They all say that the daughter is the mother's little cotton jacket.
Most women will invite their mothers to their mothers after pregnancy, on the one hand, their mothers are more aware of their eating habits and can take good care of themselves.
On the other hand, there is always a gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it is not as pleasant as getting along with their mothers. After all, I was extremely weak after giving birth, and I didn't want to waste unnecessary energy on the mental side.
"I'd rather help my son with my baby than my daughter"
Mrs. Chen can be regarded as a winner in life, with a son and a daughter, and when the children are married, the old lady can also enjoy the blessings, but the daughter-in-law and daughter are pregnant one after another.
This means that Mrs. Chen must give her daughter-in-law and daughter a hand. As an old man, I can't watch young people go crazy! Although my parenting experience is a bit outdated, at least I still have some experience.
Therefore, Mrs. Chen first went to her son's house, took care of her daughter-in-law's confinement, and immediately rushed to her daughter's house in a foreign country to take care of her confinement. After the daughter was out of confinement, the old lady immediately found a reason to escape.
After returning to her home, Mrs. Chen felt that she was idle and idle, so she had nothing to do with her son's house to help take care of her granddaughter. When the daughter learned that her mother did not care about herself but was so attached to her daughter-in-law, she immediately could not sit still.
Repeatedly, he called and asked Mrs. Chen what she meant. Everyone's mothers revolve around their daughters, but you revolve around your daughter-in-law with a foreign surname, how come you didn't find out that you are so patriarchal before?
Mrs. Chen didn't say anything at first, after all, what her daughter said was also the truth, and she really didn't care much about her daughter, but when she couldn't bear it, she only said such a sentence: I'd rather help my son with a baby than help my daughter!
Is Mrs. Chen really because of the preference for sons over daughters?
The daughter makes herself have no lower limit
When a daughter and daughter-in-law face themselves, they will obviously feel that their attitudes are different. Although the daughter-in-law will also make requests, she is always respectful and respectful, which makes people feel less hurtful.
And the daughter treats herself like a nanny, Mom I want to eat this, Mom you go and change the child's diaper. The more this invisible act, the more it made her feel cold.
Every time I feel back pain, I wonder when it's a head! Could it be that this little child was born to me? It's hard to pull your own child up, and you have to pull this little guy.
Staying at my daughter's house, there will always be inconvenient places
In the daughter's home, and the son-in-law look up and do not look down, there is a difference between men and women, more or less there will be embarrassing scenes. It's like taking a shower, going to the bathroom, thinking about it all with your toes on the ground.
The son's home is different, the son and himself are not seen outside, even if the mother sees the body, the son will not have uncomfortable feelings. And the daughter-in-law and herself are both women, and there is nothing inconvenient.
Therefore, it is better to be more comfortable in the son's home than to be restricted in the daughter's home. As long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not looking for trouble, it is not as terrifying as imagined.
The daughter's family is far away, and she is not familiar with life
After the daughter got married, she went to the city of her in-laws' family, and was originally a northern girl, but she was forced to accept the living habits of the south. Although the daughter gladly accepted, but the hidden dangers brought are really many, just like this time to take care of her, eat badly, go out where to find nowhere.
For Mrs. Chen, it was not like being locked up. Afraid of causing trouble for her daughter, she doesn't even know where the market is, and she has to be stupid every day when she stays at home. Far less comfortable than the son's home in the city.
Hearing the mother's complaint should cause the daughters to reflect
For their own mother, you can not be less respectful
Respecting the elderly and loving the young is our traditional Chinese virtue, and what we have received from childhood to adulthood is this kind of ideological indoctrination, and most of us can do a good job. But when we face our parents, we leave them behind.
Maybe it's because we're so familiar with it that we don't feel the need to be so angry. However, parents will also complain, but also want to hear a word of thanks and a word of concern from us. And that's exactly what daughters should do to their mothers!
Raise your child yourself and do your best
Nowadays, many elderly people have undertaken both the task of spawning and the task of raising children. Young couples only care about birth and maintenance, and in the end it is only the older generation that is tired.
Sometimes because of busy work, sometimes just to be more idle, no matter what kind of thing, it can not be a pretext for no matter the child. After all, the growth of children is something that parents cannot miss, and if their children are not careful, who else can they expect?
Today's Topic:
When you were pregnant, who took care of you? Is it the mother of the mother,or the mother-in-law?