Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
An original emotion number that deserves your attention
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"If you've been rejected by girls and have suffered many bumps in the road to getting rid of a single, you should perhaps reflect on whether you've found the wrong group."
This is an uncle's advice to his 33-year-old unmarried cousin.
Since the 30-year-old Kan'er, his cousin has been very anxious about his marriage, he strives to pursue the girl he likes, and he is willing to participate in blind dates arranged by friends and relatives, but he has been in a state of failure in the past few years.
Now he has begun to feel disappointed in marriage, because he really does not know when he will be able to enter the palace of marriage.
So as a cousin, he guided his cousin's thoughts.
"It's reasonable for an older leftover woman to be hard to chase, so why do you have to gnaw on that hard bone?" It is better to transfer time and energy to post-95 girls, who are the age of hate to marry, and it will be easier to catch up. ”
This is his golden and jade words to his cousin, and it is also his experience.
At the age of 31, he had pursued a 30-year-old woman, and he had spent half a year failing to impress the other party, and it just so happened that at this time he met a twenty-six or seven-year-old girl who was anxious every day because she was urged to marry by her parents.
He took the initiative and took only half a month to catch up with the other party.
Everything is both unexpected and reasonable.
If the older leftover women are easy to chase, there will be no one left
As we all know, in the matter of marriage and love, the requirements for men and women in our country have always been completely different.
If a boy does not have a certain material foundation, everyone feels that he is not qualified to marry, because after marriage, men must shoulder family responsibilities.
But for a girl, this matter is particularly simple, no one will demand the girl in terms of material conditions, and everyone does not even look at her family situation.
In other words, men must meet certain requirements if they want to get married, while women who want to get married only need to be personal.
In such a situation, it is naturally very easy for a woman to want to get married.
If she can't get married for a long time, it is likely that the requirements are too high, which is what many people say is very picky.
A very picky woman, naturally not so easy to be chased.
What's more, she is in her 30s, and naturally she will not be too anxious about marriage and love.
A woman who is very picky about the opposite sex and is not in a hurry to get married is something that the average man can't chase.
The post-95 generation is the age of anxiety
Girls in '95 and '96 were at their most anxious ages, and this anxiety came not only from themselves, but also from external stress.
01 Twenty-six or seven years old is the age of "hate marriage"
If you want to say which age girl most want to enter the marriage hall, it is about twenty-six or seven years old.
Women in their 30s have passed the age of panic, and at this time, they seem to be less anxious, and even some people have turned a blind eye to marriage.
But twenty-six or seven-year-old girls are different, they are in the upper and lower age stage, they are worried that if they can't solve the marriage problem as soon as possible, they will be 30 years old.
They want to marry themselves off before the age of 30, and there is not much time left, so they will seem particularly anxious.
Just as the so-called emergency medical treatment, when a girl is particularly anxious, she often does not have too high requirements for the other half, even if the other party is older, they will not mind.
02 Family marriage urging
If a girl is over 25 years old, not married, and not in love, the people in the family will start to urge marriage.
If it is a girl who has not gone to college, the family's urging for marriage will be greater, after all, such a girl has been in society for many years.
Never underestimate the pressure of parents to urge marriage, this pain is not something that everyone can bear.
If relatives are involved, girls usually feel miserable, and they also want to find a boyfriend to take home as soon as possible, so that they can block the mouths of their parents and relatives.
For twenty-six or seven-year-old girls, marriage is more like an answer sheet, others have handed in the papers, they are delayed in doing it, and their hearts will feel flustered.
They are very eager for marriage, and it will be relatively easy to pursue them in such an atmosphere.
The older leftover man wants to get off the list, and chasing after 95 is a good way out
Many men are afraid to pursue girls who are a few years younger than themselves because they are in their 30s, they are afraid of rejection, and they are more worried about being ridiculed by girls for being too old.
But have you ever thought that on the road to getting rid of a single, there is something more important than solving the problem?
The big deal is to be rejected, you have not been rejected before, you will not regret trying, let alone in case you succeed?
Once successful, you will step into the palace of marriage, say goodbye to singleness from now on, and have a family of your own, which is the most perfect ending for you.
For older leftover men, twenty-six or seventeen-year-old girls are the best consideration.
Girls under the age of 25 may dislike that you are too old, not to mention that girls at that age do not want to get married, even if you catch up, you may not be able to step into the palace of marriage, if you break up in the future, it is only you who are unlucky.
Women over the age of 30 are inherently the worst bones to gnaw on, and no matter how long and energetic you spend, you may not be able to move each other.
Chasing a little girl is too risky, chasing an older girl is too difficult, and only a twenty-six or seven-year-old girl is the best choice.
Like you, they want to enter the palace of marriage, they want to have a family of their own, and they are at a very anxious age.
Under these conditions, as long as you are willing to give your heart and do something that moves the other party, success will not be too far away from you.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
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