myself, I proposed to eat some meat, and my mother-in-law jumped to my feet and pointed at my nose and scolded: "I know that you don't look up to this old woman in the countryside, and I hate that I don't eat cooking, so I will leave now!" ”
Wipe my tears and tell my husband that he can't serve a daughter-in-law like me!
This is not the end, the child just full moon, when the adult eats, the mother-in-law will secretly stuff the child's mouth with rice, saying: "Eat early to grow up early, your mother's milk you can't count on!" ”
I was distressed about my girlfriend, so I told my mother-in-law that it was too early for the child to eat complementary food now, and my mother-in-law sneered at me: "Isn't it just a little girl's head piece, what do you feel bad about?" ”
I was angry at the time, and I still remember that feeling.
Only those who have experienced it know that such a "vendetta" really cannot be forgotten!
In fact, many people can't understand the emotions of pregnant women, think that women sit in the confinement of the month to remember revenge, but also too careful, in fact, this is not the case!
● The older generation often regards themselves as people who have come over and deny the opinion of the mother!
"I'm just doing this, it's not good" "I'm the one who came over, just listen to me"
Some of the older generation only recognize the old reason, think that the mother has no experience, do not believe, and even do not want to listen to their opinions!
Just like the stubborn old man like Yuzu's mother-in-law, wrapping the child so tightly in the summer, he did not think that if there was a fever syndrome, the consequences would be unimaginable!
There are some similarities: no bathing and washing hair, no windows, no more movement, once obeyed, it will also cause harm to the mother's body.
The collision of the new and old concepts of confinement inevitably produces dissatisfaction.
●The postpartum depression of the mother, the family added fuel to the fire
There are more than 15 million new mothers in China every year, of which 80% of women will have different degrees of depression after childbirth, which is caused by the rapid changes in hormones in the body after giving birth!
If the husband does not support, the mother-in-law gives pressure, which can only make the mental state of the mother worse.
It even caused a series of tragedies:
The birth of a newborn brings not only love to the mother, but also a sense of overwhelmed stress!
If you don't want your mothers to take revenge, don't accuse or hurt them with words.
Don't expect everyone to feel empathy, at least respect the mother.
If you have a confinement mother in your family, or a pregnant mother who is about to usher in confinement, please be sure to:
Having a baby is not a decision on the part of the mother, and having a baby should not be a matter for the mother alone.
HKUST really strongly recommends that men be involved in the entire process of their wives' childbirth.
Once she broke her skin and touched your head, you were very distressed, now how can you bear it, let her go to the ghost door alone?
After writing this article, Keda also collected a wave of everyone's views on "confinement feud" in the pet fan group.
There are those who take out the history of blood and tears and show them to everyone, there are rational discussions, and there are also those who tell everyone not to panic, there are good men in the world, and more reasonable ways to confinement.
Today I also share it with you:
What do you think of Yuezi Vendetta? What kind of confinement have you all experienced? Welcome to discuss together in the comments section!