Nowadays, young people's minds are becoming more and more open, and there are many people in college who fall in love, but even so, there are still many young people who are "left".
The reason why it is "leftover": first, because I don't want to find it, I like free singleness; second, it is because I can't find the right one, some people know three points, but they want to find an eight-point, blindly eye high and low, so they are left unconsciously.
Young people are reluctant to marry, as peers, most people are understandable, but in the parents, for their children, at an old age, it seems to become a kind of filial piety. So, as long as you are old, they will try their best to arrange all kinds of blind dates for you, just to find a good family to marry you off, or to find a good wife for you.
Nowadays, blind dates have also become a way for many young people to enter the marriage hall, and it is also a popular trend, it is not good or bad in itself, but many people will take "colored glasses" to look at blind dates, feeling that all men and women who are blind dates have more or less problems, and even as long as they are blind dates, they feel that each other is strange.
But in fact, blind date is originally a way to see the character and test the character, although it has a lot of strange things, the blind date is bound to encounter different strange objects. If, if two people are voluntary, even if the other person has a problem, it is a matter of personal fate. Blind date, not only test the character, but also some things pay attention to fairness, blind date has no gender advantage, this point, every blind date should know.
Shang Wen is 32 years old this year, a typical anxious type of elderly leftover woman, although she is very capable in the company, her career is thriving, but her personal emotional problems are a mess, as long as her parents urge marriage, she will become irritable and anxious, and her original form will be exposed.
Shang Wen is not not looking for an object, but Shang Wen's personal conditions are not bad, graduate school graduates, always want to find a better condition than their own, but the conditions are really good and can't look at her, so unconsciously Shang Wen was left behind. Her parents knew this and had always complained that Shang Wen's vision was too high, but Shang Wen felt that this was after all a matter of his life, how could he be able to do it?
At the beginning, the parents knew the temper of their daughter, and they would also find a blind date for her according to Shang Wen's standards, and Shang Wen also had two successful blind dates, but in the later stage of getting along with the man, because of the temper and the three views, the two people finally parted ways.
As she grew older, Shang Wen became more and more critical, and her parents became more and more worried, and for Shang Wen, she broke her heart, and finally found a man with medium conditions and a better temperament.
Sun Hao is Shang Wen's parents selected by thousands of choices, Sun Hao is a neighbor Aunt Zhang to help introduce, although the education is not as high as Shang Wen, but now, the salary is considerable, there is a car and a house, the age is also matched with Shang Wen, even if the conditions are relatively good, Shang Wen's parents are also Monk Wen said for a long time, Shang Wen looked at his photos and information, after careful consideration for a long time, before agreeing to meet.
Because the first meeting should be decent, in order to respect Shang Wen, Sun Hao made an appointment for the two people to eat at the Western restaurant, Shang Wen was more beautiful than in the photo, Sun Hao was a glance at her, but Shang Wen has always been tepid with him.
When ordering food, Sun Hao was also very cautious, first gave the menu to Shang Wen, and Shang Wen unceremoniously ordered a table of dishes after reading the menu. Because Sun Hao really couldn't imagine that such a thin girl had such a big appetite, he kindly reminded: "This Western restaurant, I have done raiders before, their family has a lot of things, you order so much may not be able to eat." The two of us have ordered too much, in fact, it is quite wasteful. ”
When Shang Wen heard this sentence, she immediately turned cold: "I am not willing to spend money, how can I come out on a blind date?" I'll order a dish, and if I marry you in the future, will I even have to look at the price when I go to a small restaurant to eat? ”
"No, I'm really afraid that I won't be able to eat all, won't I waste it all?"
"I want to try it, can't I?" Looking at Shang Wen's tough attitude, Sun Hao took her as a test of herself and went with her, and later, when the two people chatted about the day, Sun Hao found that Shang Wen spoke very sharply, even very hard to hear. Although his education is not as high as Shang Wen's, but how to say that he is also a famous brand undergraduate, but Shang Wen said that it is worthless, as soon as he saw Shang Wen's attitude, Sun Hao also lost interest.
Seeing that Sun Hao also had no patience, the more the two people chatted more and more unable to talk, Shang Wen was angry again, saying that he had no patience, delaying his own time, when it was almost over, the waiter brought the bill, Sun Hao looked at it, a total of 2,000 yuan, so he paid hard.
Before the two of them went out, Shang Wen and Sun Hao said, "I don't think we are very suitable, or don't meet, you are not my favorite type." ”
After saying that, Shang Wen went outside, at that time Sun Hao felt that he was quite a loss, looking at Shang Wen's attitude today, it was completely "prepared", so he said to her: "Then tonight's dinner money, let's still share it equally." ”
When Shang Wen heard this, she sneered, somewhat unclear, so: "What? Didn't I just refuse you, and I wouldn't even invite me to eat, and you couldn't afford to take 2,000 yuan? So poor, what kind of relatives do you still come out to kiss? ”
Shang Wen spoke particularly hard, and Sun Hao, who originally thought that Shang Wen was coming to eat the Overlord meal, was even more angry and responded directly to her: "Yes, you rejected me, you shouldn't let me pay." ”
Seeing more and more people in the store come out, Shang Wen did not want to lose people, Sun Hao was there to block her way, insisting, so Shang Wen had to weChat transfer 1000 yuan, Sun Hao also wanted to say thank you, it turned out that she directly blacked Sun Hao.
Now there is a strange phenomenon, that is, in the process of blind date, no matter whether the blind date can be successful, whether the two people have the opportunity to continue to develop, as if the boy's invitation has become a matter of course, and has become the mainstream.
It seems that at present, no one has ever considered the man, if the blind date can be successful, the man invited the girl because of a meal, got the happiness of life, naturally he is also willing, but if the first time he meets himself is rejected, blind date once, only consume once, it seems that this money can not be counted, but the number of times, all consumption is borne by the boy, is it some wrong?
Moreover, in many blind dates now, whether it is the man taking the initiative to invite guests, or the girl choosing her own restaurant, it seems that the choice is a place with high consumption. Every girl instinctively thinks that the man's consumption level represents the material level, if a man can't even afford to eat, it is difficult to ensure a happy life together in the future, so a blind date dinner will require the man to be almost half a month's salary, the man feels that it is not worth it, but the woman does not care.
Although Sanmao said: "Love, if it is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping, it is not easy to last forever." ”
However, blind date eating really does not represent anything, the important thing is to look at the character, if it is really because of an expensive meal to eat feelings, most of them are also running to the material, such feelings are not pure, in the end, it may not be long-lasting. Besides, the two people were originally going to have a meal to get to know each other, and then whether they could fall in love had to be contacted again to know.
Therefore, blind dates not only need interesting souls, but also emotional intelligence online, straight men are indeed not very popular with girls, they should speak implicitly, but women should also stand in each other's perspective, understand the psychology of men, it is easy to negotiate. In my opinion, blind dates are supposed to be fair, although boys are gentlemen and can be entertained, but they really meet some strange girls who will not respect others, and boys do not have to pay.
As Kanto Nokori said, "Waiting is the most test of true love, and waiting" is waiting for the right person to come, although the distance is far and lonely." ”
Single is not lonely, do not choose because of age, two people suitable to run into the possibility of the future, if not suitable, timely loss stop, do not waste each other's time.
Blind date this file, no one should take advantage of anyone, more or less pay attention, if you really don't look at it, sometimes don't use gender advantages, too much.