He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
"When you like a flower, you just pluck it; when you fall in love with a flower, you water it."
The meaning of this sentence is not only the difference between like and love, but also the inner activity of a person in his feelings.
When liking a person, this affection is variable and uncertain; when he meets another better person, it is easy to be attracted to others.
Falling in love with someone will make a person change from the heart.
Love is to pay for each other without hesitation and willingly.
But the weakness of human nature is that any period of giving, subconsciously, is eager to be rewarded.
Once there is no return, some people will fall into grief, and some people will act excessively.
For example, if you can't get your own love, you will destroy this love with your own hands.
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"If you don't get you, you will be destroyed"
There was a girl who left a message.
The girl said that she had recently fallen into a state of "verbal violence, slander behind her back, and malicious slander" brought by her boyfriend, which made her fall into depression for a time.
Girls have been in love with their boyfriends for 2 years, and their feelings with their boyfriends are getting worse and worse, and every day in addition to quarrels is the Cold War.
In this regard, the girl is very reluctant to continue the relationship; she wants a flat and stable relationship, and the two people work together, from love to marriage.
But in her boyfriend, she sees no hope, no future; he's lazy, unenterprising, and full of lies.
These, the girls did not pay attention to, just silently endured.
After letting go, choose to break up.
I thought that the breakup was the end, but I didn't expect that the breakup was the beginning of the boyfriend's revenge.
Her boyfriend went to her company and made a fuss, emailed her boss and said she wasn't.
He said that she was not in a proper life and did not love herself, and denigrated her for doing some private work during her work hours.
In short, the girl was fired from the company.
Not only that, the boy also denigrated her among the two people's mutual friends, saying that the reason for the breakup was the girl's betrayal of feelings.
If you don't get it, you destroy it, and this kind of love is suffocating.
Because the girl was denigrated by her boyfriend and retaliated by her boyfriend, she fell into depression and did not come out for a long time.
She didn't expect things to turn out like this, and the people who had once loved each other ended up in this form.
What makes her even more angry is that in love, she pays more money, time and feelings than boys.
This kind of love is always unbearable.
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Why do some people have to destroy it if they don't get it?
First: psychological imbalance, I can't get it, others can't get it
Some people, after breaking up with their ex, blame their ex for all the reasons.
Although he did not pay much in love, it was some of his actions that led to emotional failure, but he still chose to "treat people with evil".
They will not admit their mistakes, never willing to face up to their shortcomings, but only vent their resentment on each other.
These people, often, have this idea:
"I can't get you, and no one else wants to get you."
"Since you are separated from me, you have to bear the corresponding consequences."
Retaliation, threats, this is their usual behavior.
And, when they first break up, they will behave humbly, beg the other person's forgiveness, and ask the other party to reunite.
After being rejected by the other party, it will instantly ignite the "resentment and anger" in his heart and push him to the cold side.
Second: psychological imbalance, falling into extremes
There is another situation.
During A and B's relationship, A pays a lot, whether it is money, time or emotion, he pays much more than B.
But one day, B suddenly proposed to break up with him, and soon B began a new relationship.
Therefore, the more A thinks about it, the more angry he becomes, and the more he thinks about it, the more he feels that he is not worth it for what he has paid in love.
Unwilling, angry, bitter, love eventually turns into hate.
He thinks that he has been deceived, his self-confidence and self-esteem have been hit, and his psychology has gradually moved towards a state of imbalance.
When the balance is upset, an honest person can also erupt into unimaginable threats.
Usually, the more silent the personality, the person who does not care about small things, encounters some big things, the more likely it is to erupt the "anger" hidden in the heart.
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What kind of people are likely to "hurt you" after a breakup?
Moods are changeable and moody.
Unable to control his emotions, he is always very sad and happy, because a small thing can make him become irritable and obedient, and such a person is actually very dangerous.
Because you don't know when, because of which one thing, it sent him into a state of madness and anger.
Full of negativity, always very pessimistic.
When you are with him, you are always affected by his negative emotions, negative energies.
The original good mood will also become a bad mood because of some of his performances.
People who are gloomy, stubborn, and have extreme personalities are also prone to extreme things.
Selfish, narcissistic, egotistical.
This is a person's trait and a hidden attribute within.
In the course of your relationship, he rarely considers your feelings, is always selfish, and thinks only for himself.
He is narcissistic and always asks you to worship him, praise him, and try to control you spiritually.
Such a person will also act aggressively after breaking up.
We can't just feel the sweetness in love, but we should also do a good job of the regurgitation brought about by the disappearance of love.
Clutching sorrow and joy, loving and hating each other, are things that adults will experience; if they have loved, why should they be full of resentment?
Today's Topic:
What do you think of people who "don't get it and destroy it"?
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