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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Shakespeare said, "A less passionate love lasts forever." ”
Indeed, no relationship can remain in a warm state for a long time, but will fluctuate over time.
When you understand this, you don't need to be passionate about women all the time, but learn to give women the right snub at the right time.
Many times, the more passionate the love, the faster it gets colder. On the contrary, it is appropriate to snub and maintain a state of imminent separation, but it can keep the feelings fresh.
Therefore, whether men pursue women or fall in love, even in marriage, they must learn to snub women appropriately.
In this way, your enthusiasm will have value, and when the feelings cool down, the love you get again can make women see your goodness and your love for you more firmly.
Therefore, to snub a woman so much, she can't do without you. You snubbed her in 3 ways, and she will love you instead.
First, maintain the dignity in the feelings, know how to reject women
Many men have a misconception that getting along with a woman requires unconditional giving in order to get her love.
In fact, if a man has no dignity in his feelings and behaves too humblely, he will make women look down on you.
Blindly pleasing women, really can not be exchanged for true love, only to maintain their dignity, know how to reject women, in order to make her look up to you.
Therefore, men in the relationship, should pay for women, you have to pay with your heart, let her see your attitude.
However, for the unreasonable demands made by women, or the demands that are beyond your ability to bear, there is no need to blindly pander and please.
Because if you disregard your own ability and dignity and make a lot of effort to do something for her, you not only bear a huge price yourself, but also get her favor.
Don't let women take it for you as a habit, otherwise, you may be hurt in the end.
Just like his friend Mr. Chen, he had a girlfriend before, especially loved her, and relied on her for everything.
Mr. Chen said that once, his girlfriend saw a mobile phone and a bag and asked him to buy it. When Mr. Chen looked at the price, he was a little panicked.
Because the combined price of the two things is close to 20,000, Mr. Chen discussed with his girlfriend to buy the same first, and then buy the second one after the next month's salary.
However, the girlfriend did not understand at all, thinking that Mr. Chen did not love her, so she lost her temper and kicked and beat him in the street, making him particularly embarrassed.
Mr. Chen had no choice but to swipe his card first, thinking that he would return it later. However, the girlfriend did not have any moderation at all, and later bought a lot of things in a row, which eventually made Mr. Chen overdrawn and had a particularly painful life.
In love for a year, Mr. Chen spent forty or fifty thousand, and not a penny was saved, and finally he saw that his girlfriend was not sincere, so he had to endure the pain and leave.
Therefore, when men and women get along, they must have their own dignity and bottom line, can not blindly connive and please women, and sometimes appropriately reject her, but will let her care about you. Otherwise, it will only make her ignore you and will not truly love you.
Second, have your own principles, and be separated from her
When men and women get along, don't stick to her all day, you have to have your own principles, but also have your own space to focus on doing your own things.
I found that many men have the misunderstanding that loving a woman is to accompany her all day and respond to her instructions.
In fact, this is not completely correct, when you first start pursuing, you really need to care and accompany, which can make women feel more secure.
However, when the relationship with the woman matures and reaches a stable period, don't go around her all day anymore.
On the one hand, women also have their own space and don't want to be disturbed by you, and they basically don't like it when men pester her all day.
On the other hand, men also need to focus on their careers so that they can create a better life. If you're around women all day, it's easy to become inattentive and not get results.
Therefore, it is best for a man to maintain a state of imminent separation from the woman, not only to maintain the necessary care, but also to have their own principles, and to snub the woman appropriately, so that she can feel that this love is more precious.
At any time, men should not let their love become cheap, but be noble.
Many times, your high coldness, not only will not make women angry, but feel that you have the temperament of a man, especially when you focus on your career, she will feel the aura on you.
If you are worried about a woman's mood all day long, careful to maintain her, disregard principles to coax her and spoil her, she may only use you as a tool that can squander feelings, not true love.
The man who really makes women care is the kind of man who has principles, dignity, and aura.
When you accompany her, you can pamper her indefinitely, and once you focus on your career, you must maintain a proper estrangement from her, let her see your attitude, not affected by her, and such love can stand the test.
Therefore, in the relationship, properly snubbing a woman will make her care more about you.
Third, the way of love can not be solidified, so that intermittent snubs her
Men get along with women, the way you love her is best not solidified, otherwise, once a fixed thinking is formed in the woman's heart, it is difficult to change it in the future.
At this time, you have to intermittently snub the woman, not only to maintain your own decency, but also to let the woman feel the preciousness of love.
For example, when some men and women are in a relationship, they like to send messages to women on time and on time, which is not a good way, and it is particularly easy to fix love.
Every day at a certain time, you send a message to the woman to care, or at a certain point, you go to the woman to accompany, in the long run, the woman will definitely be fixed and waiting for your arrival.
If one day you forget to send a message, or something is too late to accompany her, she will definitely not understand, and will feel that you do not value her.
In the feelings, once you give the impression of the woman is very fixed, the way of love has formed a solidified thinking, which is not a good phenomenon, and if it is not good, there will be misunderstandings, and even let the feelings fall apart.
Therefore, men must learn to intermittently snub women, and never solidify the way of love.
After all, if a woman has formed a habit of loving you and has a fixed mind, you will feel very tired.
She may be happy when you can care for and accompany her on time, and she will be disappointed when you can't do it.
Over time, she either misunderstands you, or her faith in love becomes unsteady, and eventually she becomes strangers with you.
On the contrary, you know how to snub a woman, and you will not love her in a fixed way, but will make her expect more from you.
In her opinion, obviously you were so enthusiastic about her the other day, why did you suddenly stop looking for her these days, she must be concerned about you, and even become very sensitive, worried about whether you are not in love.
When you snub her for a day or two, suddenly come to her again, love her in every way, will instantly let all her emotions get relieved, naturally care more about you.
Men learn to snub women so much, often in a good way to pinch women, at the right time, intermittently snub her, believing that she will be inseparable from you.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Gao Naiyi said: "Once love is satisfied, the charm of others is gone." ”
Men in the feelings, must know how to pinch women, only let women full of expectations for you, will love you more.
If you satisfy a woman unconditionally, it will only make her have no fear, and thus ignore you, and the relationship will probably not last long.
To sum up, the opposite sex gets along, you use these 3 ways to snub the woman, she will love you instead.
Maintain the dignity of feelings, know how to reject women; have their own principles, and be inseparable from her; the way of love cannot be solidified, so that intermittently snub her.
When you know how to use these ways to maintain feelings, women will care more about you and cherish you more.
Good love needs to be sincere, but also needs the right way to get along, I hope that men can understand and get the happiness they want.
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