As the saying goes:
"A prosperous family is like a needle picking up the soil, and a loser is like a wave of sand."
This means that a family prospers like picking up soil with a needle, which is very difficult; while a loser is like a wave rushing through the sand, which can be dispersed in an instant.
Indeed, a family is always too bad to be easy, too hard to live.
For the family to get better, it takes the joint efforts of the family to continue to operate, but it is too bad, and sometimes it only needs a bad habit.
So, what are the factors that can most destroy a family's prosperity?
In fact, if a family has the following three signals, then it is a sign of decay, and one should be careful.
Family feuds
There is a saying in "Hanging Mirror in the World":
"He who has not been angry, but whose family is not decaying; who has not had a harmonious qi, and whose family is not auspicious."
Whether a family can get better and better is often not determined by how much wealth there is at the moment, but on whether the family has a harmonious atmosphere.
Home and can be everything happy.
When a family can work together, encourage each other, and support each other, then even if life is not very satisfactory now, one day it will survive and return to Gan.
However, if the family is always noisy, the father and son are not tedious, the brothers are not harmonious, and the husband and wife are not in harmony, then one day, the whole family will be torn apart.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
There is a family, the father started from scratch, through his own efforts, earned a huge family business, accumulated a huge wealth.
However, his five children were all calculating each other for the sake of family property, and after the death of their father, they even fought for the sake of separating the family.
Originally a good family, because of the distribution of property, eventually became enemies.
After that, in the process of mutual consumption, the opponent took advantage of the void, not only the family's wealth gradually shrunk, but also the market share that was once slowly swallowed up by the opponent, and the whole family was finally defeated.
Harmony is the needle of the family.
Only when the family can harmonize and take care of each other, can we form a synergy and run the family better and better.
However, once the harmony is lost, it will only drag each other down, and the family will naturally continue to decline.
The home style is not right
Mr. Cai Yuanpei wrote:
"The family, the school of the beginning of life also." The character of a lifetime, the so-called ever-changing one, is mostly embryonic in the family. ”
The family is a person's earliest school, and the family style is the starting point of a person's values.
Only when the family style is right can the children have good virtues, and then they can have good achievements, so as to continuously inject vitality into the prosperity of the family.
If the family style is not correct, it is often impossible to educate children with good moral character, and then there will only be no successors, and the family will naturally continue to decline.
In the TV series "Know It or Not", the Sheng family and the Kang family were originally similar in strength, and even the Kang family was even better.
However, after that, the Kang family became more and more decadent, and the Sheng family became more and more prosperous.
So what is the reason for this result? That's a good home style.
Although sheng hong, the owner of the Sheng family, is a little eccentric, whether it is the education of the children or the selection of a husband for the daughter, it is all based on "morality".
In the end, the eldest son, Sheng Changbai, once dengke, the four daughters in addition to Sheng Molan also married well, the children have a good future, and the family will naturally become more and more prosperous.
On the other hand, the Kang family, under the control of the Kang Wang family, is snobbish and sinister, and in the end none of the children can have a chance. Family decay is unstoppable.
There is a sentence in "The First Lesson of Life":
"Family style, not textbooks, not classrooms, not parents' ear-to-ear life, not waving sticks." But like air, it has lasting penetration, and its influence often trumps other tangible means of education. ”
A good family style is the spiritual food for a prosperous family.
Families with unhealthy family styles and children who are educated will not be able to have good virtues and will eventually find it difficult to stand in the world.
Families are also unable to have a good future.
indolent
Old people often say:
"Frugality is a cornucopia, and diligence is a cash cow."
Diligence to get rich has never been chicken soup for the soul, but a wise saying.
When we look at those happy and lasting families, in fact, there is one characteristic, that is, "diligence".
When a family has the characteristics of diligence, then it can create wealth, can complete its dreams, and its life will be better and better.
On the contrary, when everyone in a family is good and bad, and only wants to open their mouths with clothes and food, then even the most solid family situation will have a day to sit and eat the mountain.
There is such a story:
There were two young men, one of whom came from a poor background, and when his father died, he was left with only a hut and a few acres of thin fields.
The other is the proper rich second generation, whose father left him ten thousand family fortunes.
However, in the short thirty years that followed, poor young people, relying on their own diligence to endure hardships, accumulated wealth little by little, although still not rich and noble, but also lived a more solid life.
The second generation of the rich, because of their greed for pleasure and do not want to forge ahead, will soon lose their family property and live a decadent life.
Jiang Fangzhou said:
"Once a person falls, even for a few short years, God will take away your talents and strength as quickly as possible."
Diligence, perhaps in a short period of time you can not see how much life has changed, but the accumulation of small, over time will be able to change the entire life.
Laziness, on the other hand, will only make people tired, depressed, and eventually life will get worse and worse.
Bing Xin said:
"A good family is the source of all happiness and strength."
Making the family better is a person's responsibility and obligation.
In the future life, may all people be able to run their families well.
If your family is harmonious, industrious and self-motivated, and your family style is excellent, then your family will prosper day by day, and you will be able to cross over and be happier and smoother.
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