Many couples divorce not because of a change of heart, nor because of not loving, but in the process of getting along: all expectations turn into disappointment; all communication and exchanges evolve into quarrels and cold wars. Eventually, the two divorced on the grounds of inappropriateness. A long-term relationship is to know how to serve each other softly, take turns to bow their heads, so as not to disperse, and it is meaningful for both husband and wife to go together.
Two people live a life, do not seek to eat and drink spicy, do not seek to buy good clothes, but ask, do not quarrel, do not make trouble, harmony, people are not afraid of being affected, they are afraid of tears, they are not afraid of tiredness, they are afraid of haggard. Life is short, be kind to ourselves on the way to grow old, confused a little less true, generous not angry, everything is looked down upon, everything follows fate, life is a guest, why a thousand knots.
People for important things, will not be treated casually, most of the indifference and indifference you feel, is not an illusion, the rest of life is not long, be nice to yourself, do not find sugar in the glass slag to eat, hurt the mouth and hurt the stomach, and the heart is broken.
Zhang Cheng and Xiao Rong got married last year, and before getting married, Zhang Cheng had not discovered that Xiao Rong was actually a Voldemort. The two entered love after being introduced by friends, and it felt better to chat together at that time, and the two also held the mentality of marriage to fall in love. After being together, we all saw each other's strengths, so we got married after almost half a year together.
Before getting married, Zhang Cheng knew that Xiao Rong had a younger brother, and his brother-in-law was two years younger than Xiao Rong, so his brother-in-law was still in college. Zhang Cheng and Xiao Rong both have high school education, so when they say that they are still quite fond of this college student brother-in-law, they feel that they have a lot of face on their faces. Zhang Cheng opened a small restaurant in his hometown and the business was quite good every day, sometimes when there were many people, he could earn more than 1,000 yuan a day.
After the two got married, Xiao Rong became the boss lady, and the family's money was also managed by the daughter-in-law. After getting married for more than half a year, Zhang Cheng told his wife that he wanted to buy a car, and the two of them had a good income in the six months of marriage. Because the parents are older, it is also convenient to live in the hometown and have a car to pick up the parents to come to the city, I thought that the daughter-in-law would directly agree, but I did not expect that the daughter-in-law would be torn up as soon as she heard that she wanted to buy a car. Zhang Cheng saw Duan Yi and asked what was going on?
At this time, his wife Xiao Rongcai told her: Although the two have earned a lot of money in the past six months, the tuition and living expenses of her brother in the past six months have been given by her, and the two have also spent a lot on weekdays, if they buy a car, the money is not very generous. Hearing this, Zhang Cheng instantly understood what was going on? And asked how much it cost to the brother-in-law? Wife Xiao Rong said: Not much, just forty or fifty thousand.
Zhang Cheng was a little angry and complained about such a big thing as his wife, why not discuss it with him? But the wife said with a straight face: What happened to me, the sister who spent some money on my brother? The two quarreled for a few words, and although Zhang Cheng was a little angry, he still said to his wife: It is not that he will not let you take care of your brother, but I hope you can discuss it with me. Xiao Rong also knew that he had done a real job in this matter, so he promised Zhang Cheng that he would definitely discuss it with him after giving money to his family.
Although this matter has passed, Zhang Cheng has always been a little grumpy in his heart. At the beginning, he also had some defensive mentality against his wife, and it was not that he did not trust him, but he felt that his life was not good enough to go to the mother's family to be afraid of his wife Fudi. After all, the business of the small restaurant after the marriage of the two has been very good, and it is not a problem for the two to earn about 1,000 a day.
Zhang Cheng told his wife about his plan to buy a house, and his wife was very happy to hear it, but what Zhang Cheng did not expect was that his wife had a plan to buy a house for his brother-in-law. After more than a year, my brother-in-law graduated from college and successfully returned to his hometown and found a satisfactory job. On this day, Zhang Cheng just returned from a busy day, and his wife Xiao Rong was particularly attentive as soon as he returned. After eating, he said to Zhang Cheng: Husband, you see that my brother is now working and getting it done, if he marries his daughter-in-law, he will be almost a house. In the past two years, we have also earned almost a down payment for my brother's house, which is not a problem. Why not go and see the house on the weekend?
