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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Tian Ge said: "Women can grow old in the years, and must not wither in marriage." ”
Marriage is the most important life choice for every woman, no matter how much you love a man, you can't be sloppy.
The old man often says that marrying depends on the family, which is also a reminder to every girl, after all, marriage can not tolerate any mistakes.
Whether the life after marriage is happy often depends on whether the woman can marry the right person, which requires the woman to keep a clear head before marriage and must choose the right person.
In fact, the man's family also has an important impact on marriage, what kind of family cultivates what kind of man, women must not ignore in this regard.
Once married to a man, the second half of a woman's life will be spent in the man's family, marrying a man of a good family, life is easier to be happy, and marrying a family with an unhealthy family style, life after that is often very painful.
Therefore, parents should tell their daughters that the man's family does not meet the three situations and is basically not worth marrying.
First, see whether the man's original family is harmonious
Before a woman marries, it is very necessary to know more about the man's original family.
Because, what kind of character and character a man is often determined by his family and the environment in which he grew up.
A man of good character definitely has a warm family, his growth environment is more positive and friendly, and he can feel the warmth of love.
Such a man, with a sunny personality and a very optimistic attitude towards life, even if he does not make achievements for the time being, he can create the happiness he wants in the future life.
On the contrary, if the man's family is not good, such as the lack of the original family, there is no warmth of love, and the growth environment is not good.
This kind of man's personality may be very paranoid, often very selfish, they do not feel the warmth of home, and it is difficult to guarantee that they can create a warm family in the future.
If a woman marries such a man, her future life may not be happy, and she must see clearly before marrying.
Therefore, when a woman is in love with a man, she must know more about his family and must not be blind.
You can ask a man to take you to his home to see, meet his family, and get a feel for how his family life is.
Many things, only by personally experiencing and seeing with your own eyes, can you know what you want.
How the man's family gets along, who does the housework, whether there is machismo, whether the family is harmonious, and so on.
These women must understand before marriage, and everything can be prevented in advance in order to avoid the misfortune of future marriage.
For example, if you are in the man's family, you can pay attention to the feelings of his parents, who cooks, and whether there is the warmth of love in the process of getting along.
If the man's parents have a bad relationship, or all the housework is done by the woman, the man never touches the edge, and there are a lot of requirements.
Obviously, such a family is more patriarchal, and feels that women have no status, so they should do housework and serve men.
Then, women should stay away when they encounter this kind of family, it is best not to marry the past, otherwise you will become statusless and will not be happy in the future.
Second, see if the man's family has a good family style
As the old saying goes, "The upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked." ”
A family's family style is not right, and the men cultivated are certainly not very good, and their character may not be good.
Men grow up in a family with an unhealthy family, they will only follow the character of their parents, such a man must be very selfish, very domineering, and will not be reasonable at all.
If the man's character is discounted, the future marriage will certainly not be happy, maybe it is a chicken feather, and the serious will make other messes, so that women will be implicated.
Before a woman marries, she still has to look at the man's family, whether the man has money or not, he cannot ignore his character.
If you marry a man with bad character and bad views, your future life will be very painful.
After all, in a family with an unhealthy family, the people inside are very self-righteous and do not know how to respect others.
Women must pay attention to marriage, because after marriage, you are with the man's family, if you meet a man with bad character and bad family style, the second half of your life will be lost, too unworthy.
Therefore, parents should remind their daughters in love that before getting married, they must understand the man's family.
To get married, it is really not to find a rich man, but to marry a man with a good family and excellent character, so that he can live happily in marriage.
Many times, it is not money and material things that determine marital happiness, but the character of men.
Marry the right person, even if the man's economic foundation is not strong, but his character is good, his family is excellent, and he will definitely get better and better in the future.
On the contrary, marrying a man with an unhealthy family style, his character is not good, he has bad hobbies, and his future life will definitely feel torment and pain.
In short, that kind of family style is not good, men have no character, no responsibility, even if they have money, do not marry, so as not to regret it in the future.
Third, see if the man's family is right
In "The Age of New Marriage", it is said:
"Marriage should be right, or rather, it must be matched according to conditions, not just by feelings. No matter how deep the feelings, in the trivialities of life brought about by the improper door and the wrong conditions, they must also be worn away. ”
Indeed, women still have to marry a man who is right in the door, with the same frequency with each other, with common ideas and values, so that the combination will be more harmonious.
Otherwise, how can you be happy if you find a man who doesn't even have a common language, and the perceptions of two people, and the attitudes and pursuits towards life are different?
Love, can be romantic, can be simple, but marriage is complex, is two people holding hands to face life, and later life.
If they don't have the right door to each other, it will be difficult to integrate in the future life, let alone how happy they can be.
Marriage is a woman's lifelong affair, can not tolerate a little mistake, only with caution, in order to avoid the misfortune of marriage.
After some girls fall in love, they are often too blind, only to pursue romantic love, and forget whether men match themselves, and eventually there will be a lot of problems.
For example, my friend Xiao Tian, she is a 985 undergraduate, has a decent job, a monthly salary of more than 10,000, grew up in the city, and her parents have jobs.
However, she found a boyfriend who had not even studied in college, the other party's economic conditions were very poor, the monthly salary was only five or six thousand, and her parents were rural and did not have a job.
Compared with the two families, there is really a big difference. However, Xiao Tian did not think so much at that time, and resolutely stayed with him despite the opposition of her family.
After two years of love, he got married, and at that time, the man did not give a bride price, did not buy a house, and did not have decent furniture at home.
Such a marriage is naturally difficult to be happy, and after less than a year of marriage, two people often have conflicts, and eventually end in divorce.
Therefore, parents should tell their daughters to try to find a man who is right with their own door, and only at the spiritual and material levels can they achieve a certain degree of integration, and the marriage will be happier.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Le Xiaomi wrote in "Qingcheng": "Love, not only pays attention to the door to the door, but also pays attention to chess and opponents. ”
When a woman interacts with a man, she must clearly see the essence of the man, his character, responsibilities, and the family behind it, which is the most important thing to understand.
In families with daughters, parents must tell their daughters: before a woman marries, she needs to look at the man's family, and generally men from these three families cannot marry.
Men with a family that is not harmonious, men with unhealthy family styles, men who do not have the right door, women may wish to leave early to avoid marital misfortune.
I hope that girls in love can think more and pay more attention to marriage, and treat marriage with caution.
Marrying the right person is the guarantee of married life, not men's money and materials, and women must have a correct cognition and values.
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