Whether the husband and wife can last long, in fact, it is doomed from the beginning, and there are traces to follow.

As the saying goes: "It's easy to fall in love, it's not easy to get married, it's easy to fall in love, it's hard to get along." For many people who love each other, going to the temple of marriage does not mean the beginning of happiness, and on another level may even be the beginning of unhappiness. Because before getting married, many people will not think about how I blindly looked at him \ her, and I will not have self-doubt, did I have a brain into the water, will choose him \ her. The sweet married life I once envisioned was contrary to what I was experiencing. So after getting married, I found out how inappropriate I was with another person, a chicken feather, after a short time together, in the end, I could only break up and part ways.

So in life, we often encounter many people who have been in love for several years, but once they enter marriage, they are quickly divorced. It can't be said that they don't love anymore, only that once loved is true love, but it is not appropriate to live together after marriage. Why do two people look like a good match in others, and they are also very sweet when they are in love, why can't they last long after marriage? But some couples can be combined for a lifetime? Married life is like drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge. Whether the husband and wife can last long, in fact, it is doomed from the beginning, and there are traces to follow.

1, the shortcomings ignored when talking about love, marriage is likely to become the fuse of divorce

We all know that it is not easy to fall in love and get married, and we all know that no one is perfect, but when it comes to love, many people are blind, and they will spontaneously filter out the shortcomings of this person, and only see the shining strengths of him. If two people are too blind when they are in love, and only see each other's strengths and strengths, then it is difficult to last long after marriage. Because marriage is a process of gradually exposing shortcomings, it is those shortcomings that slowly wear away the attraction and advantages of the two people before each other, and then lead to the marriage being full of holes.

If you want to get married for a long time, you must find someone who is also acceptable to you. Like the barrel effect, how much water a bucket holds is determined by the shortest plank. Whether the same husband and wife are harmonious and whether the family can be happy is also determined by the shortcomings of the two people, if you cannot accept the shortcomings of this person when you are in love, you should be more cautious when you get married.

2. Whether the two respect each other when they are in love

When talking about love, it can best reflect the way two people get along, if at this time the two people can't do enough respect, one person is high, the other person is humble and low to the dust. Or a quarrel to expose each other's shortcomings, blame each other, then after marriage such a relationship will only become more intense, because when in love, there is no pressure from all sides, only the personality and temper of the two people dominate, but once married, there are children, there is pressure from the family and children, if the two do not know how to respect. One side feels that taking care of children and family is what a woman should do, and the other party will feel that she is not respected and understood at home. At the same time, trivial contradictions will also break out more quarrels, and it will be difficult to stabilize feelings.

And couples who are too idealistic and feel that sentient beings can solve everything are difficult to last. Because the best marriages are not so much "sentient and full of water", if the marriage cannot be implemented to eat, dress, sleep, these real small things can not last long.

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