In today's society, there is always the topic of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many women say that mother-in-law is not good, is it really bad mother-in-law, or because she does not know how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
In fact, how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a difficult problem since ancient times. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or bad, and it has a relationship with both parties.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are originally two people who are not related by blood or emotion, because a man connects two strangers together, which is also a very wonderful fate. Get along well, have one more relative in life, get along badly, and may also become an enemy.
In fact, the root cause of many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts is the difference in living habits, handling principles and parenting concepts.
Today's women are all children who have been educated by new ideas and have grown up in the spoils of their parents. They are more concerned with their own satisfaction first, and the feelings of others second.
This practice is seen by outsiders as a manifestation of selfishness, such as asking their mother-in-law to respect their own living habits and parenting concepts, and to strictly follow the procedures in books to raise children.
Because the mother-in-law has brought her own children, she will always use her own experience to bring her grandchildren. She did not accept the changes in her thinking of the new era, and always educated her grandchildren in the same way she had treated her children before. This makes this unacceptable to many women now.
You see, the two have different views on this matter. You can't say who is right and who is wrong, but in terms of parenting, the mother-in-law still has to listen to the daughter-in-law, after all, it is the daughter-in-law's child, and the mother-in-law only helps to bring it. Many of the old concepts are not suitable for the current scientific parenting concepts.
You see in the current variety show, Chen Songling's mother-in-law did not like this daughter-in-law at the beginning, she was older than her son, she could not have children, as an only child family, she could not pass on the generations, which was a big blow to the elderly.
Even under the camera, the mother-in-law is dissatisfied with Chen Songling in various ways. But Chen Songling is very smart and has a high emotional intelligence. Communicate with your mother-in-law frequently before doing things, and often praise your mother-in-law. Now I feel that the two have run into each other and get along much more harmoniously.
Therefore, the key to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to communicate with each other, respect each other, understand each other, maintain politeness, reduce expectations, and be able to make the day better and better.