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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
George Bernard Shaw said: "Those who want to get married should get married, and if they want to be single, they can stay single, and in the end you will regret it." ”
In fact, no matter how a person chooses, he will eventually regret his previous choices.
Married people often envy single people, and single people are eager to get married. However, this kind of thinking changes with the change of time.
So a woman who has been single for a long time and says she doesn't want to get married is certainly not true. Many women have been single for a long time, and their hearts are eager to find a man to marry.
The difference is that women in this period, who have already experienced the washing of time, will not be as rash as when they were young.
They will have clearer standards for men, and if men don't meet their own conditions, then they won't get married easily.
After all, they have also seen too many examples of marital unhappiness in their lives and will be more cautious about marriage.
That is to say, women who have been single for a long time have a more mature psychology and a stronger ability to make them stick to a single life without marrying.
Regardless of their psychological state, it is important to ignore that there are more and more independent women today.
When they don't meet the right man, then marriage is just an option in life, not a necessity.
Generally speaking, women are single for a long time, it is difficult to put on men again, they are not unmarried, most of them have three kinds of psychology:
First, they are independent women and cannot meet the right men
Some women are single for a long time, in large part because they are too good, have independent abilities, live a quality life, and have difficulty meeting men who match the conditions for a while.
At this time, women usually do not marry, they are fully capable of living a better life, there is no need to marry.
If you marry a man whose conditions are not as good as theirs, it is likely to reduce the quality of life, which is the most difficult for them to accept.
Therefore, those independent women basically have the idea that they would rather be single in high quality than have a low-quality marriage.
When they don't meet the right man, they will still live the life of the moment and continue to work hard to make themselves more refined and excellent.
For example, there was a colleague in the past, her name was Wang Ling, she was beautiful and petite, and we all called her Ling'er.
She's 33 and not yet married, not because there's no men chasing her, it's that she simply doesn't look up to those men.
She is a graduate student, has a decent job, and earns a monthly salary of about thirty thousand, so such a woman is naturally a delicate woman in the eyes of others.
Therefore, in the face of men's pursuit, she is not at all moved, and she has no heart to fall in love.
In her opinion, these men are lowly paid, their looks are average, their behavior is frivolous, and their character is not very good.
She is such a high-quality girl, if she will marry such a bad man, the future marriage may not be happy.
Colleagues around her also asked her: What kind of men are you looking for?
Ling Er said: The man's monthly salary is at least 30,000 yuan or more, and he must be active, responsible, and respect women.
However, there are almost no men around who can really meet her conditions, and even if there are, they have already married and had children.
Therefore, Ling Er has always insisted on being single, and she feels that she has not met the right man, so why should she get married? This is the psychology of single women, in general.
Second, when you are young, you are hurt by love, and it is difficult to trust men anymore
Rao Xueman said: "Love is right is love, and love wrong is youth." ”
Indeed, many girls yearn for love when they are young, and they long for romance in their hearts, so they can't help but be touched by men and easily start love.
However, when they give everything, they do not get the love and cherishing of men, so that they are scarred.
It is precisely because they have experienced painful love and been hurt by love that they have become more sober and have great disappointment and distrust of men.
In later life, they will not easily believe in men, and they will not easily enter love.
As time passes little by little, they get older and older, and although they long for a good love, they are also afraid of gain and loss.
In this way, they have been single for a long time, become more distrustful of men, and gradually get used to living their own lives.
There is a woman next to Miss Shen, she is 38 years old, single for 12 years, has talked about a boyfriend before, but the man's feelings are not single-minded, and finally broke up.
At that time, Miss Shen loved her boyfriend wholeheartedly and lived with him for less than a year. Originally, she thought her boyfriend would marry her, but he didn't love her at all.
During the cohabitation, Miss Shen soon discovered her boyfriend's abnormality, he often came home late, and sometimes did not return home all night.
When she paid attention to her boyfriend, she found that he was often ambiguous with other people of the opposite sex, and even had the scent of others on his clothes.
Miss Shen was instantly cold and felt that this relationship was really not worth it, so she proposed to break up and left with tears in her eyes.
Since then, she has been single, no longer trusting men, and will not rush to accept men's pursuits.
So, many women who have been single for a long time, often because they were hurt by love when they were young, lost trust in men, and their desire for marriage was so strong.
Third, look at marriage, not on men
There are also some single women who have experienced a single life and are open to marriage, and will not be a man.
Such a woman, not demanding love, not about marriage, when encountering the right to talk, can not meet is not reluctant, anyway, a person's life is also very good.
In addition to work, they have a very happy life, calm heart, optimistic and positive.
Therefore, they will not take the initiative to find a partner, nor will they participate in a blind date, even if they are urged to marry by the family, they will not compromise.
In their view, good love needs fate, and the kind of object that is united through blind dates has no feeling at all, and it is better not to.
They have a good mentality, they will not be wronged by the ridicule around them, they usually ignore others and live their lives with their hearts.
Therefore, women who can do this are often very strong in their hearts, and they follow their inner choices and live a particularly delicious life.
In the end, such women will not take marriage as a must in adult life, they look away, and will not lose the rest of their lives to an unworthy marriage.
Moreover, they feel that the happiness of marriage is more of a feeling of love, and if two people are not on the same channel, there is no common language at all.
Moreover, marrying a man who is not worthy of herself, and getting caught up in the family chores of washing, cooking, and having children for her, does not feel necessary.
Unless they actually meet a man who is passionate, they will choose to get married, and if not, they will not be a man.
This may be the psychology of many single women, who face marriage, pay attention to fate, and will not be forced.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
Zhou Guoping said: "If you want peace, you will get married; if you want to be free, you will be single." ”
Women who have been single for a long time, no matter how they choose, are their freedom, and I think people should look at them correctly as well.
A woman who has been single for a long time is not saying they can't get married, it is often these psychological reasons.
They are independent women who can't meet the right men; they are hurt by love when they are young, and it is difficult to trust men anymore; they look away from marriage and will not be men.
Finally, no matter how single women choose, I hope you can warmly embrace each other when you meet fate, and when fate does not come, you do not have to rush, but bloom your own wonderful alone.
As Anthony said, "True love needs to wait, and anyone can say they love you, but not everyone can wait for you." ”
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.