Yesterday I was on the bus and when I got off the bus, I overheard a mother-son conversation. My son was four or five years old, and he said to his mother:
"Mom, according to what you said, I didn't stand up straight when I got on the bus today, and sure enough, the driver's uncle didn't let me buy a ticket."
I listened to the ten thousand alpacas in my heart roaring past: What is this operation? Where are the mothers who blatantly teach their children to evade tickets?
Unexpectedly, the mother smiled and touched the child's head and said:
"What a clever kid, so young to know how to save money for the family!" What a bitch! ”
Looking at their backs, I felt very uncomfortable. Is such "cleverness" really worth advocating?
When the children grow up, will they suffer big losses in the future because they covet this little bargain?
Go home and discuss this topic with the egg daddy, the egg daddy also mentioned that when he was in college, there was a boy in the dormitory, who knew that he had it, but often borrowed the computers of other roommates to complete his homework.
One day they overheard him calling on the balcony, it turned out that he was afraid that his computer would be worn out for a long time, so he kept borrowing his roommate's computer, and he thought he was very smart! After graduation, no one else contacted the boy again.
In fact, many children who think they are "clever" will really suffer a big loss if they grow up to be proud of it!
The child's character directly affects his future development, and he must not pick up sesame seeds and lose watermelons.
These three kinds of seemingly "clever" children, please pay attention to parents!
Love greedy and cheap children
There are many children, in order to take advantage of a little bit, do their best, and their wisdom seems to be used on this.
For example, I have seen a child who eats wildly in a tasting stall in the mall, and someone next to him can't look at it and says a few words about him, he said:
"What's wrong? Isn't that what you're trying? Don't eat white, don't eat. ”
Listening to the egg egg kindergarten teacher, there was a girl named Qingqing in the kindergarten before, who once smuggled home kindergarten toys and picture books, and wanted to take the kindergarten bowl and spoon, the teacher asked her, she said:
"Mom said that good things should be taken home for the family."
As a result, the children did not play with Qingqing, afraid that Qingqing would see their things and directly "take them home".
Later, Qingqing went to elementary school and even began to learn to steal other people's things.
Once, stealing a classmate's watch in the classroom, was found on the spot, Qingqing felt very humiliated and wanted to change classes, but the teachers of other classes, who had heard about her, did not want her to transfer to their own classes.
Because of a little profit, being looked down upon by others, losing more important things, losing precious friendships, losing the trust and respect of others, and even affecting the future of the future, how incalculable!
No children are born and like to be greedy and cheap, and many children are influenced by the parents and elders around them.
When the child shows this behavior, parents must not praise the child's "cleverness", but to tell him that this opportunistic approach is not right, sooner or later, one day, it will suffer greater losses because of this.
I once read a short story:
A father who went to the stadium with his two young sons asked the young man at the ticket office, "How much are the tickets?" ”
The father replied, "Our future lawyer is 3 years old, and our future doctor is 7 years old, so I think I should pay you $6, sir." ”
The young man was a little surprised: "Sir, have you just won the lottery?" You could have saved yourself $3, and even if you told me the older kid was 6, I wouldn't see the difference. ”
The father said, "Yes, you really won't see the difference, but my children will know the difference." Standing in the position of a father, I have a responsibility not to let them learn to deceive others at a young age. ”
Parents should teach their children something more important than a moment of "cleverness.".
Children with high eyes and low hands
Su Mingcheng, the second brother in the popular "All Is Good" some time ago, is this type of child.
When I came back from school, I was spoiled and sweet to my mother, coaxing my mother to be happy, and then I reached for money, dirty clothes and smelly socks, and Threw them to my sister to wash.
He only earned three thousand and five every month, all spent, not to mention, but also asked his mother to ask for two thousand pieces of tourism, and he was favored by his family, and every month he was moonlight, and his mother was supplementing him with two thousand three thousand at a time.
As a result, after the death of his mother, Su Mingcheng's old "financial road" was broken, and he was mistaken by smart, thinking that he had a little bit of the ability to play tricks, thinking of tossing out a career, and finally ended up with a career marriage and a fiasco.
In real life, there are also many such children, who have three points of cleverness, can only move their mouths, never be down-to-earth, and only think that they can succeed by relying on their own little wisdom.
Such children will be praised by many people when they are young, but when they grow up, they are often mediocre and achieve nothing.
Parents love their children, for the sake of far-reaching, do not always think of making children happy and food and clothing, we should teach them, is to be able to survive independently in the world.
It is more important to work hard step by step than insignificant cleverness.
Children who don't follow the rules
It may be that they are afraid that their children will be bound by the rules and "stupid", and many parents actually encourage their children to break the rules, so that they "have their own opinions" and "don't be too obedient." ”
I remember once crossing the street waiting for traffic lights, and there was a grandmother who impatiently pulled her little grandson across the zebra crossing, still muttering in her mouth, no car, waiting for something.
Also teach children: don't be too stupid, be spontaneous, go when it's time to go, don't waste unnecessary time.
I also heard a friend who was a teacher tell me that there was a child in their school who did not write homework, arrived late and left early, and once beat the homeroom teacher.
However, when parents go to school, they actually recognize their children in front of the teacher, and feel that the children "dare to rebel against the teacher" and are good children who have the backbone and opinions and will not listen to the teacher.
None of these parents seem to realize that to rule out individual emergencies and emergencies, rules are not meant to bind people, but rather to protect people.
Especially for young children, his worldview and values are a blank piece of paper, how parents behave, how children imitate.
If parents encourage their children to express themselves in a way that breaks the rules from an early age, and regard them as the performance of "smart and clever", then when the children grow up, it is often difficult to get along with the people around them, and even make some extreme behaviors.
In life, we parents must be a good example for our children in life, teach him right and wrong, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, teach him to have basic respect for others, and maintain basic etiquette and cultivation in public places.
Don't because of a little complacent cleverness, it will lead to big losses in the future.
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