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When there are two choices for one thing, you tend to make the worst choice.
If you think every day that something will fail, then it will fail.
This is Murphy's Law.
Two people in love want to get married, but in real life, it is inevitable that they will encounter difficulties and prevent them from getting married. Going around in a big circle and going through a lot of twists and turns, they finally gave up.
Someone said, "When you decide to give up on something, you're only a little bit away from the success of the thing." ”
Who you meet, it is fate, whether you can be emotional for life, you need strong willpower, and you insist on yearning for beauty. Otherwise, you will fall into the "trap" of Murphy's Law.
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When you meet, don't dare to make a bold confession, and your fate will slip away.
In "Journey to the West", there is a classic line: "If Heaven can give me a chance to do it again, I will say three words to the girl: I love you." If I had to add a deadline to this love, I would like it to be: ten thousand years. ”
Please, ten thousand years is too long, only to fight for the day.
If you can meet someone who is eye-catching, whether the other person wants to or not, you have to say it out loud. There is no shame in being rejected. If you keep thinking about him, but are unwilling to say it, and after missing it, it is shameful to entangle the other party.
How many people, as soon as they open their mouths, say, "I have no connection with him." Even the word "love" has not been spoken, on what basis is it judged that there is no reason to be a husband and wife?
Perhaps, you are in love with someone with a family. Forced by the pressure and responsibility of reality, you refuse to confess.
Your practices and ideas can be understood. But years later, you'll find that the man with the family is divorced and married again—regret, spreading through life.
No one knows, the future and the unexpected, which one comes first. What you need to do is grasp today. Be brave enough to tell him that you love him. Whether he accepts your confession or not, go with the flow.
The poet Gu Cheng said: "You don't like to plant flowers, because you are afraid of seeing the flowers fall one by one, so in order to avoid the end of everything, you reject all beginnings." ”
Admittedly, the beginning of the mistake is also the beginning, at least you have fought for it, and there are no regrets left.
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When you fall in love, the reason for rejecting marriage is actually to seek trouble.
The host Lu Yu wrote in the book: One of her girlfriends, Chu, has been with her boyfriend for five years, and their relationship is very good. But the boyfriend doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. Chu respects her boyfriend's idea that as long as two people are together, it is more important than anything.
Five years later, the two of them broke up. Infuriatingly, the man who didn't want to get married quickly got married and had children.
Many people, when faced with marriage, will find a bunch of reasons to refuse.
For example, two people are still young, and it is not too late to consider marriage in two years; after making a lot of money, they will run wedding wine in a beautiful way; they should test their loyalty to love more; their parents do not want him to get married so early; they will fall in love all their lives and not get married...
People who can give you happiness don't necessarily have a lot of money, they don't necessarily have good jobs, and they don't even have a place to live.
When you or he "refuses to marry so early", in fact, the fate has slowly disappeared.
Many beautiful loves, in the process of waiting, died.
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When we get along, all the doubts inexplicably turn into real things.
In the neighborhood where I live, there is a woman named Xiaomi, who recently got divorced.
When she saw someone, she said, "I already knew that he was having an affair." Or is it only a few days after his divorce and he has a girlfriend by his side? ”
Did the ex-husband betray the family? Or did he quickly find a girlfriend after his divorce? No one to verify, but Xiaomi is really a suspicious woman, because the suspicion is too heavy, resulting in her husband is very sad, a cruel heart, he filed for divorce.
We are often superstitious about the sixth sense and insensitive to the facts of life.
Maybe the other party has a family, so you don't have to confess; maybe the wife or husband, who betrayed the marriage, has long since stopped loving you; maybe he is with you, has another hidden feeling, and can't see the light..." The more often the word "maybe" appears, the faster the bad results will come.
Some wind-catching news will lead to the failure of love. Sometimes, the person who appears in front of you, who is clearly single, is interpreted by you as "already has a lover, has been married".
Let's say a man takes a woman to a restaurant for dinner. You like him a lot, but you must think that the woman next to you is the girlfriend.
You wouldn't even think that the woman was his cousin, a colleague, an acquaintance she happened to meet.
Whether it's good or bad, you have to be "well-founded", don't guess. Learn to communicate with each other, talk about it once, and the result of love will be satisfied.
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Conclusion.
People who can be married understand The Law of "Maxwell". That said, there's good news all the time: we can do something more satisfying than expected.
If you meet a person who has no chance of getting married, at the beginning you think, maybe he is your true destiny, although the meeting is too late, it is also happy.
Two people try to get along, take the initiative to communicate and coordinate, and actively strive for marriage. A good choice will give you a better ending.
When love is faced with multiple choice, you choose both A and B, so that no matter what, there is a 50% chance of success. If both people choose this way, isn't it 100% probability?
In this life, people need to get rid of many shackles. Either way, don't get bothered by Murphy's Law.
When a very bad thing comes, you have to think and act on the opposite side, and don't give up easily until you have to.
Love also needs to "not play cards according to the routine", get rid of the restrictions of rules and regulations, and is the real free love.
People who truly love you, hold your hand and hold on to it, regardless of whether they want to be together.
Don't worry, the one who should come will come, the one who should go will go, the look you cherish desperately, it is really beautiful.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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