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Sometimes, we see people who live smoothly and happily, and often use the word "good life" to bring it over. I always feel that if I can live a good life, I must have fate and the help of heaven. As everyone knows, everyone's fate is in their own hands.
Especially for women, in this life, whether it is a parent or a partner, they may eventually leave, and the only thing they can rely on to change their fate is themselves.
When we are young, we are taught to be sentient and righteous, but few people tell us that this is all premised, and not all emotions are good and worthy of our praise.
Conversely, if a woman is able to remain ruthless, even desperate, in the following two situations, her life may be better.
One: When encountering the wrong man, be cruel and desperate enough to stop the loss in time
Women sometimes live unhappily because their hearts are too soft, and in the face of men's mistakes, they always want to blindly give in and endure:
"As long as he comes home."
"For the sake of the child, you should also put up with it."
"As long as I pretend I don't know, I can live."
On the one hand, women are constantly self-soothing and self-paralyzing; on the other hand, men are unscrupulously doing things that hurt women and families.
In the relationship, there will be friction and contradictions, which is normal, mutual tolerance and understanding will always pass, but if there is something that violates women's principles and bottom lines, women should say "no" in time, show your attitude, and make men respect you more.
In the TV series "Love Is Delicious", Fang Xin is a big beauty who is the anchor at home, and in front of her husband, she is also the little girl who is spoiled at any time and needs to be taken care of.
However, when she found out that her husband had an affair with other women, in addition to being sad and crying, she also maintained her sanity, and in the past, whenever her husband made a mistake, only asking for forgiveness and pampering could make her heart soft.
But this time, her husband really touched Fang Xin's bottom line, and she did not choose to continue to tolerate, but chose to divorce. Fang Xin, who returned to the workplace, finally understood after experiencing some things that he was entrusted to non-human beings.
At the Civil Affairs Bureau, confronted with her ex-husband who wanted to fight for property, she said:
"You just said so much, let me summarize, probably we are going to divorce, your parents want to buy you a little more money, and then how do you want to take the house for yourself." 」 Now that I've finally figured it out, you don't deserve me at all. ”
For women, if they want to be happy in love, they must do "small things can be confused, big things must be clear", and set their own bottom line for the relationship from the beginning.
In ordinary life, we can see that many women who are more vulnerable to injury in their feelings are often "ruthless", whether it is feelings or money investment will have a degree, whenever this limit is exceeded, they will restrain themselves, once they find that there is a problem with their feelings, they will choose to stop the loss in time.
There is only one you in this world, and sincerity and love are left to those who deserve it.
Two: When encountering relatives who blindly ask for it, they are fierce enough and desperate to resolutely refuse to draw a clear line
On the Internet, we often see some people complaining and asking for help, such as being forced to be a "brother demon", or always being kidnapped by some relatives and doing things they don't want to do.
In the traditional Chinese concept, we attach great importance to family affection, although we usually do not contact, but when we visit the New Year, we often realize that a family is huge.
Originally, mutual support between relatives is a kind of affection, but some people regard it as the duty of others and carry out moral kidnapping under the slogan of family affection.
Chunyan grew up in a patriarchal family, her mother has been in poor health since giving birth to her, and because of the persecution of the family, she gave birth to her brother at the age of 34 and almost died of blood collapse.
Although when she was a child, because she was a girl, Chunyan suffered a lot of unfair treatment, and some relatives came to the house and even looked at Chunyan and said: It's a pity.
But she was a good girl, her grandfather grew up with her, an uncle gave her a gift on her birthday, an aunt took care of her in high school, and she remembered that every New Year's Day she would always send some red envelopes or buy gifts for them.
Over time, in addition to more and more relatives praising her for having a conscience, some relatives began to blatantly ask her for things or help.
"Chun Yan, you see that I have a lot of white hair, you buy me some hair dye, just the kind you bought for your mother, also bring me a box."
"Chun Yan, your cousin is going to go to Guangzhou to find a job in the next year, and it is certainly inconvenient for him to go out as a boy, so let's live with you."
In the past, when encountering this situation, Chunyan would grit her teeth and agree, but as she grew up, she gradually understood that these relatives did not really like her, but just wanted to "squeeze" value from her.
So Chunyan replied to her relatives:
"Sister-in-law, you have a daughter, don't you?" Why don't you let her buy it for you? ”
"Mm-hmm I understand, but the boy in his twenties lives with me, my boyfriend will be unhappy, and I wish my cousin a good job and a good place to live soon."
Now Chunyan just wants to make more money, change to a bigger house, and then take her mother and cut off with those messy relatives. She said that when she stopped caring about these people's eyes, she felt that life was much better.
Women should remember that not all people deserve your kindness, and sometimes decisive rejection is enough to be cruel and desperate, but it is better to protect themselves.
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