Hearing this, Zhang Cheng was a little confused, and directly interrupted Xiao Rong's words: My plan is to buy a house for us, not for your brother. The two also quarreled because of this matter, and finally Xiao Rong saw Zhang Cheng's tough attitude and said to her husband: "If you don't buy a house for my brother, you will divorce" After saying that, he gambled and ran away from home and went back to his mother's house, but what Xiao Rong did not expect was that her husband had not come to pick him up for a month, and when she went home again, she was confused that her husband had moved away.
1. "Life is originally dull, but there will be wind when it runs", may time dilute everything.
The secret to making yourself happy is to stop thinking wildly and the best way to heal yourself is to be busy and go to bed early. Be determined not to affect your happiness for 23 hours and 55 minutes because of 5 minutes of unhappiness. If people want to open, they are happy; if they can't open, they are painful; many times they can't go with things, but they can't go with their hearts, and they always think too much, so the pressure is very high.
Time is silent, but it has read all the world's variety; the years are silent, but the vicissitudes of life have been exhausted! Life is originally dull, but there will be wind when you run!
Adult collapses are never due to one or two things, but to the feeling of helplessness after several things pile up. You think you're married to have someone to better accompany you, but when you actually get married, you feel like you're having another person to squeeze you. You want you to be happy, but every time you look weak and helpless in the face of broken emotions.
Pressure everyone has, when you are stressed to the point of collapse, don't tell others, don't feel that you are very wronged, no one will hurt you, no one cares about it, it is better to be good than people, you have to try to quiet down, do what you should do, instead of letting anxiety, irritability, ruin your little enthusiasm and concentration.
2. When the pressure of work and the pressure of life are piled up together, I find that I am no longer the age when I can be happy by eating a piece of sugar, cold and warm self-knowledge, only self-crossing.
Sometimes, people are very annoyed and tired. It's not that I have a bad temper, but I'm too tired and too stressed. There are some things that cannot be said, that cannot be sued, that I have not changed. but. There are so many things to bear! Many times pretend that it doesn't matter, but in fact, there are bitter tears in the heart. There are things that there is no way but to face! There are some things that no one will understand except themselves, some helplessness, except silence, no one can say, a person quietly collapses, and slowly heals himself, and when the time comes, everything will pass.
It's really not easy for us to be in a dilemma, everything is irretrievable, because we are not understood, so we want to say less and less, all the unhappiness can collapse in an instant, obviously living a bad life but still having to behave like nothing.
How many people are strong in mouth, surrender in heart, really not so strong, but have been strong, obviously living a very bad life, but still have to behave as if nothing happened... In the recent state, the heart hides exhaustion and collapse, while collapsing and degenerating, and at the same time desperately trying to heal itself.
3. The trough period is for you to upgrade, not for you to set the factory settings, the most fierce contest between people is that you have to be more disciplined, more motivated, and better than him.
People will become, from naïve to mature, from simple to complex, from straight to careful, from heartless to full of defense. Maturity is probably from the beginning of the explanation, to the later silent not to say. Spring, summer, autumn and winter are constantly changing, year after year, many people have replaced many people, in the most helpless time can really see a lot of people, in the overwhelmed age even crying is redundant, feel that crying is also a very tired thing.
In the most helpless time can really see a lot of people, not to see clearly many people after the most helpless, happy sharing of the wrong person becomes a pendulum, sad sharing of the wrong person becomes a pretense, even a joke. What growth is nothing more than practicing seventy-two changes and surviving loneliness. Laughing at eighty-one difficulties, life is like sailing against the current, but life is also wonderful in that it can go up against the current. Just like the wind is strong, as long as you go forward bravely, there will be a time when the small flat boat will arrive at the shore, and there will be a moment of flash in the small stars, so don't live up to every time and don't live up to yourself at every moment.