Author: Zhang Jianyun
Cloud said family style father/mother article
Every time when stir-frying, the peppercorns, fennels are fried paste, full of pots, full of kitchens, and even full of fresh, rich aromas, there is a yearning: to be a person like peppercorns and fennels, to make the best use of them in their lifetime, to be fried incense, fried paste, to contribute to the dish they are on, and to be picked out of the plate when eating.
The purpose of a good dish is to be eaten on the table, and a few peppercorns and a large fennel are picked out and thrown away by the chef even before they are served. But the same as the utility of the dish, it is "serving the people". But one goes to the table and is eaten by the eyes; one is not on the table, and is eaten without arousing attention.
But one thing can not be broken: the aroma of peppercorns and fennels enters the human sense of taste with the dishes, or there is no peppercorns and fennels, it is likely that this dish will be eclipsed and descent.
Just like a father, he has made irreplaceable contributions to the family and his children, but not to enter the fragrant world of children, not to disturb the happy life of children, but to read elegantly, think quietly, take a leisurely walk, and silently bless, is not it also a greatness?
"Don't let people exaggerate the color, only leave the clean air full of dry" is a kind of realm, "don't let people praise the color, only leave the clean gas full of kitchen" is even more of a kind of cultivation. This is the spirit of Lao Tzu: to be a vulgar person.
Lao Tzu said: The great state is inferior, the pìn of the world, and the intersection of the world.
The big state is a big country, a big party, a big group, a big organization, a big person, and we focus it on a man with a good mind, a high moral character, and an open heart—the role of a father. Obscene, downstream, not mean mean, dirty. Rather, it is the lower reaches of a river. Let the beauty and dirt of the upper and middle streams flow downstream, accept them all, and receive them all as ordered. Even those that are not in the plan, under the mud and sand that are not in the documents, and the fish-eyed beads are also collected, and then flow into the sea with these good and bad, beautiful and ugly, true and false.
A father loves the merits of his children and accepts their shortcomings; the beauty, generosity, and courtesy of his beloved children also accommodates their mistakes, ignorance, and debauchery. As a lewd father, what reason is there not to love, not to hurt, not to believe, not to hug, not to bless, not to miss your children?
But, being a lewd father is hard. It is necessary to have the standards of high society and the ability of the mainstay of the middle class in order to have the cultivation of an inferior father. Take the children and run into the distance, flowing into the sea. At that time, you can quietly withdraw from the children's world, and forget the rivers, lakes and seas with the children who are brought up with one hand, nurtured with the other hand, and pushed into the sea with the other hand and the journey of life.
The meaning of the world is the positioning of men: it seems to be high above, but in fact it should be low and low. Mu, which means female genitalia, can conceive, give birth to her own children, serve and educate, put herself in an inferior position, and let children and grandchildren come here to eat, rest, play, learn, and rejoice. This is: the intersection of the world.
Some people say that women should be mu and men should be mu. Isn't this interpretation of men misplaced and occupying a woman's place?
At home, men are the image of heaven, but to bear the ground, women are the breadth of the earth, but to lift them high up to the sky. This is the view of Lao Tzu's theory, The Tao Te Ching Chapter 40: the movement of the opposite Tao, the use of the weak Tao.
Zou Shiming, a Chinese men's boxing team athlete, is an Olympic champion. In the stage game, his wife Ran Yingying watched the game offstage. In a program of "Lu Yu has an appointment", Ran Yingying was seen holding the child in one hand, dancing non-stop with the other, shouting loudly how to fight.
On July 28, 2017, WBO Flyweight World Boxing Champion defended his title, zou Shiming lost to Japanese boxer Sho Kimura, losing the Flyweight World Boxing Champion Gold Belt. Zou Shiming lost, took the microphone and shouted to the audience, crying uncontrollably, choking several times until he could not speak. Ran Yingying took him in her arms, and he cried in her arms, crying enough, wiping away her tears, picking up the microphone again and saying: The most powerful woman around me told me not to cry, I listened to her.
Such a woman is the earth of thick virtue, can she not be spoiled by men?
Lifting his wife above his head and taking his children to the sea is the lifelong pursuit of a strong man and a lewd father.
Today's original text is the "Tao Te Ching, Chapter 61": The great state is inferior, the world is the mule, and the world is also the friend.
About the Author
Zhang Jianyun is a writer, scholar, member of the All-China Women's Federation Family Construction Expert Think Tank, and member of the China Writers Association.
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