Source: Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu)
Author: Ten O'Clock
Read a sentence:
"We came into this world to run our own family, family happiness, life is called success."
Over the years, however, more and more people have turned the cart before the horse.
In order to pursue a career, he lost his family, and in order to pursue money, he left his family.
But in fact, what determines the happiness of a family is not how big the house is, nor is it that there are many deposits.
A family wants peace and prosperity, a good family style, harmony with each other, family health, all three are indispensable.
What is home style?
Home is a collection of people, and the principles, personalities, and ideas of each other are constantly running into each other, which will naturally form a kind of atmosphere.
Family style is in this long-term development process, the continuous continuation of the family temperament and value orientation.
But in my opinion, the family style is actually not only moral indoctrination, but more like a spiritual force.
Subtly affects every family member, thus affecting the rise and fall of the family.
Many people know that Pei is known as a "world-class master builder", and many countries have left his classic works.
But few people know that his Bei family is equally legendary.
Uncle Bei Runsheng was the king of pigments; grandfather Belitai was the earliest financier in China;
His father, Pei Zuyi, served as the president of the central bank during the Republic of China period, in addition, the Pei family also produced educator Pei Jiyao, scientist Pei I.M. Qu, economist Pei Shihong...
The ancients had clouds, gentlemen's zeal, and five generations and cuts.
However, the Bei family broke this spell and passed it on for hundreds of years, thriving for 15 generations.
The reason behind this is actually very simple, they pay special attention to the inheritance of family style.
In the view of Pei's ancestors, "it is better to leave off descendants with virtue than to leave offspring with unique property; it is better to leave descendants with exclusive property than to leave descendants with public property." ”
This family motto also permeates the bones and blood of each descendant of the family, becoming a spiritual bond between family members and even part of the fate.
Uncle Bei Runsheng bought the Lion Forest with heavy money and established the Bei Clan Chengxun Yizhuang to rescue the clan, and the whole family was united with love and talents;
My grandfather successively launched a huge amount of money to open a "new road" and opened China's first new kindergarten.
To this day, the Bei clan still practices the admonitions left by their ancestors, and is diligent and charitable from generation to generation.
Whoever is a parent will have far-reaching plans for it.
The house, the car, and the wealth we do our best to leave for our children are important.
However, if you want your children to prosper in the future, it is not because of temporary wealth, but in a good family style.
Matter will disappear with the change of time, and only the family style that has been passed down for hundreds of years will never change.
A good family style is not only the crystallization of life wisdom, but also the biggest real estate of a family.
A family, a good family style is passed down from generation to generation, and it is not worried that energy will flow for a long time and prosper for a long time.
In real life, we run all day long, in order to live a better life.
But many people often make a mistake: they are only angry with outsiders, but they lose their temper with their families.
Because of the endless quarrels between income, housework, the elderly and children, the contradictions between each other accumulate more and more, and the family relationship becomes more and more rigid.
Finally, how can a family's heart be fragmented and get better and better?
In the TV series "Chicken Feathers Fly to the Sky", when Luo Yuzhu and Chen Jianghe first met, both of them were people without a home.
One is a blind stream of nest robbers, and the other is busy avoiding police pursuit.
The two people with lively minds came together by chance, from chicken feathers to sugar people, to small commodity wholesale, and the business was booming.
But the weather is unpredictable, the credit crisis has swept through the whole of Yiwu, and they are no exception.
Chinese New Year's Eve night, Chen Jianghe and Luo Yuzhu, who was pregnant, were chased by creditors and could not return home, so they could only curl up in the freight car for the night.
In the face of so many ups and downs, I have long begun to blame and blame each other.
But they never blamed each other, but worked together to find a solution.
The so-called husband and wife have one heart, and their profits are broken, and they also rely on their own efforts to become a generation of legendary Yiwu businessmen.
The Book of Rites has clouds: "Father and son, brotherhood, husband and wife, and the fat of the family." ”
Life is impermanent, and it is inevitable that there will be stumbling.
But as long as husband and wife are of the same heart and mind, the heart thinks in one place, and the strength goes to one place, no matter how big the difficulties can be resolved.
A family and a harmonious spirit, working together to live a good life, why worry about wealth?
Home and harmony, in order to be able to prosper.
The prosperity of a family requires the joint efforts of all family members.
Small things are not disputed, big things are not responsible, and when things are carried together, even if the start of the day is a little worse, it will get better and better.
The old man often said: "What is the most expensive, health is the most expensive; what is the blessing, the home is the blessing." ”
In the past, young people did not know the meaning of the sentence, and now the middle-aged shoulders the responsibility, only to know the taste of sorrow.
Some time ago, when I returned to my hometown, I heard that my neighbor Uncle Wang had found liver cancer.
Uncle Wang is a famous desperate sanlang in the village, not afraid of dirty, not afraid of tired, and has done countless kinds of work.
After the child went to school, he drove a taxi on the street late at night to pick up and drop off late passengers, and every day he was busy, sometimes even if he was unwell, he had to endure to go to work.
I thought that by working so hard and making money hard, the family would soon be able to live a good life.
However, I did not think that once I was overworked and hospitalized, I was diagnosed with liver cancer.
The doctor said that there is still hope for treatment in the medium term, and it is recommended to take targeted drugs first.
However, a course of treatment is tens of thousands, and it costs hundreds of thousands of dollars a year, which is already all the savings of their family for several years.
Uncle Wang was remorseful:
"In this way, the house will be sold, and I am to blame, I have dragged down this home." Xiao Jun is only 8 years old, what should their mother and son do in the future? ”
People always have an illusion that desperately making money and having a successful career is the best care and return for their families.
But the truth, when your body collapses, no matter how much money and fame, what is the use?
And it's not just you're suffering from physical pain, it's not painful for your whole family to be in front of your hospital bed.
The bottomless medical bills were enough to quickly squeeze out an ordinary family, putting everyone in the family under pressure and even despair until they were defeated.
When people reach middle age, their bodies are no longer their own, but also their families'.
Health is a responsibility to the family, and it is also the foundation of a family's long-term prosperity.
As long as the family is neat and healthy together, do not seek great wealth and nobility, you can also live a tasteful life.
I like a quote from the writer Yi Shu:
"When I was forty, in good health, with a little savings, a thoughtful husband, obedient children, and a job that I really liked, that was success, and I didn't have to be famous or rich."
The happiness of a home is never determined by the house or money, but needs to be maintained and built by each other.
Parents pay attention to the inheritance of family style, leading by example, children naturally continue to approach their parents and inherit good qualities;
It is not easy for parents to get along harmoniously, understand and understand each other, and children can live in an environment full of love and warmth;
The family is healthy and safe together, disease-free and disaster-free, even if it cannot be rich and noble, it can continue to prosper in the impermanence of the years.
If you do these three things, a home will naturally get better and better, and it is difficult to think about happiness.
Whenever and wherever you are, it's important to remember:
Home is our lifelong dependence; family is the weakness of our life.
Please run our home well, love our family well, and don't put the cart before the horse.
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