Everything in this world actually has a law, and if you look into the law, you can grasp it.
For example, there are tricks to running a marriage, your method is used correctly, and you can do very important things with a small amount of effort, but your method is used wrong, and it is often thankless.
It is said that since ancient times the true feelings can not be retained, only the routine wins the hearts of the people, here is not to let everyone have to go to the routine of others, but to let everyone learn to use some routines, which is also a communication skill.
For example, if you say something directly between husband and wife, it will definitely make the other party angry, you say it in a different way, and you can get things done.
But no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife, women should not easily do these three things for men, otherwise you will regret it for a lifetime.
The first thing, the in-laws' affairs, should not be taken too seriously
Some people say that the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, if you really believe this sentence, it can only show that this person is stupid, and the relationship with the mother-in-law is good, but the mother-in-law can never be regarded as a mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law can not treat you as a daughter, this is a fact.
Many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is very good, outsiders say that they are like mother and daughter, but in fact, they still have a number of hearts, what to do and what not to do, they are very clear, it is precisely because of clarity that they can maintain this mother-in-law relationship.
Some women can't tell the truth, really don't regard themselves as outsiders, the in-laws' things are harder than the in-laws' family, and the whole person rushes to the front.
If things are done beautifully and there is no big problem, they may evaluate you well, but some people will take the credit and say that you have taken advantage of them, and if something goes wrong, you are the biggest scapegoat.
And even if you do a good job, some people also like to talk behind your back, or say that you are too strong, if you can't do it, you will say that you are secretly mischief, if the in-laws are clear and good, you will suffer after not knowing things.
The second thing is not to take the initiative to take your parents' money to run the in-laws' affairs
Some women are really very stupid, and after getting married, they take money from their parents every day to paste money to their in-laws' families, thinking that their efforts can be exchanged for happiness.
It is okay to meet some people who know how to be grateful, but when you meet people who don't know how to be grateful, the other party will only feel that this is what you should do.
There is no one too much money, where you spend is not spent, there is really no need to take your parents' money, excessively subsidize your in-laws, the probability is thankless.
Of course, you can't be a dime, such as what big difficulties you encounter in life, this time you need parents on both sides to help.
If it is just some ordinary small things, the woman must not take the initiative to take her parents' money, even if the in-laws need to borrow money, they also need to let you do the quarrel.
If you take things over in a big package, people who know how to be grateful will be grateful to you, and people who don't know how to be grateful will feel that he is very capable, and he married a wife to post money to the family for free.
The third thing is not to be sloppy in the bride price and the three golds
Now the bride price has made many people panic, especially many people who make a lot of money by asking for the bride price, turning a blessed thing full of copper smell.
Many girls will immediately be said to be material by boys if they mention the bride price, and some boys will even say that if they love him, don't mention the bride price to him, the situation in his family is like that.
We do not advocate the sky-high bride price, but the bride price must not be absent, the girl must be clear about this point, do not marry each other because of a momentary confusion.
To some extent, the bride price represents the man's sincere attitude of asking for marriage, but also represents the man's attention to this marriage, and the girl must symbolically want a little, even if it is all returned afterwards.
I thought that the man's conditions were good, I thought I could not want money, or I thought that the two of you were okay with feelings, and it was too tacky to talk about money.
Before marriage, they dare not talk about money, and after marriage, they can't talk about money, saying that marriage without feelings is like a scattered sand, but many people don't know that there is no material basis for marriage, and even a scattered sand is not as good.
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between two people is, for a woman, don't take the affairs of the in-laws too seriously, and don't blindly rush to the front by yourself.
If you do a good job, you are likely to have no merit in the mother-in-law, and if you do not do a good job, the mother-in-law's various accusations are dropped, and there is a saying in Chinese that "do not seek merit but seek no fault", but many people do not understand the essence of it.
Sometimes people shut up when they should shut up, and pretend to be stupid when they should pretend to be stupid, this is the great wisdom of life, don't always do those laborious and unpleasant things.
There is also about money, before getting married, we must bravely talk about money, these several investigations of the man's attitude are also an examination of the man's material foundation, but you cannot ask for a sky-high bride price through marriage.
Normal love with the man, as long as the man has this sincerity to get married, he will definitely give you a bride price, if the other party has various excuses and excuses, then give up early.
Before marriage, I am embarrassed to talk about money, and after marriage, I will continue to contradict myself because of various money problems.