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Many times, a person can live an enviable life, not just by luck.
A person can be happy and happy because he is "worthy."
Maybe his personality is noble, so he deserves to have a good life today. From a spiritual point of view, it is his past life that has accumulated virtue, so that he can enjoy such a good treatment in this life.
However, more often than not, it is a person's character, and a person's actions have created his current good life.
In the cognition of many people, as long as a woman is married, she must face the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and all kinds of chicken and garlic after marriage, and the life will only be a chicken feather.
Perhaps because of this kind of cognition, many people do not live a satisfactory life after marriage.
Psychologically this is self-validation, and spiritually it is the law of attraction.
If a woman feels that married life can only be a chicken feather, then her mind will lead her to create such a fact.
Ah Mao is a very pessimistic person, perhaps she has seen her mother since she was a child that her mother has been harassed by her grandmother, so she feels that women can only have a hard life after marriage, and their mother-in-law is a "bad person".
After Ah Mao and Ah Jian got married, Ah Mao has always been "wary" of his mother-in-law everywhere.
She has a deep prejudice against the role of mother-in-law, so she is very dissatisfied with what her mother-in-law has done, for better or worse.
The mother-in-law is sincerely concerned about her, but she feels that the mother-in-law is ill-intentioned, and all kinds of speculations about the mother-in-law's intentions.
What Ah Mao did to his mother-in-law finally made Ah Jian intolerable to her, and the husband and wife often quarreled.
Ah Mao's married life also confirmed her understanding of married life.
Not all women's married life can only be a chicken feather.
In this world, women who have a good life after marriage abound.
Most of the women who can live well in their in-laws' houses have such "commonalities".
First, she is a grateful person herself
Mentality will determine what kind of life a person lives, a positive and optimistic person, when facing things, always be able to pay attention to the good side at the first time, so it is easier to live happily.
People who are pessimistic or do not know how to be grateful often only pay attention to the lack of things, and miss out on many good things.
The reason why a woman can live well in her in-laws' house is because she knows how to be grateful, and she does not take the kindness of others to her as a matter of course, nor does she maliciously speculate on the intentions of others.
A woman with a grateful heart, she will only see others be good to her, and then from the heart to be good to others, so her life in the in-laws' family will not be bad, even if her in-laws may not be so perfect, but at least in her eyes will be excellent.
Many times, this thing in life is not to think about it, but to make me think. As long as I think it's good, it's really good.
A person's attitude towards the people and things around her will directly affect her quality of life.
Most of the women who can live well in their in-laws' homes have a grateful heart, so they can understand how to love and cherish each other with their in-laws.
Second, the husband knows how to adjust the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Many men always think that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has nothing to do with men, but in fact, whether the mother-in-law relationship can get along well, and whether their daughter-in-law can have a good life in the in-laws' home, to a large extent, depends on whether the man has done anything.
If a man does nothing at home and does not play a role in "peace and mud" when there is a problem between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then the woman will definitely be depressed in the in-law's family.
I like a sentence said by netizens: "The reason why there is a mother-in-law problem in the family is entirely because the men in the family have done nothing." ”
If a husband can make a difference and act as a bridge between his daughter-in-law and his mother, then the family relationship must not be bad.
The reason why many women live a chicken feather after marriage and do not get along well with their in-laws is because their husbands have done nothing in running family relations.
Daughter-in-law and in-laws are not related by blood, so they may not be able to get along with their own families as tolerantly.
The husband is absent from the irresponsible family, and the woman often does not have a good life in the in-laws' house.
When their own men can take on the responsibilities of men, then women can live happily in their in-laws' homes.
It is really crucial for a man in a family to have a role, only in this way can women not chill their hearts, and women can make their in-laws home.
Third, the mother-in-law is a woman who can carry clearly
A woman can live well in her in-laws' home, in addition to being a grateful person herself, her mother-in-law should also be a woman who can carry clearly.
In a family, if the mother-in-law is a person who can carry clearly and does not interfere with the lives of the two children at will, then the relationship between the family can also be very harmonious.
A woman is a "feng shui" in the family, if the woman in the family can guard her boundaries and do her duty, then the family must be thriving.
Conversely, if a woman always intends to cross the line, to interfere in other people's lives, to interfere with other people's choices with her own standards, then the energy field of this home will be chaotic.
The reason why many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships can get along well is because mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can guard their boundaries, do not interfere with each other, and truly care.
Whether a woman can live well in her in-laws' home is directly related to her mother-in-law. Those women who have a mother-in-law who can carry it clearly in the family are generally not bad in the in-laws' home.
A person's attitude to life can affect her life, and an optimistic person can live in heaven even if he lives in a barren place. Family harmony cannot depend on one person, but is the result of the whole family working together with love and tolerance.
A woman's good life in her in-laws' house depends not on luck, but on her mentality and her original vision of men, and the ability to meet the mother-in-law who can be carried clearly.
The good life you have is not because of luck, but because you are "worthy".
Those women who can live well in the in-laws' house must also be worthy of good people, and their happiness is not only because of luck.
Whoever allows himself to be a good person in advance, and then asks for a good life.
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